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Well, on the lighter side of he**...14 months since DD of WH A. A over since 10/06. We've reconciled...hes back at house...all going well...NC w/former homewrecker...BUT 20 year anniversary this Wed...do we celebrate? If so any ideas?
Thanks
Lori
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Well, that is something to celebrate! Although we all wish we'd never experienced infidelity, a marriage that has survived it is something to treasure.
I see it hasn't been that long that he has had NC with the OW. Are you certain there is NC? Is hubby pitching in to start repairing the damage? Is he apologetic?
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why would you question celebrating an anniversary..
what is going on TODAY that makes you question that
ark
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If you still have a marriage, you still have an anniversary! By all means, celebrate!
Think back to the happiest point in your life, BEFORE the A ever started, and find something to do that rekindles some of the excitement of that era in your life together.
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Why would you not celebrate your vows, and covenant with God? You made them with vehemence on your wedding day, did you not?
be proud of what you have accomplished, in the face of Satin's most vicious attacks on your M, God will be well pleased.
All blessings,
Jerry
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LAT, My H's A ended 10/06 and our 17th anniversary was in june. I had no desire to celebrate and in many ways I felt like those years don't count any more because they were not sacred to one of us. Now that I know that he started his EA in 2001 I have a hard time counting any of those years at all. Sorry to be the negative one but that is how I feel. I'm not sure you can take credit for years that only one was committed.
It was one of the hardest days of my life and our DD's made such a big deal about it. They don't know about their dads other life and think life is rosy.
Get through it the best you can and try to think positive. We are somewhat in the same timeframe and I know how difficult that can be.
My thoughts are with you.
DTR
me BS 43
WS 43
DD11
DD13
Married 1990
DDay Nov 06
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