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ok...so bake him some cookies or banana bread that you could send with him...yes ignore the fact warhog might share in them...you are doing this for him.....
what is is favorite foods??? I want SPECIFICS girl,,,not all foods... you want some good recipes..I am all about it...
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Well, trashy maiden in distress sounds good to me!
Seriously though, admiration is a top need of most men. They just eat it up.
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I can vouch for that. We just finished going over our ENs with Jenifer and my #1 was admiration. We are simple creatures, we just want to make you happy, all we ask in return is that you notice.
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ok, but what is there to admire in a man who sees his kids for a few minutes here and there, sleeps with a warthog, and is thus being extremely cruel?
hmmm that's a hard question Not, he loves the mexican food I make, so I don't need recipes for that... he loves brownies, pumpkin bread, peanutbutter cookies (I can't stand the smell of baking peanutbutter)
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Serenity - There was a post about admiration several years ago. Honora posted it. I was like you - what was there to admire? I even argued here about it. But, she was right. You can bet the OW is finding something to admire.
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We are simple creatures, we just want to make you happy, all we ask in return is that you notice. TMTS... you sound like my husband...unfortunately his opinion of what makes me happy and what I KNOW makes me happy are two different things. Doesn't mean I appreciate what he does, just that its not what I need to be COMPLETELY happy... ((((Serenity))))) How's the list coming???? What's the game plan for you???? and on a lighter note.....how's the "fun" book coming??? Have a great GODDESS day.... not2fun...
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So I worked part of the afternoon today, WH came over to see the kids, just as I was leaving for work. Then I get this email when at work
"maybe it's not a bad idea for you
to not be here everytime i come to see the kids."
how hurtful! How do I respond to that without LBing???
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hmmmm...how do you dress for work?? What were you wearing today???? Because to me that sounds like he is conflicted because you look so dang good, it makes him realize what he is missing. Also, I am not exactly the wording for you to use, but I would let him know that this is YOUR house, you can can come and go as you please...but do this in a non-LBing way....Remember YOU are in control.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> but yes what a jerk/// <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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ugh... figured it out... decided to check email, and warthog doesn't like him coming over here when I'm home! ick!!! I hate reading his email to her and hers to him, but I wanted to see where things stood... a couple weeks ago she lost it and got all emotional because he still has most of his stuff here at the house he promised her within the next week he'd get it well... guess what he hasn't, just a few more clothes. i'm shaking so bad right now.
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((((Serenity)))))
calm down....it'll be ok...So now you know the reason, Like I said YOU are in control, not him, and definately NOT HER.
Rename your thread so VETS can get on here fast. Call out Mel, Mimi and Mark....they can help you with your reply...
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I hate reading his email... it makes me anxious, I'm shaking and I feel like being sick!! first she had a problem because he wasn't moving his stuff out of his "ex-house" fast enough, now she would rather he visit his kids when I'm not here! UGH!!!! she also mentioned something about little steps towards D, which ;-( he hasn't said anything to me about, but I'm sure that's what his plan is.
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See this is the MAIN reason I don't want to install the spyware stuff. I would have the same physical reactions to it. A few days after DDay, I broke into WS office and got onto his computer, the whole episode did nothing for me except make me sick as heck and hated myself to death for even doing it....
This is another BS side effect of what their A's have caused...just ticks me off ya know....
Hang in there....
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If you didn't read his email, you wouldn't be able to FIGHT her..come on, GUYS, I mean GODDESSES..let's get some BALLS..you know what I mean.. So what if you are anxious. The OW should be the one ANXIOUS about you coming to where she is and beating her BUTT... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
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That is very good news. Just let hubby know that you are his wife and will continue to be in your home.
Let the warthog LB away.
Next time he comes over, put on some cheap smelly perfume and see if you can rub it all over him.
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She certainly IS intimidated by YOU...to not want you around him...
MAINTAIN YOUR PLAN A..whatever you do right now..DO NOT LB...that would fit so nicely into THEIR PLAN...
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And..just like B says, you most definitely WILL be there when he visits the kids...
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LISTEN TO MIMI... COURAGE... Sorry for being crude but... If you aint got the balls then you need to grow a set... Sounds like both of you need to declare war on the affair... READ THIS... http://www.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/sho...&PHPSESSID=
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DO NOT TELL HIM THAT YOU KNOW FROM READING THE EMAIL..so that you CAN continue to READ IT!!
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What is that stuff called? Patchouli? One of the female engineers wears that to our production meetings, and the guys always comment, it smells up the whole building.
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Next time he comes over, put on some cheap smelly perfume and see if you can rub it all over him. LOL.... I used to work with a girl who would wear the most obnoxios perfume... I would get in the elevator 20 minutes after she was in it and I could still smell her perfume... I used to call it.... SLUT JUICE...LOL.... get some of that.... OW will get pissed everytime he leaves your house...She'll be the one LB'ing him.... LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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