In my smelly-hippy, tree-hugging, biologically altruistic way, I really want to help you...

I don't know how, though.

It seems you have a deflective remark and comment about your husband's behavior for every piece of advice you get.


I get it. H is being a jerk. You don't really like the guy.

I can't do ANYTHING about that. He ain't here. Nobody here can do a thing about his actions. All we can do is read your reactions, and try to help you shore up your end.

Don't know why, but stumbled on this and thought of you and your H;

"An expert is a person who has made all the mistakes that can be made in a very narrow field." - Niels Bohr

"Smart people believe weird things because they are skilled at defending beliefs they arrived at for non-smart reasons." - Michael Shermer

"Fair speech may hide a foul heart." - Samwise Gamgee LOTR