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Hi, Gimble.

I really wouldn't be surprised if he is a little nervous about having her all to himself. She can be...prickly...and he is used to having both kids together, entertaining each other.

I see a few possible scenarios, and hey, I truly have nothing better to do right now, so here we go:

1) She might end up totally ignoring him and just watching T.V. She is good at that, and he won't stop her.

2) She might tell him, "Get away from me, you freak!" That's what she tells her brother sometimes when he is bothering her.

3) She might become queenly and order him around, getting her snacks and whatever she desires, staying up until midnight and whining about not wanting to sleep in her room - after the shopping trip, of course.

4) She is not one for sugar-coating. If WH asks her something, she will either ignore him or tell him what she really thinks. He knows this and most likely won't ask her anything. (Thankfully, she doesn't treat most people this way!).

I asked her what she thought she'd have for dinner with her dad tonight. She gave me a cute sideways look with one eyebrow up and said slyly, "Probably whatever I want." We both laughed. She sure has WH figured out.

If he lives. Mwahaahaahaa!

Hey, you're kind of a troublemaker, aren't you, KA1. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Come back anytime. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hi Pebbles,

I think you did great with the gift and the card selection. Your daughter did awesome with the card! LOL

If WH says anything about the gift (it will probably be derogatory) just say that you wanted him to have something for Father's Day--don't say anything about the kids' involvement or lack thereof. If he presses, just say again that you wanted him to have something for Father's Day and leave it at that.

You're doing good Pebbles <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Had the beer or two, now I need to find that ice! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

No, I wasn't on Cops! That was my wife! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

No. That's my WW again. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Ding Ding Ding Ding. You are correct!

Pebbles. It's time for WH to suck it up .... and get some balls. What DID I SAY? You CANNOT help him. He has to climb out of this hole himself.

DUH! It's just too damn bad for WH. There are consequences to actions. This is a consequence to abandoning your family for a skagasaurus. I asked S18 if he still had lost respect for me. He said, I've lost respect for mom too and suggested I had earned some back. This may sound mean, but there are consequences to actions. You can't protect the WS. You haven't been saying nasty things to ehm. He did it on his own.

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Hi, Sleepless.

One of the things about this whole mess that has most disappointed me is the cowardice my WH has shown. I never thought of him as being cowardly before. He was too chicken to tell me he was unhappy, too chicken to tell me about the affair, too chicken to discuss anything important, and too chicken to face me during much of the separation. I am really not all that scary, am I? I'm all of 5 feet 5 inches, size 2/3 - what am I going to do to him?

Hey, did you just 'duh' me?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I'd give you 10 minutes of recess detention for that if you were in my class. Just kidding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

But you see, according to WH, he is the victim! He can't help it that he met someone so much better than me and 'fell in love.' Why should he have to give up everything? He only wants to be happy, poor guy. I'm the big meanie trying to make his life miserable and spoil all his fun. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I suppose we should feel fortunate he doesn't find his "happiness" in serial killing or pedophilia! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Ya'll have repressive practices like "detention" in California?? We would have never imagined! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Pebbles.

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One of the things about this whole mess that has most disappointed me is the cowardice my WH has shown. I never thought of him as being cowardly before. He was too chicken to tell me he was unhappy, too chicken to tell me about the affair, too chicken to discuss anything important, and too chicken to face me during much of the separation. I am really not all that scary, am I? I'm all of 5 feet 5 inches, size 2/3 - what am I going to do to him?
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Your husband is a conflict avoider. His handling of the divorce is action (or the lack thereof) in evidence also.

One of the very first things that both of you will have to deal with in recovery is the way you handle conflict in your relationship. Won't that be fun.

Be good,
Gimble

Damn girl! Someone needs to start feeding you before you blow away in the wind!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Recess detention?? YIKES! I meant to say Da Da Da Da... Like a dramatick entrance.


Mule Cookies!!



Yeah right! Get me a hanky. Like I said, he needs to figure it out on his own. It can't last forever. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hi Pebbles,

You're doing great!

I think that sending a little something with your DD for dad's day was the better way to go, though I agree with the logic that supports each POV.

Can't wait for an update on DD's overnight alone with WH...

Cat

Hi, Gimble.

Well, if we ever have the experience of being in recovery, conflict avoidance (on both our parts) would be among the first things on the agenda. Yes, that would be...fun?

Well, seeing as I'm all alone here for the night, except for the dogs, I don't think I can cause too much trouble. The dogs are bad influences, though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hi, MelodyLane.

Some things need to be repressed, even in the land of fruits and nuts, LOL. Although, we actually had one boy at our school (not in my class) who threw a brick at another child. The brick-thrower's mother explained his actions by saying, "Well, there really isn't enough for them to do at recess. He was bored." And we wonder why some people don't take responsibility for their actions. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Sleepless.

I may be little, but I'm tough! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I can lift a 50-pound bag of dog food and carry it to my car all by myself, I'll have you know.

Uh huh, a likely story. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Don't worry, it's summer vacation - I'm off duty.

God willing!

Thanks, Cat. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hee, hee, me too! I'll bet he's tired today.

Maybe your DD will make this a Father's Day that Bam-Bam will never forget! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Nah...just put him in the corner with the dunce cap on his head....that would entertain me for a bit....but just a bit <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Surviving.

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