Jim,
none of that's gonna work at this point. If I did that it would really start to look like I'm vengeful. I've already got sole custody, the house, and control of the D.

I have to let her go. I'm not doing that stuff anymore. If she comes back and wants in then we'll see. For now I'm moving on. Crazy enough, I'm getting in some qality Plan A b/c of the supervised visitation. If it does something to her she'll have to let me know.

CJ,
I know her IC is good, I'm the one who found him, I went to him once myself, and he came highly recomended. I don't know if he suspects anything personality wise and he won't discuss it with me so all I can do is hope for the best. I have been able to figure out that some of what she's telling him is her fog and not reality. I'm sure he see's through some of it.

Chris,
I may not have to fight at all. WW came by tonight and apparently she is conceding the 26th hearing since the permanent hearing is scheduled for the 4th. Her A is telling her that the judge is going to decide how long sole custody will last and it's nothing we can agree on. She's being told to expect it to be for a long time, possibly up to a year.

I'll try to confirm all this tomorrow with my A. This all happened late in the afternoon and my A hasn't contacted me yet. If this is true then it looks great for me. I would be relieved if I got 6 months to a year of protection. I was just wanting a month or two.

WW is being suprisingly reasonable about all of this. She's being nice and acting normal. I thought maybe this was an act, but we've already agreed on community property and apparently custody is out of our hands. I can't figure out why she would need to continue to act. Maybe her meds are working. Maybe the fogs really lifting.

Now I'm just talking about the D. She continues to live her life how she wants while I have put mine completely on hold while we get through this mess.

Example: She said if she was done with dinner tomorrow night after her weight watchers meeting and it wasn't too late she might stop by. She doesn't have to go eat with her friends EVERY week, but she does. It's almost like she wants to be DS's mother as long as she doesn't already have other plans.

Also, I checked out her myspace page today. She claims to be single and doesn't even mention DS. NICE!!

Anyway, thanks for all the support. I'm feeling pretty good right now.

Meds can do wonders. Let's hope for the best, that they will turn her around.

Hang in there. You are doing GREAT. Be sure to take care of YOU.

WOW, myspace single huh? No kids! Shameful!

You know what I think...LOL...no need to repeat myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for just being you by the way I appreciate the encouragement on my thread!

Pathetic excuse for a "mother". Even though things appear to be in your favor you should keep documenting (i.e. Myspace, no kids, etc...) all events that pertain to DS for future.

I agree, I would print the profile...just in case!

BC,

This is very good news for you.

No one on this site ever accuses me of being overly optimistic about things and in the case of your WW I have none. Her next year will no doubt prove to be a torrential flood of bad choices and problems. You need to be standing far away and protect your son. This train is going to wreck and it won’t be pretty and you don’t want to be a casualty.

And if I were a judge with a woman who advertises herself on MyWaste as single without children standing before me I would make her wish come true. She would become single without a child.

I do continue to document. My A doesn't want it right now b/c she has to charge me to review it and she doesn't want to do that since she's getting full cooperation from WW and her A.

WW's A and mine are friends so I don't think there will be any big suprises. I'll have a folder prepared just in case.

Here's the thing about WW. I think she definately has a personality disorder. She's getting her ENs met by a guy in Phoenix right now so she is happy and stable. As long as that R continues or just fizzles out without any drama she will probably continue to improve. If they have a falling out that is bad, then she will probably lose it again.

She is going to counseling, but unless this is identified she'll never get the help she needs. She'll do this over and over for the rest of her life. She's always looking for the high she gets from being wanted by MEN.

I will say that last night I don't think she touched her phone once. Doesn't mean anything, I just pay attention to the small stuff these days.

I'm always looking for signs of her mental state. She has been doing better. I do hope she continues and gets it together.

Gotta go

is your WW and Mine sisters?

Add my sis in there and you have triples...

Oh, course IMO, my sister uses men for as long as she needed them and then kicks them to the curb...

It's that special...group! Like the short bus group...???

On the bus Wayward Sisters. Next Stop...(fill in the blank)

I say the cooter cleaners

BC, sorry things are the way they are. You're really doing great for your son. I'm proud to call myself a fellow Killer Bee.

What are you doing to take care of yourself?

Ha Ha HAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

I just had to run to the Bathroom!!

SD,
I have a massive support system. Friends, Family, Neighbors, WW's Friends (she's abandoned most of them). I get phone calls daily, I weight lift, I walk, I hang out in the neighborhood, I have guys night out first Tue of the month(Buffalo Wild Wings)I do alot with DS, I go to Church.

My life is full and happy other than the D thing. I know my sitch is horrible, but I'm well taken care of.

Thanks for chekin in, I think we're all some pretty amazing people.

Chris,
Take care of that man!, I don't want to be responsible for makin a mess in your house..LOL

LOL...YOU SAID COOTER! COOL!

Our dog's name is Cooter. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My apologies W74. I would never INTENTIONALLY compare a Wayward's genitalia to an innocent animal.

Is a woman's privates considered genitalia?
I can't remember 10th grade Biology.

Don't ask me. It's been 8-9 months since I had any classes.

So if someone is giving you trouble do you yell, "Bite em Cooter?"

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> We must be naive up here in the northern Rockies. I didn't know it meant that... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> The dog was actually named after Cooter from Dukes of Hazzard.

You guys..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Well Wayward's don't deserve DAISY, and I already call mine BOSS HOG! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />, so I guess we'll have to go with ROSCOE.

That's a better fit anyway, dontcha think?

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