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Sheesh, Believer's going into the fortune teller business. How did I KNOW that he would want to talk some more tonight?

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He's bluffing.

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He's F.O.S.

Scare tactics. Typical.

Trust me. I know someone who got their entire acct hijacked by the OW and the police were unwilling to touch it. He's making it up.

It's all about pulling the strings on the puppet. Cut the strings and there's no way to control.


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He is probably bluffing and wanting you to admit to hacking into it. You are right, if the PI did it then it wasn't from your IP.


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you think?? how should i respong to his email about talking tonight??


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Believer -

Read my fortune. Please.

Fluke.


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This is one case when a chat room would be a good thing. It sure would make strategizing easier.

So, Oh Wise One, what should she do? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Grab your crystal ball. . .

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I didn't do it, I hired a private Detective to get it...

Why would my IP address be on it...

NOW WHAT???

HE IS BLUFFING!


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how should i respong to his email about talking tonight

You don't have to respond at all. That's the beauty of NOT being controlled by another person.


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I didn't do it, I hired a private Detective to get it...

Wait a minute...when did you do THIS?

Huh? I'm a little confused here.


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I did it back in October or early November...

Why??


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And... A chat room would be perfect. we should start one on Yahoo or msn or something... It would make it go a bit faster...


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I think that he is scared. How come he just found out today her account had been accessed?

He is grasping at straws to find out how you knew the OWH's cell number.

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I think that is not something that is readily acceptable as too many inappropriate relationships start in chat rooms. I was just talking where I shouldn't. sorry about that.

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YIKES! I can hardly keep up with THIS thread.

Okay, your husband needs to talk to you. Not about the OW's account. He needs to know how much you know, how much OW's husband knows, etc. They are always extremely interested in how things went down.

YOU are in control now.

If you are feeling calm, invite him over. If you feel like more lies and denial will cause you to LB, then let him know that this has all been very upsetting to you, and you will talk to him later.

There is no hurry now. You might feel like you need to DO more, but you've set the ball in motion. There are things going on behind the scene that you know NOTHING about. The picture will become much clearer in the next couple of days.

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Alison, if he comes over tonight it will be real important to not reveal that you hired a P.I. I would also tell him that the OWH has evidence of the affair that you will be getting so there is no reason to continue to deny it.

Don't tell him anything else and don't let him manipulate you. Tell him you will not discuss divorce but will only discuss reconciliation. Try to sound like a broken record.


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He found out about the PI getting her cell phone because I left some info on my computer. He confronted me about it and I didn't lie. So he has known about it for a while...

He just emailed me this, " don't have a need to contact anyone... I'm telling you this for your own benefit.
It doesn't affect me at all." -- that was in regards to telling him he should speak to my lawyer about that..


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I am way to scared of what he will say to mo tonight. Let's see if he comes up with another excuse to talk to me tonight... Maybe I will let him, maybe I won't. I am a bit overwhelmed to some serious LB's may come out... I have not mentiond D once, he has mentioned it several times.. I think maybe I may just have to do a 180..

What do you think??


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tell him thanks for the concern, I knew your love for me wasn't dead.

That would be my first response,but you better let Believer or Mel approve it. I am pretty new to this stuff.

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