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YEAH that be cool and no one ever said you where a scientist.
i just don't understand why today i wanna talk to her so bad im like dying to call her and i have no reason i dont understand it i was doing so good last night and this morning now all of a sudden here i am in the rut.
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does anyone know what the statistics on affairs is and what it is for men vs women?
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""Wookie"".....whos that??? Wookie is my dh (used to be wh, but even the f in fwh is offensive now....now he's just a dear). Sorry for the TJ Saenz....BTW one of my best girlfriend's last name is Saenz. I think of her every time I see your screen name. - Kimmy
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ok, shes playing mind games or what she made it a point to make shure that gave her a kiss yesterday while she was droping off the kids, and she seeme to give me a heart felt sorry and i just dont get it and yet she still wants to leave i told her later that i didn't like these head games.
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ok, shes playing mind games or what she made it a point to make shure that gave her a kiss yesterday while she was droping off the kids, and she seeme to give me a heart felt sorry and i just dont get it and yet she still wants to leave i told her later that i didn't like these head games. When the Wookie was a wayward, he still loved me and wanted to be with me....he just didn't feel like he'd ever be worthy again. Perhaps your wayward is feeling the same? The only thing about that is that it's really hard to reassure them that they can be worthy again. See, they've built up lies, so they think EVERYONE lies...comprende? They color everyone else with the same crayon they used on themselves and cannot see that not everyone is the same as them (it's part of the fog). Consistancy on your part is the key. Being strong, being consistant about your own convictions and it does penetrate their fog. - Kimmy
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que bueno compa!! like the words of the great KANSAS song..."carry-on my wayward son"... YOU dont change a thing your doin....just roll with whatever she does and keep DOIN whatever your doin, cuz whatever your doin is doin it job and your DOIN fine!!!! (you get the point) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> take the kiss...take whatever, but keep it in perspective...it sounds like you AINT the only one on the famous "rollercoaster".. L8R!!!
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"Its better to die standing, than live a lifetime on your knees" (Pancho Villa)
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after talking to my sister today it sounds like she may be having 2nd thoughts. time to see what my heart really wants and to ****** w/ everything else.
flip flop flip flop flop flop flop.
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The only thing about that is that it's really hard to reassure them that they can be worthy again. See, they've built up lies, so they think EVERYONE lies...comprende? They color everyone else with the same crayon they used on themselves and cannot see that not everyone is the same as them (it's part of the fog). This is exactly the kind of stuff my WW has been saying. I'm glad I looked at this thread. This paragraph just raised my happiness bar a notch. Thanks!
~~One day at a time is all we're given. Just deal with today and let God have tomorrow.~~
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hey no problem thats what we're here for. to help one another threw these tuff and crazy times.
i think my W is worried that i would slip into the same fog i was in the past year or two, but i didn't know i was i n a fog till she told me.
also doesn't she see she is in the same fog and how do i know that she would never stray again?
we just believe one another and just help each other threw this and the rest of the future fogs but who knows. ho wshe really feels.
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also doesn't she see she is in the same fog and how do i know that she would never stray again? If it's any consolation, they all say that. If I had a dime every time the Wookie said it, I'd own a house in the Dominion (fancy schmantzy subdivision here - all the basketball players live there). - Kimmy
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Kimmy, Me thinks I know where you are. I lived there for 9 years. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Let's see, city ranked in the top 10 in the nation population wise? Major tourist attraction downtown with boats?
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'Sokay, Drex....most people know I live where Jim Bowie made his last stand....only not THERE per se...cos that place is HAUNTED (LOL)! But thereabouts.
Sorry for the TJ again Saenz....must be your name.
Oh....and I hope I didn't offend...you were just going flipflopflipflop and I HAD to say, NOT FLIPFLOPS...CHANKLAS!
edited to correct JIM BOWIE....duh....only have lived in Texas since DIRT was invented....
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ok date line update had talk w/ wife shesaid she still confused about what to do earlier today so i told her that i was tired of all this back and forth stuff that we where going threw. that was about 6 pm here so i moved her dresser out of my bed room to put the treadmill in the there
lookes nice.
well just about 9:15 she calls me to see if i want to go to dinner w/ her just us who would of thought huh she wants to see if she still "in love w/ me" so i have achance to do somthing great or move on i told her yes but now i've got alot of pressure on me so.
where do i take her for dinner and what should i do since shes trying to figure out if shes "in love or not". help
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Where did you go on your first date?
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I'm all over it, too....
What's the scoop Saenz?
Thinking of you and praying for you!
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Yeah i was thinking of taking her to the same place as our 1st date but kinda want to take her somewhere better. who knows what i'll do.
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Hey saenz, You W is still in the fog. After reading so much on this forum I have come to the realization that almost all WS's say they don't know if they are "in love" with the BS. That statement right there means she is still in the fog. I hope you can get her out of it b/c it is useless working on the M while she's still there. I hope dinner goes well. Don't try too hard. Just be yourself. Don't pretend to be someone you're not and if you're anything like me, watch the LBs!! I think you and I have that personality trait in common <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />. Give us the update and best of luck. Most importantly, ENJOY YOURSELF!! --CO
BS (me) 30
Ex-FWH (iamsosorry) 32
Married 1997
DD, 10; DD, 6
A - PA 10/8/05 - 11/23/05?? - will never know the whole truth!!
ILYBNILWY speech - 11/10/05 - the day before my Birthday.....Happy Birthday to me!
D-Day - 11/23/05 - Happy Thanksgiving to me!
D-Day 2 - 4/10/06 - Happy Easter to me! (First time I found out it wasn't a ONS as he's been telling us all)
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