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i'm sure this has been covered before in Alien babble 101 but when can you believe what they say... some of the things he says to me in emails are (at least to me) heart felt... do I just go with the belief that anything he says right now is babble?? You can believe EVERYTHING he says! He means it with all his heart. All of his falling down drunken heart. He is a falling down drunk. His "heart" will be different once the source of his intoxication is gone. And it will be gone....The OW's days are numbered.
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he said this..
I guess i'm just a fu** up... I don't want to hurt
you, I'm not tryign to hurt you deliberatly. I'm not
really sure what you want from me. Other than me
coming back... I guess the truth is i don't see me
coming back. I think that having dinner together is
nice.... but I think it's giving you false hope. I
know I've made mistakes a plenty and I realize that
you consider what I'm doing a mistake. OMG....is he kidding me???? He wants you to soothe the pain of what he is doing...awwww,poor poor me.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> Cry me a freakin river.... also, you've been around enough to see this as the babble that it is...... ((((Serenity))))) ....Don't let it get you down honey...I think everyone's right about OPwarthog, and I think that you need to Plan A your butt off, and start prepping for Plan B. No more cake-eating. I think it will totally throw him for a loop. Not wanting to give you false hope my a$$. If he was so worried about that he wouldn't be communicating with you right now...jeezzz Isn't it funny how you can see the WS crap in other's WS but not your own....guilty as charged over here.... not2fun
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Sorry. You can't REALLY believe. KNOW and ACCEPT that he is probably playing you, working on a scheme..prolly wants you to AGREE to a FRIENDLY divorce...YUCK...this is where the email info. comes in handy...He's telling her how he is working on things with you...he's want to PLAY NICE GUY...
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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He's in a confused state... watch his actions... don't listen to his babble... Listen to pepper... Plan A your assss off ..... leave sexy notes in his pockets, his wallet .... flash him your boobs next opportunity !!!
light his fire - and leave marks Take a pix of yourself using his cell phone - put it as his wallpaper Take a picture with his phone of you flashing your boobs and leave it as his walpaper... Then rub slut juice all over him and kiss him on the forehead. lmao <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Take a pix of yourself using his cell phone - put it as his wallpaper he'd see it before her, he's VERY private with his cell phone. i think he sleeps with it and deletes calls and texts right after he reads or sends them.
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Take a picture with his phone of you flashing your boobs and leave it as his walpaper...
Then rub slut juice all over him and kiss him on the forehead. Get some skin lotion with glitter in it too... make sure it's on him when he leaves...
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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You want to give him the message that YOU BELIEVE IN HIS CAPACITY to end his affair and to come home...so when he says stuff like "I don't see myself coming home"..you can say: "I see you coming home"...speak your truth...
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"I guess i'm just a fu** up... I don't want to hurt
you, I'm not tryign to hurt you deliberatly. I'm not
really sure what you want from me. Other than me
coming back... I guess the truth is i don't see me
coming back. I think that having dinner together is
nice.... but I think it's giving you false hope. I
know I've made mistakes a plenty and I realize that
you consider what I'm doing a mistake."
Tell him he has always been a good man and you believe in him. Ask him if he thought about the future wouldn't he want an intact family, to be their for his kids........
Tell him you want dinner with him with no strings attached.
If you can manage it, text him one of your fantasies. Or make one up.
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she lives about 3 miles away, why?
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he'd see it before her, he's VERY private with his cell phone. i think he sleeps with it and deletes calls and texts right after he reads or sends them. HELLO... ANYBODY THERE... HE'S SUPPOSED TO SEE IT... THAT'S THE POINT... When was the last time he saw them? It's a "hey remember these" It's supposed to get him all hot and bothered for you... If he doesn't let her see it... no big deal... If she does... then that's just icing on the cake... You dont even have to take the picture with his phone... take it with your phone and send it to him...With a sexy note... "Hi honey, remember these... they're lonely and they miss your touch." LIGHT HIS FIRE AND LEAVE MARKS LIKE PEPPER SAID... And just so ya know... every man wants Betty Crocker in the Kitchen and a Playboy Playmate in the bedroom... Start pushing both those buttons and see what happens...
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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she lives about 3 miles away, why? Sorry..I was getting you mixed up with someone else whose OW moved away... Amazin: I suspect SS' H has seen them not so long ago.. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />
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I think I am going to take some notes on these suggestions...picts. by phone...uhmmmmm...now there's an idea... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />
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I'm not even going to ask...either one of you....LOL I know there's a joke here somewhere... I just can't go there right now...It's too easy... Oh... wait... I found it... has to do with an easy wife... LOL... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />
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STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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(((Serenity))))
Well, it looks like you had some great suggestions here. Whatcha gonna do with this wealth of information?????
Anyway, I hope you are doing better by now and are able to get some sleep. I myself am headed that way, back to work tomorrow. OH, I missed WS call tonight...oh well, maybe he'll think I am pulling away...he seems to come running back when I do that. and no, I didn't miss it on purpose Mimi.....
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not2, i've been takin' notes all evening... so much for that "fun" book, I couldn't get into it much the past few days... maybe soon, maybe not. too much drama!!
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He is still married to you. OW can't undo that.
He babbles.
You reverse babble.
You take every opportunity to deliver your message without love busting.
The message should always be the same message: You are MY husband and I will fight in any way I can to keep our family together. Mark, Thank you for posting to me... I wish I could recognize babble so I could babble back, but we don't talk about her, the affair or even our marriage. I'm afraid to bring it up for fear of what he'll say he really wants to do, file for D. I really wish there was something more active I could do to make the A end... I know I can't. Exposure's been done that could be done. being still...? I guess ;-) He did say he would take the kids somewhere wednesday afternoon and come back for dinner. He's changed his mind in the past, but I'll hope for the best I guess.
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He did say he would take the kids somewhere wednesday afternoon and come back for dinner. He's changed his mind in the past, but I'll hope for the best I guess. There's your opportunity to make OW even more insecure and push his betty crocker playmate buttons at the same time.... Why don't you suggest doing something together with the kids... Try not to let him go alone... then have a good dinner together... Take advantage of your information... you know OW stresses every time he's with you... Put on your Wonder Woman costume and make her squirm... Just keep thinking... Betty Crocker in the Kitchen... Playboy bunny in the bedroom... Now start planning on how you're gonna push his buttons and make OW super in-secure... Come back with a plan and we'll help you...
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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BTW...
Mark's great... he seems to hit the nail on the head everytime....
Good on ya Mark!
BH, 46
STBXWW, 41, Serial Cheater
D-Day #1 5-26-2006 (Our Wedding Aniversary)
D-Day #2 12-26-2007
D-Day #3 5-11-2008
Separated 1-5-2008
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Hello Daaaarrrrling.
You hanging in there OK? You seem to be a little more up and down than usual.
The whole she doesn’t want you around when he visits is great news. She's sees you as competition, so she doesn’t trust his undying love for her.
I'm not abandoning my supporters, you where there for me so expect me to check in on you as well. I feel that you and not are so close now... just keep up what you're doing.
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