Luna will definitely blink first.

Very droll. You do know what I mean. You're being obtuse.

Maybe obtusity is the crux of my problem. I honestly don't know what to do. I think I have been trying to follow your advice and follow MB guidelines and give myself time to reconnect. All I know is I am extremely unhappy and I have no clue what to do about it.

Why don't you trust her Pio? (not a trick question) Is she exhibiting trustworthy behaviour? Is she trying to earn your trust?

What can you do about the communication problems?you are the leader of your family Pio. Lead her.

Honesty

Openness

How can you enhance these

Are you meeting each others needs

Are you spending the 15 hours to reconnect

Are you even willing to reconnect with her?

Will Gemela come and post herself on MB?

Hi Everyone,

Luna,

Great to see you back. Yes, GERBILS had me puzzled for awhile too but then my old medical training came to my aid and I remembered it stands for Grand Enormous Right Brain Intelligence Level Situ. Guess Cinderalla has medical training too. The good news is that Pio will be okay. Just needs to stimulate the left side of his brain a little more.

BigK,

Hope you have been out there rescuing a koala. May not be cute and cuddly like they look but they are gorgeous. Sounds like you are having an early fire season but I hear the country is parched. As I write a fire is raging near my girlfriends house north of LA, they are talking evacuation. Five homes are gone already and thousands of homes are threatened. When we had our big fires here a couple of years back Aussie Firemen came over to help. They left a good impression on our community.

Todd,

What a great Union Rep. you make. How's the stats. going? Come to any conclusions yet?

Pio,

The Holidays are notoriously tough, wish I could help. Just hugs to you.

Hi to everyone else. Hope you all have a good week.

Beth

Hi Beth.

We have had American firemen here as well. We have been evacuated twice in 14 years here. You kinda get used to it.

Hope you are well.

2regret,

I know it could be the holidays. That's why I haven't done much about it. I don't know why I am suddenly having these dreams. That bothers me more than anything else. I am hoping to just ride this through to January and see where I am then. That is my "plan". Is hope a plan? For WW's part, I can't fault what she is doing. I have felt and still feel that it is way short of being "enough" but I know she is trying. I am so sensitive to every little thing.

BigK,

Why can't I trust WW? Let me think... Oh, now I remember.

That's disingenious of you Pio. What does she have to do to start earning trust.

Hello TKOers!!

I just wanted to say hi and that I've missed you all!

Pio, I think BigK told me once that hope IS a plan....maybe not...

Todd, did you ever get your test results in? Let us know!

Hope everyone else is well.

I haven't had power at my house since Friday and it is now Tuesday (early), which is why I haven't been posting much. Plus, I've been a little pre-occupied. See my thread for details.

Hmm Stef. Hope is a plan? Good thing I can see your tongue firmly stuck in your cheek.

stph20,

If you haven't had power for days and it is really cold there, how do you keep your pipes from freezing? If it is really warm, what did you do with the food in the freezer?

BigK,

I don't know that answer. I have always been told that trust takes time so it hasn't been my priority. I also am having an internal struggle trying to redefine my personal beliefs about marriage and fidelity. I'll be honest, at times I just want to call this whole thing off. But I see the DDs soundly sleeping in their beds when I go to bed at night and I see them asleep dreaming blissfully about chocolate milk when I egt up in the morning and I remind myself that it is my job to protect them. That makes me feel both good and sad at the same time.

You see Luna? This is why I am reluctant to post about the situation. Where is Todd anyway?

BigK,

I misread your post. I thought you wrote "disingenuous". Now I can see that you wrote "disingenious" which I am guessing means "stupid". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

I doubt Pio that anyone has ever thought you are stupid - certainly not me.

Pio - exactly what do you want or need from Gemela? Because even through your filter, the descriptions of her actions indicate she id doing everything she can think of to recover with you. Exactly what do you want from her? Boiling in oil perhaps?

Your children are a wonderful reason for a BS as well as a WS to try and recover a marriage but in they end they are not enough.

It is really cold here...well, average cold for this time of year anyway. I have had my faucets on since Friday to keep them from freezing. I haven't checked the food in my refrigerator or freezer yet. My guess is that by the time the power is back on, it will have all gone bad. Lucky for me, I'm one that actually likes grocery shopping! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Steph.

Good to see you here. Do you have a generator you can use?
I was living up LA when the last big earthquake hit, swore I would never be without one again. What happened that you are without power for so long?

BigK,

I'm good thanks. Wish I knew how to post a smile!

Just realized that 2much is missing as well. Hope everything is okay with everyone.

Beth,

WHen you click on QUOTE (not use quick reply) you get all the smileys on the screen and can click on them.

To get a standard <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> do a : ) without the space.

Giving it a go BigK. Watch out - you could end up with anything! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Wow, thank you BigK.

I'm so proud.

Cool Beth!!

Well just an update but WW had put another hamster in the bucket in the garage. Apparently Todd's visit to the factory had its effect because that hamster has staged a "walk out". It is no longer in the bucket.

How do I translate "once burned, twice shy" into Spanish so I can make WW understand? At this rate, I will be hamsterless in about 4.369 days according to my latest projections.