TOMK:

GIVE HER ACCESS TO ALL THE FREAKING BANK ACCOUNTS.

HOW FRICKEN HARD IS THAT?

And ask to see HERS.

Take STUPID stuff off the plate.

And return it to hers.

Until you decide to be open with her, she's not going to change. She might not change anyway. But why argue?

Of course shes concerned about cash. Been that way your entire R, hasn't she?

So, how would you like to address her Financial Security (FS) Need?

Create a budget?
Open and honest about the spending?
And accurate portrayal of your joint financial sitch?

Start WORKING with her, instead of fighting over stupid stuff.

Don't stay up till 10:30 in the other room. Stay up next to her in bed. Read your Tech manuals. That will put you to sleep.

Your one cross word from prison. That's a pretty bad "Sword of Damocles (sp?)" over your head.

Doesn't mean you become a sheep. It just means that you Figure out how to WORK with her. And defend yourself.

LG

Have you mentioned to her that she falsely accused you of giving her an STD?
Have you discussed the possibility that this child isn't yours?

Have you talked to her about HER LIES and ACTIONS that put you in this place....dude you are totally bowing down as if you cheated and she was the victim.....uh NO....go see the lawyer...I have said it before and i will say it again...your wife IS A WACK JOB AND WILL PUNISH YOU AN TAKE YOU FOR ALL YOUR WORTH. you need to get 2 steps ahead of her before she puts you in jail again.

I got so cuaght up on some of the "bad stuff" I didn't say a word about something that completely floored me!

Of the 5 years we have spent together, every single year without a second thought we go to her family's holiday parties, gatherings, and Dinners. every year we have Thanks Giving Dinner at her Mother's or her sister's. every single Christmas day (typically before we do our our gift exchange) we go to her Mother's for gifts and dinner. We usually end up exchanging our gifts either on Christmas Eve because we spend the day at her Mom's or we exchange ours the next day because when we get home we are just too tired.

Well this year I came home the Monday before Thansks Giving, expecting to stay home by myself while my wife and son went to her Mother's. I'm sure I could have gone, but given the circumstances I will not feel comfortable over there for quite some time... My Mother in law calls on Tuesday evening and reminds my wife to be sure to bring dessert for Thanks Giving. My wife tells her Mother she will not be attending this year!! She says she is "Staying home with her husband and cooking dinner at home this year."

I was floored! This is HUGE for my wife...HUGE!!! I told her in every way I could think of how much it meant to me, and she agreed it was time to start doing "Family things" with "Her Family" only this time "Her Family" meant me and our son (and another child soon to be here).

I had the BEST day of my life that day!! With MY Family!

But then...the long 4 day weekend... and of course.... the comments about how I made her feel guilty about going to her Mother's house so she stayed home with me instead. While I was thanking her for staying home we also had discussions of her and the boy going up for dessert or something. It was not me that brought up her staying home with me, all her idea. So this crap about me making her feel guilty... no clue where that came from, but that's her... always spinning it around on me and blaming me.

I choose to remember the GOOD of that day and the long weekend though. (But I guess I do have to deal with the other too huh?)

...Anyway, just a quick note to say my wife isn't ALL "bad".

......Christams this year should prove extremely interesting.

It's been a while. You doing OK?