Darkness fell at 7:20am this morning.

Drac is now free to wander in the darkness!

He stopped by this am to get his mail. I was just pulling out of the driveway when he was pulling in. I backed up and got out. He talked to the front of the car and stopped. Told me about DD's cough meds and tried to leave.

I reached in the car and got the pump for his air mattress and the PBL. I showed him the pump first so he had to walk towards me. I gave him the pump and the pulled out the PBL. I said,'This is for you' and handed it it him. Then I said 'And this is for you' and gave him a big hug and a kiss on the cheek. I told him to have a safe trip, got in my car, and left

He went into the house. I HOPE he took the time and privacy to read it right then and there.

But, NOW I STOP wondering what he may or may not be doing!

GOOD FOR YOU, BUG'S MOM!!!

YOU ARE AWESOME!!

ALL OF THE GODDESSES OF THE WORLD, STAND UP AND CLAP!!!

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Bugs:

Now the NEW long Road.

You have learned so much.

From your first post to now.

This is a new Chapter. The beginning of the end, or the End of the Beginning. Not really sure. To early to be deep.

However.

We only hope he does READ IT.

Please put a link to your first thread in your sig block. There is SO MUCH good info there, that others need to know how to access it.

Thank you for your kind words over on the other thread. It made my day.

Now, what do YOU have planned tonight?

LG

Thanks Mimi for the applause!

I feel FREE to BE my OWN GODDESS and I fully intend to do so in every way!

LG,

I am 99% sure Drac will read it, it is just his nature that he would not be able to leave it alone.

Will he give a darn about anything it says? No, not now. Judging from the WS fake pats on the back when I gave him that big hug, he will be relieved right now that he does not have to deal with me and it will give him something to twist around and tell everyone that I am once again being so 'ridiculous'.

Whatever. That's his world now, not mine.

MY world is filled with now being able to focus on my kids, my job, and my life!

Today am getting with my banking friend to get loan approval ASAP, working with my agent on a couple of house offers, getting soem Major things finished at work, and then taking the kids to a movie tonight.

Weekend - taking my Mom, DSS, my brother and his GF to an event on Sat. DD is going w/my niece to the zoo and then swimming. Sun- firming up plans for getting moved in the next couple weeks!

I am LITERALLY moving on!

Not to say that the protected love I hold for Drac does not still hope that H will show up, but that is not my focus now

Thanks everyone for your support in getting me to this point! I will try to put that link in my signature line tonight,,I don't think I can do it using the Blackberry.

Bugs, hope your first day goes well. Bravo at the letter exchange! Now, pay no mind to the wayward.

Keep posting, too. You will have an emotional coaster of your own to deal with.

OOO, I also like LG's idea of you putting a link to your first thread in your signature line. Your plan A and the wealth of advice you've gotten can be so helpful to many struggling here.

Woo Hoo, I'm slow because I couldn't get on last night and my attention is off this morning! LMAO

:::slow clap::::

((((BUGS))))

Good for you!

Wonderful not to have that weight on your shoulders...

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Where did all the light go?

Great jobs Bugs.

One more time - you did mah-ve-lous.

Thanks!

The good thing is that even in the darkness, only Drac has disappeared. Everyone else who is Good for my world continues to remain in my life

I am glad Drac is gone starting tonight. Lessens the chance of him attempting contact or running into him.

Help with a FORUM STRATEGY...

I suggest you put PLAN B and a shout out for HELP in your TOPIC in order to bring out the BIG GUNS to help you..that was a STRATEGY that I used to get attention... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

I haven't posted to you new thread yet....I assume you know I'm with ya all the way!

hey mimi -- who are the big guns? just curious...

What does she need help with? She rocks!!! lol

Big guns??? You are one LEXX...

Big guns???...ANYBODY with EXPERIENCE with PLAN B...

I found that people responded when I said I NEED HELP is the reason I said that...

I think, though, that having Mortarman to check in during PLAN B is particularly GREAT...

He was MY SALVATION...

Hey everyone!

Right now I am so busy, my mind is spinning too fast to think much about Drac

I have applied for my home loan, made another offer, work is NUTS, and am having to take DD to the dr later this pm!

The only thoughts I have had of Drac today is when several times my phone rang and no one has left a message. That Never happens. When people get my office vm, they either leave a message or call my cell.

I WILL be putting out thise Shouts for help, do not worry about that! Just for today, am doing well!

Like a Hurricane!

I'm still alive Bugs, guess what happens when the drama's over? Life takes off again and it takes everything you have just to hold on.

The next few days may get rough, so I just wanted to stop in real quick and tell you how special you are. I don't know if anybody will ever top your Plan A so be proud of that.

You're in a good place Bugs and you have good friends, so now you can relax and rest. I'll stop by from time to time to throw some rediculous nonsense at you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

So remember:

Lache Pas La Patat(Don't drop the potato)

Hey, Bugsy--

How ya doing? Haven't heard from you this afternoon. Just being a Mama Killer B and checking on ya.


((Bugs))


--CJ

Hey Bugs

Just poppin in to check on you. I've been out of touch for most of the week b/c I had jaw surgery last week and started a new job this past Monday. Don't get to check MB during work hours like I used to... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Glad to see you went to plan B and that your 1st day has gone well.

You sound upbeat and wonderful!!!

I'll keep checking in but my plan B experience is pretty limited since it didn't last too long.

Take care

Daze

Hey everyone!

Thanks to you ALL for checking on me!

Took DD to the dr. She had to have a breathing treatment to open her bronchial tubes more and will have inhaler treatments for 5 days plus antibiotics

I did have an email sent to Drac letting hin know. He followed the PBL rules and replied via email asking only what the dr said.

Tonight I had kids call per the new schedule. I had already explained the new 'routine' to the kids but DD did ask if he wanted to talk to me. I heard him reply NO, as she had walked up to me while she was talking.

While it does hurt a bit, it is pretty 'normal' for hin anyway, so I was not surprised.

I fully realize that especially at first, he will LOVE the freedom he feels in Plan B. It is still hard, but you all have prepared me well for it, so since I know what is coming, it is not so bad as it could be.

Now, where did I drop that potato?!

We are just taking it easy tonight, reading books and watching tv since DD is under the weather.

Tomorrow catching up even more at work will be the focus. Also, am sending documentation to bank to proceed w/my loan. I AM ALREADY APPROPVED FOR THE AMOUNT I NEED! WHOO HOO!

So, all the rest is a formality and all I have to do is get one of those home owners to accept my offer and I am on my way!

It will all come together the way it is meant to be, of that I have no doubt.

Thanks again!! Gotta go give DD her meds and then get her off to bed early.

Got to get this sealed up, Bugs, so you don't hear his voice and he does not use this to break through the PB to get a fix of you. We've seen it happen..."Tell your mother, etc." and your daughter will try her best to get you two talking...

Mimi,

I can make sure I am not close enough to hear anything, that is not a big deal. I really doubt Drac trying to send a message through the kids, he was really mad the one time I had told DSS to let him know I'd see him the next day so I don't think he'll try that.

He is enjoying Plan B and knowing his personality, I am sure he is taking it as. 'Challenge' of sorts,,,in that he will do all he can to prove he doesn't need or want to talk to me either. I do not see him trying to break through,,IF he ever does, it won't be for a long time

I am trying not to make a Huge deal of this to the kids. DD was a bit upset already, so I am just trying to make it seem as 'normal' as I can for her right now

I am open for ideas, ,

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