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I know u do but right now he ain't listening. Gotta get to you learn about reverse babble. It is a useful tool when used properly.

U game? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

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what is reverse babble orchid?


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there's a link to reverse babble in the bottom on Orchids thread


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Orchid, where is your thread on reverse babble..trying to find it but I must be blind...and no you are not scolding me,..i appreciate the honesty even if you do have to throw it in my face for me to see it...thats what i need right now is brutal honesty...it will help me see things more clearly....


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ok, i found it orchid...i am trying to make sense of it now....its interesting....


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Love:

I went through your stage early on after D-Day, too.

Many of us have...

You were trying to TALK him out of it...

WSes DO NOT HAVE THE CAPACITY TO THINK LOGICALLY...

I'll never forget my then WH telling me that "SURVIVING AN AFFAIR does not apply to me"...a man who had been involved in a 2 year PA....

CRAZY....


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wow, ur H said that...holy crap!!!! do you think u shud delete the im post? or just leave it up?


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I guess I would delete it since it has his name..but I'm paranoid that way... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


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ok..thanks...hey mimi, i just got some info that my WH could lose his security clearance if his EA is exposed to the "higher ups" in his company...I am wondering if I should, not so much threaten my WH w/ this info but shud I just casually mention it to him that it can happen b/c of what he has done...remember, he is a DOD contractor, not in the military....or shud i just keep this info to myself?


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The chances of a DOD employee losing his security clearance for an EA is probably slim to none.


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really? mind me asking how you know this? just curious...and what if it was more than a EA and I have proof it turned into a PA..?


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My dh used to work for the DOD. He still works for the gov't and has a security clearance. An EA probably wouldn't cause any problems. Not everyone believes/feels that an emotinal affair exists.

A physical affair, it probably depends on his command. Just like any place, if the people above him don't see anything wrong with it then they will more than likely turn the other cheek.


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yea true...i do know that people "above" my WH are having affairs too...it sucks...so i may not get anywhere w/ it...hhhhmmmmm


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I've read most of your story. I wouldn't advise using this card yet. Others may feel differently. Were else have you exposed the A? I would start with family, before going to his boss. Can you access his e-mail? Cell phone bills? etc?


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LG, to answer your question from another thread, it would be difficult to find out if OW has left without knowing who she is, who she works for, and knowing someone on the ground who could verify things for you.

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ok thanks ML, and better-than-ever, the A has been exposed to everyone..his mom, dad, sister, my family, my friends, my coworkers, etc etc...not to anyone in his work though...Since he is overseas, I dont know who to contact over there except HQ which is in the states...but I am going to wait on that though...


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u ready to try some RB now? If so, give us the best (aka: worst) WS lines and let's have a crack at it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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ok lets see...
1. why do you want to stay married to me?
2. you are too good for me.
3. i don't know what i want.
4. i am not sure i want to be married.
5. i am very confused.
6. i don't think i can come home in march.
7. i am not sure when i can come home.
8. you shud not wait on me.
9. you don't need to know anything about the OW.
10. i think we got married too soon.

Now, lemme see what you come up w/ Orchid.... ; )


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Hey orchid and mimi, i wanted your input this..my mom, a couple of my friends, and our minister wanted to write my WH a letter of support, on my behalf, to give to him when he comes home from overseas. They want to tell them that they love him, no matter what, and that they are very supportive of this marriage working. They want to tell him not to give up eventhough he is in a bad place, etc etc. Do you guys think this is a good idea or no?


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