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Re: More info, a LOT more info. krusht #1891336 06/27/07 04:22 PM
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Owl Member O Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 2,715	Actually, I'm curious about that question on the end of your last marriage as well. Also, if you DON'T confront, you're condoning her to continue doing what she's doing. Think about it.

Re: More info, a LOT more info. Owl #1891337 06/27/07 09:23 PM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. krusht #1891338 06/27/07 09:25 PM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. Scott55403 #1891339 06/30/07 04:57 AM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. Scott55403 #1891340 07/02/07 10:45 AM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. Scott55403 #1891341 07/02/07 10:53 AM
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believer Member B Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County	You need to expose the affair to EVERYONE. The longer it goes on, the farther she will withdraw from you.

Re: More info, a LOT more info. believer #1891342 07/02/07 12:52 PM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. Scott55403 #1891343 07/05/07 09:55 PM
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Re: More info, a LOT more info. Scott55403 #1891344 07/06/07 03:34 PM
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believer Member B Joined: Sep 2003 Posts: 27,069 San Diego County	No, marriage shouldn't be like this. It sounds like she has some personal issues, or is a serial cheater. You might want to stick with Plan A, but detach a little. Are you taking good care of yourself?

Re: More info, a LOT more info. believer #1891345 07/15/07 10:55 PM
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Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891346 07/16/07 01:20 PM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891347 07/25/07 12:37 PM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891348 07/25/07 03:07 PM
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krusht Member K Joined: Jul 2004 Posts: 2,033 SoCalNoCo	SCOTT, I don't know what to tell you. Sounds like she is self-destructing. How much are you willing to put up with?? What else has been going on besides her getting blotto? kirk CORDUROY PILLOWS ARE MAKING HEADLINES!!

Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? krusht #1891349 07/25/07 10:38 PM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891350 07/27/07 06:55 AM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891351 07/27/07 08:05 AM
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coachswife Member C Joined: Aug 2005 Posts: 998	How was your wife's childhood? Any history of abuse of any kind from her parents or previous relationships??

Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? coachswife #1891352 07/27/07 08:41 AM
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_Ace_ Member _ Joined: Jan 2007 Posts: 5,312	Coachswife, I was going to look you up and here you are. My FWH is now a Former Coach.....last night he said he just quit coaching so he can spend more time with me. Not sure how I think about that...he's been coaching for 33 years. (Actually I'm thrilled but a bit in shock and wanted your perspective....if you are truly a coach's wife....I admit I haven't read any of your posts, just have seen your name around.) I'm going to update my "Trials and Smiles" recovery thread soon and include this development. Please check it out and respond there so we don't TJ Scott's call-for-help thread. Scott, My heart goes out to you. I saw your post on my MR. Romance Saga and thought I'd check up on your sitch. If we had found MB and learned to implement its principles sooner, we would not have had to wait 30 years to improve our marriage. Can you link me to (or tell me where) your full story and timeline is? If it's on various threads in bits and pieces, I'll find it eventually via your history, but if it's a long post somewhere, knowing that will make things faster. I am leaving town for the weekend, but will check up with you next week. Hang in there. Thanks, Ace FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr. 4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)

Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? coachswife #1891353 07/27/07 09:13 AM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891354 07/27/07 09:23 AM
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Re: Does anyone ever come back from behavior like this? Scott55403 #1891355 07/27/07 09:24 AM
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