Yep. That's the GREATNESS of PLAN B.



You're in PLAN A. This gives you an opening to call him and talk how about HOW SAD this is for US fans...

The relationship between your H and kids can mend..if our family is any indication..first it was my H and our oldest son..now my H and our youngest are bonding again..it's taken 4 or 5 years..but my H himself said that he was willing to wait...that he has learned the value of TIME...my YS almost acts as if he has fallen IN LOVE with his father...whom he stated that he HATED during the AFFAIR...

HAVE FAITH, SG...

BTW, remember HE IS NOT YOUR HUSBAND..don't expect anything at all from him at this time...PLAN A is about THE GIVER in you..ONLY...

Hi Mimi,

And it's helps the giver in me to keep giving when I hear that not all is great over in happyland. I like hearing she is disappearing and it makes him angry. I like hearing that all she cooks for him is mostly fried food. I hear she keeps a black pan on the stove with grease in it and reuses it over and over again. That is just gross.

Remember, one of the babble items was that we don't live a healthy lifestyle. I would hardly think cooking in grease is a healthy lifestyle for someone who has heart disease in his family.

And I like hearing that she is preventing him from seeing his kids because she has to be around. I can only imagine one day that he is going realize what she is doing and wake up. Or is that too much to hope for?

I guess this helps me to have patience that time is TRULY on my side and that I just keep on working at becoming the woman G-d always envisioned for me.

SG

Hey SG

I read about the death of the Redskins player this morning. I am a big NFL fan myself so I know how you feel.

Just wanted you to know I was thinking of you when I heard the news...

(((SG and her kids)))

Smartie

Oh Smartie,

This is SO SAD. He was my YS favorite player of all time. You should have seen his face when I told him this morning. It was awful.

Sean hadn't been playing the last two weeks and boy he was missed.

Did you read the news about the OW and WH and their happy world?

SG

Honestly SG.. I think their little world is starting to crumble. I'm hoping similar things are happening in my WW's world.. but it's just that, hope.. stuff we see peeking through the windows into Affairsville.

Best thing the both of us can do, even in Plan A is to stay out of the way.. don't go rushing into that burning house for your WH... if he turns into your H somewhere in there, then maybe it's worth the risk.. but I'd wager if that kind of transformation happens he'll come running out first.

Be still.

I know it's exciting to see the cracks appearing in the dam.. but even this will take time.

Be still.

What is God telling you today?

((((SG and DS)))

SG, I read this and immediately thought of you. I am so sorry for your son. Tough lesson for kids. Life is SHORT. The best laid plans can disintegrate in the blink of an eye.

When my DH and I were separated, his SIL (his brother's ex-wife) was killed in a car accident. I thought to myself that surely this would be an eye-opener to WH. Nope, didn't phase him a bit. Later of course, he was appropriately sad but at the time, he just wasn't "there".

On the receipe, I would share... maybe not the EXACT receipe but an alien version of it... he he

OW: But I made it just like the recipe called for!
WH: (Gasping for breath, breathing fire... running for the porcelain throne!!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

PM.. you are the best. Thanks for a great laugh today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Oh PM,

Thank you for thinking of me. That is so kind of you to notice. I am sorry for your loss during that time. I have to say, Smartiepants encouraged me to really read your posts thoroughly as you did a Plan A for a really long time. Upon further review and since you are recovered - would you have done anything different?

Do you see anything that I could be doing or should NOT be doing?

I love the idea of that recipe. I think arsenic would be my secret ingredient.

Jamesus,

It feels good to laugh doesn't it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

SG

Oh, no, no, no. I actually didn't know about MB when I was going through it and I did the opposite of Plan A... maybe she had me confused with someone else on the Plan A thing. Yikes, no one should follow my story as to WHAT TO DO but rather WHAT NOT TO DO! That's why my link is titled, "SHOULDA BEEN the MB way" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

And yes, yes, yes! There are many things I would have done differently. Beginning with Day One.

LOL,

So what would you have done differently or what could I be doing that you don't see me doing?

SG

You're welcome. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Oh, I think you're doing fine. I think you'll continue doing fine if you stick with Mimi... she's GREAT at Plan A stuff.

The only other thing I see, and I think you're already doing this, is what Jameus suggests... sometimes ya just gotta "be still" and regroup. Take those times of stillness to really listen to what God is trying to say to you... whether through circumstance, through posters here, or through reading the Word.

Like when I was driving home from CA on Saturday and on the side of the road was "Trust Jesus", only I put in G-d.

And then this was weirder, the whole trip I hadn't seen any of my WH trucks from his company. Right after I saw the sign, I saw one set of trucks on my side of the road and then the other side, almost minutes from each other.

And then not anothing one after that.

Mimi is the best, isn't she. I am very grateful to her. Yes, Mimi, I am sucking up to keep you around. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

SG

I might add, I had NEVER seen that sign before.

And then the circumstance of hearing all is not well on that side, or there are cracks at the very least.

This OW isn't nearly as smart as I thought she was. I imagine she is feeling very confident that she has him nabbed. I would NEVER pull some of the stuff she pulls, like telling him to stay away from his kids unless she is around. Looking to make money off of a friend and disappearing for a day at a time. I can only imagine how pi$$ed WH was that day. Woo Hoo@

All the while I stay low, love him from afar, pray to G-d, live in G-ds will and wait for him to come home.

All the while, becoming who G-d has planned me to be all along.

SG

Great attitude SG-

It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes:

"And now, with God's help, I shall become myself." Soren Kierkegaard

I am -so- putting that quote in my sig.

One of my favorite quotes, too, JT.

Along with his "The further we get from our former ignorance, the less tolerant we become of that ignorance."

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Mark

I love that quote...

I am printing that up for my desk.

How are you today? How's the weather over there?

SG

SG:

Have you called your WH yet about the football player???

Hi SG

Things are going well. It's been cold today and the weather was weird at work (rain, hail, sun etc) but it was great to come home to the valley and see snow dusting Cultus Mountain and the other foothills.

How was it down your way?