Originally Posted by CWMI
YOU could start by being honest with me instead of trying to bait me into your creations of chaos where you think I would win?

That would be helpful.

Since I suck at being gentle;

Originally Posted by Vibrissa
Him threatening punishment doesn't mean you are incapable of it as well.

I figured you griped about the situation to someone and the grapevine did it's work.

The more and more I think about it Plan B is in order for you CWMI. I don't think you are capable (not from lack of ability, but from just trying for so long) of reigning in your Taker anymore.

Your Love Bank is deeply in the red.

Could you have done better? Probably.

Is there stuff on your side of the street you need to work on? I think so and I think you would agree with me.

You commit LBs, you could probably do better at meeting ENs. You're not getting a free pass on that, but I think it likely that you have done all you can do and suffered all you can suffer.

But you don't have to be PERFECT in order to be loved, you have to be trying. I don't think you can try anymore. I think you're tapped out.

Do you think it POSSIBLE you could muster up the energy for one last go - round? To take your family on this trip that has landed in your lap and try to make the best of it. Try to be loving and pleasant. Drop the attitude and eliminate the DJs for a couple of days? One last try to reconnect with your husband. Give him one last chance to meet your needs?

Maybe the boat is a go here?

I don't know.

I suspect I'm on your @#!+ list and you don't want to hear my opinion anyway.

I really do hope it turns around, but I don't think I can help - and be honest doing so - without creating a firestorm.

Good luck.

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