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1. I have a need for my wife to keep her F in FWW – O&H conversation
2. I have a need for my wife to show me that I still matter to her – using her physical attractiveness to show me sexual affection
3. I have a need for my wife to spend time with me – recreational companionship thru family commitment would be admirable.
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ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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Honesty and openness
Recreational Companionship
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What is up with all of these MB gals having SF so high?
That aint normal!!!
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Not when I was dating anyway!!!
M2L
ME BH 36 - FWW 33
2 kids
DDAY May 06
Sometimes waywards can be like Laxatives ..... They irritate the crap out of you.
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SF
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Don't even need any conversation.......... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Gotta like you B!
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Just tell your wives SF keeps a woman young (which it does) and they'll be a bumping and grinding you evey which way but loose. Trust me on this. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> So basically Pep, you are saying it is about being aware. It's seem so elementary to me, but perhaps it is more a matter of being a mature, loving partner who wants their partner to be happy knowing this will make a good marriage for them as well. A needed remimder perhaps for those who have grown used to taking their spouse for granted, instead of going out of their way to make him sing. LOL Right before Christmas GB told both my D and me that he "needed" lots of presents under the tree. Even if they were all from the dollar store, he really, really wanted to have lots of presents. I understand this because he grew up poor with 10 siblings and never got any presents... so you can bet your bottom dollar that the tree will always be overflowing with beautifully wrapped gifts from the dollar store for him. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Thankfully he came right out and said it out loud, because who could have ever guessed that, not me that's for sure.
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What is up with all of these MB gals having SF so high?
That aint normal!!! Mortarman: We're just being OPEN AND HONEST... Mimi with Cowboy Boots,ETC.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Actually my Top ENS are probably what one would expect for most women: FAMILY COMMITMENT FINANCIAL SUPPORT DOMESTIC SUPPORT
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Actually, to be honest, the top one very well maybe FINANCIAL SUPPORT... Mimi, admitting to CHAMPAGNE AND CAVIAR TASTES... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Funny how my H works so hard on meeting this need now..but had an A with a woman who was so different..says that she took back the "LEATHER" purses that he bought for her..I haven't figured out whether he liked that about her or not.. It doesn't matter to me now... I'M HAPPY BEING ME. I do become self-conscious when there's talk about RT's style on Sis' thread...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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The problem turned out to be that I stopped meeting his primary need of ADMIRATION, taking him for granted and not expressing appreciation for what ALL that he WORKED SO HARD FOR AND PROVIDED....
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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that's why I like twinkies the most...
they're very simple to think about...
and then you just eat them... Ark^^ You may want to try a gingerbread man. He's sweet, he's quiet, and if he gives you any trouble, you can bite his head off!
Me = FBS age 51
FWH = age 51
M 25 years, 2 children 16 and 20
D-Day 5/19/05
Recovered and happy
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Mine seem to move around. So I vote any and all at any given time. I am apparently a high maintenance sort of girl. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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I am apparently a high maintenance sort of girl. Mimi..sighing with relief that I'm not the only one. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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noodle<~~~ veruca salt?
I want it now! I want the world..I want the whole world..
Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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It's been so long since I filled out the questionnaire, I had to go back and look at it again. I'm not sure why, but it's hard for me to pinpoint my "top" needs, in a concrete way....I feel a little schizo sometimes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" /> In any case, these are my top needs....this week: * Affection * Honesty/Openness * Family Commitment -- or conversation. (I couldn't break the tie! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />) Lori
VERY HAPPY! FBS/FWS; 47yo; M-29 yrs.; DS-26,DD-21; our affairs: 1990-'96
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My rankings have changed in recent months.
1. Affection----> SF (One thing leads to another, but I need both to feel validated right now.)
2. O & H
3.Admiration (I think.)
I noticed a cool thing. I've been away from home on various "family emergency" & other situations a LOT. I was desperate to get back, and really looking for tons of reassurance. (Still am. Only been back 3 days.)
Cool thing is that H is really working hard to meet my ENS, not his or the ones he thinks I should have. Stopping when I ask for a kiss and really showing up for it. (!!)
And my abesence produced a bit of chaos at home (slight understatement) and I have really wanted to get back to taking care of his needs for domestic support and to get back to the gym and a non-travel, appropriate diet (AS need.)
I think I do need to step up the admiration a bit on my part.
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Ark^^ You may want to try a gingerbread man. He's sweet, he's quiet, and if he gives you any trouble, you can bite his head off! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> very funny.... what's the shelf life of gingerbread man..I understand twinkies last f o r e v e r.....
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You may want to try a gingerbread man. He's sweet, he's quiet, and if he gives you any trouble, you can bite his head off! but not his [color:"blue"] gumdrop buttons !!!!!![/color] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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Not the gumdrop buttons! You're a monster!
Cowards die many times before their deaths;
The valiant never taste of death but once ~Shakespeare
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1. admiration 2. dual core computer 3. shopping, baby!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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what if he's wearing Mike-N-Ikes??????
yummmmy
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