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Some Brave Soul Wrote: We could make an exception for Mel since she has busted more WH's balls than just about anyone.....HAHAHAHAHA Not our meek and mild Melly. Never. Jo
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OK, I qualify as a BH. Here's a question for the group. Have any of us found all the pieces of our testicles since d-day?Whether recovered and happy or not we are a little less than what we were. And on that happy note, lets keep this party going!  Not even sure I have any left.
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
Henry David Thoreau
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Present.
Has the party started yet? Did I miss anything?
BH (me) age 55
FWW age 52
married 26 years
First DDay 2/23/08, 1 day after PA began, ~1-1/2 months after EA began
Multiple failed attempts at NC
confirmable NC since 1/23/09
(D 31; S 29) my first marriage
(D 27; S 25) her first marriage
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OK, I qualify as a BH. Here's a question for the group. Have any of us found all the pieces of our testicles since d-day? Whether recovered and happy or not we are a little less than what we were. And on that happy note, lets keep this party going! Krusht. How long has it been since the A was over for you?
BS ME 35, XWW 37, DS 7, DD 5, DS 5, D-day1 12-20-2007.Multiple Ddays
Divorce 1/29/2009
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I'm game 
BS(Me) - 47
Ex-W - 44
D final - Dec 08
Kids - 14s,13d,8d
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"How long has it been since the A was over for you?"
Dday, and the end of the A, was memorial day 2004. I wandered the battlefield in a dazed shock for about a month before finding MB.
My four year anniversary was acknowledged quietly in my head.
I discovered emails on her account. Never had gone there before. My trust was implicit. A started on the internet. OM lived in Phoenix, we in San Diego. He would fly in for a day of fun and frolic.
I had no clue. She compartmentalized well.
Enough about me
So SDGUY, is it San Diego or South Dakota?
kirk
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I know you said "enough about me", but did your marriage recover krusht?
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
Henry David Thoreau
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...someone mentioned a guy that was trying on my shoes. so i stopped back to make sure they fit. A wise man once said, "Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way, when you criticize them, you're a mile away and you have their shoes." 7-months in recovery and the roller coaster keeps on truckin'. 
Me: BH
Her: FWW
Kids:DSD 12, DS 7, DD, 7
EA/PA: September 2007 - November 2007
Status: In Recovery
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"but did your marriage recover krusht?"
Yes it did.....I guess...well, yeah, sure it did.
Define recover.
We are still together, happy with each other, and enjoy each others company.
It never is the same though, on the inside....but that's between me, myself and I, ya know?
Thanks for listening.
kirk
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ok, I'll play.
maybe the questions are about past honesty ? JCH once asked me to think about what questions I wanted to ask my WW.
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 Mel<----who thought thread title was "How many B S's are here?" when she posted yesterday, DUH! 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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I'm a member of the club. This club sucks.
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I'm a member of the club. This club sucks. Kinda like the Little Rascals "He-Man Woman Hater's Club"?
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Have any of us found all the pieces of our testicles since d-day?
Whether recovered and happy or not we are a little less than what we were. My answer to this is that I am slowly putting the pieces back together. I know my kids are being taken care of since they are with me; however sealing with the financial fallout has been very difficult and stressful. Plus they have only seen their mom a grand total of about 6 hours the last two months and won't see her for another month at least (long story). Will I be able to trust someone again? I dunno...time will tell as my personal recovery continues.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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BH - 29 (me)
WAW/WW - 27
Married 2 years
Together 10 years
no children
EA 1-08
Separated 2-08
PA 3-08
NC 4-08
False Recovery 5-08
NC Broken via email 8-08
NC Broken again via messenger 10-13
She walked out again 1-7-09
NC broken again just hours after she left.
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Have any of us found all the pieces of our testicles since d-day?
Whether recovered and happy or not we are a little less than what we were. Krusht - you think so? Since when has an "overcomer" of one life's hardest issues become "less than" what they were previously? And in answer to your first question...yes. It "happens" when you finally reach "Recovered," not while still "mired" in the process of recovering. It happens when you realize that there is much more to a marriage than what you find "below the belt." It happens when you realize just how much "testicular fortitude" it takes to actually overcome infidelity.
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ok i'll play as best i can.
seems many of you know each other so let me introduce myself. i came to MB 7 yrs back when w had a brief PA and then just drifted away after a yr or 2. was on another brd and someone mentioned a guy that was trying on my shoes. so i stopped back to make sure they fit.
so what's the secret handshake? -Pops, good to have you aboard. Ive been reading RB's thread and I think he is very fortunate to have you advising him.
BS ME 35, XWW 37, DS 7, DD 5, DS 5, D-day1 12-20-2007.Multiple Ddays
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