On two separate occasions, two men that I was merely having a conversation with, started saying how their relationship with their wives weren't good. Once that occured, I politely said "Sounds like you need to discuss this with your wife, not me," and walked away. Was I throwing out signals OR were these men throwing out a net to see who would get caught in that trap?
Even if you were unknowingly throwing out signals, there is no excuse for a married man to ever come on to another woman. You did the right thing.
I want to say something in this thread about "real" men. Real men don't cheat. They honor their marraige vows and even if their marraige isn't perfect, they don't look to cheat.
When I was single I had 2 oppurtunities to cheat with married women - one of them was all over me and begging me to take her to a hotel. (She was unhappy with her husband). I did not do it because she was married. She was someone's wife. 20 years later, they are still married, have 4 kids and seem very happy. Had I made the decision to cheat with her, it probably would have destroyed their marraige.
Another married woman that wanted to cheat with me was my former sister-in-law (my brother's wife). I was single, I denied her advances. Think of the ramifications had I acted on that. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
When I was married I went on a business trip with an attractive coworker. She came to my room one night around 11:00pm. Came in, layed down on the bed and started talking to me. I got up and politely said good night.
I never once regretted the above 3 decisions I made. I actually am proud of how I handled them.
The point I am try to make is there are men in this world that aren't just looking for a good time. Some of us do have morals and standards. We want to treat people the way we want to be treated.
You know what guys really love?? Admiration... I would love to have a partner that thinks, "Wow, where did I find this guy!". Admiration is earned though....
So, ladies, please don't lose hope that there are decent guys out there. We decent guys are looking for decent gals. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />