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lunamare #1689218 09/11/06 01:25 PM
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Todd- I will be thinking about you. Sorry you are feeling strange. Hope everything checks out okay.

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“But remember I am an engineer. We fix problems and, when we can't, we are a failure.’

Lol. Me too, but I blame it on management.

Since I am a very, very good engineer, if I can’t fix it, it couldn’t be fixed and it’s management that got it that fubar.


Which is why I took half of the management of our M away from FWW...



"Never forget that your pain means nothing to a WS." ~Mulan

"An ethical man knows it is wrong to cheat on his wife. A moral man will not actually do it." ~ Ducky

WS: They are who they are.

When an eel lunges out
And it bites off your snout
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Todd,

I hope the tingling is nothing serious. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that you're fine.

ToddAC #1689221 09/11/06 01:55 PM
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Yes Tod, Im fine... Im still facing tyroid troubles but Im fine.. I just was answering a pio's question...

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I hope the tingling is nothing serious. I'll be thinking of you and hoping that you're fine.


....I think this goes for many of us here...

....You are in our prayers, Todd!


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PLAN D: finalized!
xxxxx #1689223 09/11/06 02:04 PM
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First of all I hope you have had a great Birthday, mine was so so.. as I was expecting some entusiasm from my H but I read that you wasnt expecting anything from G....right?
I wish I could stay in same stage as you.. no expecting anything, Im a stuborn person...
Well anyway I hope this new year of your life would be better than last one...
2006 for me was the worst year in my life... Im collecting what I seed (sembré?).. "cosechando lo que sembré"
About you DD's I have the suspecious that one of them is more like you, and the other more like G right? or maybe all the fights are just kids stuffs... I have just one sister 4 years older than me,, and we fight for almost everything when we were kids... I more like my father caracter and my sister is more like momm..

lunamare #1689224 09/11/06 03:55 PM
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Todd, I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you'll be back posting very soon.

KiwiJ #1689225 09/11/06 05:45 PM
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Thinking of you Todd. Hope you're OK mate.


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A lot of hearts waiting to hear you're well Todd.


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luna- yes! Exactly right! Ex was buying time to say he tried & to legitimize the affair. Can't say it was a complete waste. I got a clearer picture of him & that helped me to see I wouldn't want him back even if he wanted it.

I've done a lot of self examination & understand clearly how my behavior contributed to a marriage with problems. I will not make those mistakes again.

Why would I when there are so many new ones I can make?


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"cosechando lo que sembré" = you reap what you sow


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I didn't feel well last night, just "out of sorts". Earlier today, a numbness and tingling started in my head.


Well ToddAC, don't assume the worst. If I had downed a bottle of Maker's Mark, I would feel that way too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Seriously, take care dude. Hope you are back soon.

Aphelion,
Help me out. How does the story go about the guy who gets lost in the hot air balloon and stops to ask for directions? Okay, never mind. I googled it:

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The Engineer and the Manager:

A man is flying in a hot air balloon and realizes he is lost. He reduces height and spots a man down below. He lowers the balloon further and shouts: "Excuse me, can you help me? I promised my friend I would meet him half an hour ago, but I don't know where I am."

The man below says: "Yes. You are in a hot air balloon, hovering approximately 30 feet above this field. You are between 40 and 42 degrees N. latitude, and between 58 and 60 degrees W. longitude."

"You must be an engineer," says the balloonist.

"I am," replies the man. "How did you know."

"Well," says the balloonist, "everything you have told me is technically correct, but I have no idea what to make of your information, and the fact is I am still lost."

The man below says "You must be a manager."

"I am," replies the balloonist, "but how did you know?"

"Well," says the man, "you don't know where you are, or where you are going. You got where you are on nothing more than a lot of hot air. You have made a promise which you have no idea how to keep, and you expect me to solve your problem. The fact is you are in the exact same position you were in before we met, but now it is somehow my fault."

2much,

I am glad the morning worked out for you. The only thing I can tell you is that it is mission critical to be absolutely consistent. Just try to remember that, no matter how much it hurts inside, your kindness is the worst possible punishment you could inflict on him. Your anger actually makes him feel better. You don't want that do you?

piojitos #1689229 09/11/06 07:45 PM
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Thank you everyone for your well wishes. We got back a couple of hours ago and I immediately crashed. What is it about hospitals that makes you sick and tired?

I had both an MRI and a CT scan. I also gave up approximately three liters of blood. No bleeding and no "unusual" swelling. I guess I have "normal" swelling. The pain and numbness was traced to a scalp infection that resulted from burns to my scalp from the radiation beams. It is a laugh a minute sometimes, lol.

I was scheduled to get my first followup MRI tomorrow so today's MRI substituted for it. Unfortunately, there was no change in the tumor size. I was extremely disappointed but the docs told me not to make too much of the initial scan that it often takes more time to record improvements. Okay, but I am still disappointed.

ToddAC #1689230 09/11/06 07:50 PM
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I dunno what to say Todd but I am thinking about you. (((Todd)))


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bigkahuna #1689231 09/11/06 08:27 PM
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Good to hear it was only your scalp.

How is your son doing? Did you hear from your wife?

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Unfortunately, one of DS1's best friends died of a massive brain tumor several years ago. Great kid. I know it is hard on him right now. I just got off the phone with DS3 who is really upset. I think we all had high expectations. Maybe too high expectaitons, I don't know.

And yes WW called in the iterim. She asked what happened. I told her and she said "wow". Wow? That's all you can mutter? You know, it really ocurred to me tonight that her problem is she is really scared and doesn't know how to articulate it.

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her problem is she is really scared and doesn't know how to articulate it


I dunno. "Wow" was pretty good. I understood it anyway.

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At least her first words weren't "how much did they bill our insurance?". That's something.

piojitos #1689235 09/11/06 08:57 PM
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Yeah, at least. How do yhou see wow as good?

ToddAC #1689236 09/11/06 09:06 PM
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It's acknowledgement. It is a crack in the door. I think you view it too negatively given the source. I think you are both a bit scared and very sensitive. But you know me - always looking for that four leaf clover.

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Hey that just reminded me of a song that I plan to teach the DDs and any of you with small children may benefit. It goes to the tune of "I'm looking over a four leaf clover".

I'm looking over my dead dog Rover
who I hit with the power mower.
One leg is missing, another is gone.
A third leg is spread out all over the lawn.
No need explaining the leg remaining
is hanging from the kitchen door.
I'm looking over my dead dog Rover
who I hit with the power mower.

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