It's been quite a while since I've been on these boards.

Wasn't even sure if I remebered my password.

For those who remember me...
...just a short update...
...and I'll check back on the weekend.

My ex-wife (left me and (3)kids August 1999... divorced March 2001) to live with boyfriend out of state...
...and then, this Sept/Oct they broke up.

He(boyfriend) was seeing another woman (don't know for how long)... then ex's boyfriend had a falling out with this new woman... but won't get back together with my ex.

Talk about the 7 year itch. (~7 years since ex's first contact with boyfriend)

I have no plans to take her back...
She still says bad things about me...
...those who know me... might remember the silly grounds for divorce.

Love to all.

NSR(New Sun Rising) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

Hi NSR, I remember ya! Good to see you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Whoa...

Jim? Is that really you?

Whoa...

In 99 I posted under the name deut. I was the FWH of Soulloss.

Whoa...

Soooooo.... howya been?

John

ps: I'm glad ya posted. I have thought about you a few times over the past couple of years. Your dedication, patience and sheer sticktuitiveness have been an inspiration... even years after we last 'knew' each other. Funny how that works, eh? Anyway, I'm happy that I had a chance to tell you that.

I remember you! Good to see you!

Susan <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

oh my goodness, Jim.....

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we were JUST talking about you on a thread of us 'old-old-timers' over in emotional needs a few weeks ago.....Lostva, new_beginning, K, JL....we were wondering about you!!!


it is soooo very good to 'see' you....


the 7 year 'twitch' indeed.....


there are quite a few of us still around...ChrisCA123 is still here and dispensing pearls of wisdom as are JL and K, from time to time....


you were/are a stalwart, patient, tenacious and awe-inspiring man....

it is so nice to hear from you...

how did things go with your step-son...I remmeber there being 'issues', but that he still chose to remain with you...


take care Jim, looking forward to hearing more from you...


Dylan

Jim,

Of course I remember you!! How great to log on and see a post by you!

Well, tell us-----what's new with YOU?? What have you been up to?

You are still missed around here!

Oh... its been so long!

I'll draft a mini auto-biography and post it on the weekend.
Bring you all up-to-date.

The stepson... the kids... the ex-W...
...life in general.

Its been very good.

NSR/Jim

Jim ~ HI <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

I actually looked you up on the boards a few weeks ago wondering what happened to you!

Glad you showed up!

Jim,

Wow, talk about a blast from the past. Missed you dearly. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Of course we remember you. U & JL were the constant stabilizers who IMHO, my H s/b glad you and the rest of the MB gang kept me from Dv'ing his WS [censored]. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Anxious to hear an update. Howz the kids?

Funny, I was thinkin' 'bout u a few weeks ago also. Somehow the pix in my mind was you stopped posting here because moved on and even had a nice house by a lake. Any truth to that fantasy? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

Hello, I sure do remember you! You were so helpful to everyone here. How is your stepson doing? How about your kids? Are they with you, or with ex-wife? Please, more news!

Oh my! Do I ever, although I had a different screen name way back then. You were one of the first voices of reason that I encountered after d-day and continued to be a source of advice and support through my ups and down. Nice to see you again and hear that the sun really has come up on you.

The sage returns.
Actually, I thought you were a Mod now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

SS

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> good one!

don't forget !

Hey Jim,

I caught you over on EN, but I'll say "hi" here too! Can't wait to see your catch-up post...

*waving* Hi Jim,

Wow. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I've thought of you often over the years...

Always with warmth and fondness...

You are a man of grace!

Glad you're back...!

MelodyLane,
deut,
Susan,
soulloss,
Nerlycrzy,
BrambleRose (thank you for your special help),
Orchid (a real blast),
Bellevue,
dancingrosey,
still seeking,
Pepperband,
K (oh guru),
new__beginning (new_beginning),
justpeachy,
kam6318(I remember...),

It is so good to see all you wonderful people.
Thank God for MB... Steve, your great!


Mini-biography (or not so maxi):

Knew wife for a few years in her/my early teens
Refound each other during the divorce she was going through with her 1st husband
After her annulment...
We married 6/4/88
she brought her son into marriage
We had 2 children together
-boy... now 16 1/2
-girl... now 13 2/3
After 10th anniverary (2nd honeymoon to exotic island)...
within 3 months W gets on on-line chat room...
seduces/seduced by married OM...
'soulmate' fantasy developes
W asks for separation on Easter night 1999
3 days later, D-day & then she takes a weekend vacation with OM
3 days later asks for a divorce
turbulant 4 months during which I try a poor man's Plan A
she leaves to live with OM, out of state (~80 miles away)
I get to have the 3 kids, including stepson!
I try do a better Plan A... after joining MB... but it's way too late.
DV-day 3/19/01 (St. Joseph be my guide)
Within a year, she & OM move semi-full time to nudist camp
(no offense to the natualists out there)
I go through legal battles to keep kids out of camp...
battle was extended to state appelate level...
but ended successfully!

Since then...
In the last 2 months found out there has been trouble between ex-W and OM
(not sure OM is appropriate term for them living together 6+ years)
She had many finanicial problems (pulling big $ out of split our 401K)
She got hit with a DUI
She lost her mother back in June of this year
(a great lady... my mother-in-law)

On Thursday I found out she is now dating someone new [a new OM](?if that makes sense)...
for the first time.
I'm not clear on all the details...
but they (original OM & ex-W) are not living together anymore.
I believe the original OM was recently cheating on ex-W with another woman.
I'm not sure where ex-W is staying most of the time (camp or old appartment)?
I'm not even sure where she's taking the kids (for overnights)...
though legally it can't be the camp.
I will call the kids this Saturday to find out where they are...
I have a right to know!

...that's it. (yeah... sure... mini-bio???)

Ok... so why am I back?...

...not completely sure...
...but I do plan on posting more often, and with more content.

Topics to come...
...the kids... stepson... son... daughter...
much 'parenting' challenges as they get older...
and this new wrinkle with their mom dating again keeps me on my toes
...my life... it's been good!
'faith'-finding/building/understanding/growing
stability in employment
stability in health
...my thoughts
'forgiveness'... and the limits of "human forgiveness"
'remarriage'... options (or not)
'taking back a former WS'... this will be some topic (or not)!

I'll keep you all posted if there is any interest...
...if you have specific questions... reply at any time.
...my e-mail is available to anyone imherczeg@excite.com

Love...
candles...
pepsi... coke... (whatever)
cards...
bacon & PT... and
of course PUSH!

Jim/NSR <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

PS: heretofore I'll post in 'After Divorce: Dating and Relationships' when appropriate.

wanna sell the movie rights?

Jim ~ I am so relieved you were able to protect your children.

I hope you will pop on over here sometimes....I think there are alot of people struggling who could use your experience, strength and hope.

Thank you for posting an update, it's really good to see you again!