cwmi here's where I come in and ask you what helps you to reset? Your H is fallible, we all are. These are folks who are trained in how to con men like your H. I can imagine how accepted it would make him feel if you were his champion here instead of judging him. I made a similar mistake a few years back, I probably posted about it. If I remember right we had something electrical that wasn't working, I got an electrician out to fix it, and he charged a ridiculous amount. I should have asked him how much it would cost before he came out, because I would have not had him out, it was a big amount, like $350. Or failing to ask before he came out, I should have asked before he started the work, and told him to leave if he gave me that price. When I saw the ridiculous amount, I tried to call B before I paid it, but he was at work, and I didn't know what to do, I wanted this man out of my house. So I paid him. I knew B would call and get it reversed later. Which he did, and that part I appreciated. He blew up at me so bad, and lost respect for me, which I imagine you lost respect for your H too. Maybe I'm wrong. That part made me sick to my stomach for days.

You could let him clean up his own mess, but he hasn't shown he's trustworthy to do that yet, I understand. I hope you two eventually resolve this in a way that it brings you closer together.