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If she is, that's DISGUSTING.
There's NO WAY that I would go live there..NO WAY...
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Is she living in YOUR HOUSE? Rented house our home
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She wants me to accept that they r together This is BEYOND RIDICULOUS, Brown! Who cares what she says, wants or does!!
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You should not go back to live there!!
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STAND TALL, BROWN!! HEAD UP!! CHEST OUT!!
Decide that you will not put up with this crap anymore!!
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Of course you will NEVER accept your HUSBAND living with another woman..NEVER EVER EVER IN THIS LIFETIME is what I would tell her if I was faced with the opportunity like you were...it wouldn't have worked for me and the other woman to be in the same room though...
But I don't think YOU should EVER talk with her EVER AGAIN!!
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She wants me to accept that they r together This is BEYOND RIDICULOUS, Brown! Who cares what she says, wants or does!! She wants that acceptance so that my H doesn't feel bad about how it is affecting me. They can't move forward bcos of the way it is affecting me. WH told me that she thinks that they can get married and they both can help me to get over him. How ridiculous!!!!!!!!! She's lost her marbles.
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Of course you will NEVER accept your HUSBAND living with another woman..NEVER EVER EVER IN THIS LIFETIME is what I would tell her if I was faced with the opportunity like you were...it wouldn't have worked for me and the other woman to be in the same room though...
But I don't think YOU should EVER talk with her EVER AGAIN!! I told them both that! I would never accept this, and that if this is what they want, they should move and cease all contact with me.
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STAND TALL, BROWN!! HEAD UP!! CHEST OUT!!
Decide that you will not put up with this crap anymore!! I am going to concentrate on my life, getting my career on track, being emotionally independent and i want to buy my own house, so that no one can kick me out of my own house
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I told them both that! I would never accept this, and that if this is what they want, they should move and cease all contact with me. WONDERFUL!!
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I am going to concentrate on my life, getting my career on track, being emotionally independent and i want to buy my own house, so that no one can kick me out of my own house WONDERFUL AGAIN!! Get to writing that PLAN B LETTER!! Their affair won't last BUT you may not be around WAITING!!
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She wants that acceptance so that my H doesn't feel bad about how it is affecting me. They can't move forward bcos of the way it is affecting me. WH told me that she thinks that they can get married and they both can help me to get over him. How ridiculous!!!!!!!!! She's lost her marbles. Hooohaaaaa....baww.....hhhhhhahahahahhhh...... OMG....OMG....OMG....WTH????? This is the funniest thing I have heard today.......the stupid things adulterer's will say......lol.....  (I know it is disgusting, but it really did make me laugh....seriously....get married and they BOTH can HELP YOU????/ .....it still makes me laugh....what a preposterous idea...totally silly.... In fact, I think this is SO funny it should go down as one of the foggiest fogspeak heard thread...... not2fun
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She wants that acceptance so that my H doesn't feel bad about how it is affecting me. They can't move forward bcos of the way it is affecting me. WH told me that she thinks that they can get married and they both can help me to get over him. How ridiculous!!!!!!!!! She's lost her marbles. Hooohaaaaa....baww.....hhhhhhahahahahhhh...... OMG....OMG....OMG....WTH????? This is the funniest thing I have heard today.......the stupid things adulterer's will say......lol..... (I know it is disgusting, but it really did make me laugh....seriously....get married and they BOTH can HELP YOU????/ .....it still makes me laugh....what a preposterous idea...totally silly.... In fact, I think this is SO funny it should go down as one of the foggiest fogspeak heard thread...... not2fun i found it funny too at least i can smile abt it
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I am going to concentrate on my life, getting my career on track, being emotionally independent and i want to buy my own house, so that no one can kick me out of my own house WONDERFUL AGAIN!! Get to writing that PLAN B LETTER!! Their affair won't last BUT you may not be around WAITING!! I will need to read up on Plan B letter. Mimi I feel stronger in some ways but i need help in maintaining that strength. I never want anyone to treat me so rubbish
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Who is on the rental agreement of your home? If he has brought in the other woman you should not be there with him. Either kick him and her out and get em off the rental agreement legally or you get out and take your name off the rental agreement. You are an accountant! Surely you of all people are smart enough to buy your own home! Go for it!
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Stella,
I think she said that he is the only one on the agreement and he paid for it out of his own account, they've never had joint accounts.
BROWN,
PLEASE WRITE THE PLAN B LETTER!!!! DO YOU SEE HOW EMOTIONALLY SICK WHAT THEY DID TO YOU TODAY WAS????? IT MAKES ME SO UPSET THAT I AM WRITING IN ALL CAPS. IT MAKES MY STOMACHE TURN. THEY PLAYED ON YOUR EMOTIONS TO FEED INTO THEIR DRAMA. IT IS ABSOLUTELY DISGUSTING!!!!!
I know you are hurting and you love this man, but Brown, HE is Emotionally Disturbed. He LOVES having 2 women who love him and want him and it has fed his ego to the point of destroying all involved.
Look at the life that this OW is living, the one that is living WITH HIM. It's very similar to what you would be going through if you were the one physically living with him as well. He has made both of you OW....the only difference is that you have the marriage certificate and she lives with him.
This is SO disgusting and he is an emotional cripple preying on both of you.
I have absolutely no respect for this man after RE-READING your post and hearing the emotional roller coaster that he has you on. His ego thrives on this drama.
CHECK YOURSELF OUT OF IT!!! Write the Plan B letter, mail it to him or leave it on his car or something that does not require you personally hand it to him so you don't have to see his fake tears and hear his lies of love for you.
No one says you have to file for D right now, you're not trying to be in another R anyway so having the M ended does not have to be high on your list, but GETTING AWAY FROM THEM does!!!!
NO WONDER YOU HAVE BEEN FEELING SO LOW!! He has been leading you on just enough to keep your interest, to keep your love, to give you false hope.
You have done ENOUGH PLAN A to last his lifetime.
Brown, please tell us that you are going to go into Plan B and STICK WITH IT!!
No woman (or man) should have to suffer this way and be humiliated as he has done to you.
I'm praying for you tonight...and every night until you are strong.
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Stella
OnlyUcan is right i don't have my name on the rental agreement, he does and he pays the rent
OnlyUcan
Thank you so much for your prayers. I do really need them to get out of this mess with my emotions intact.
Yesterday was horrible. I get the feeling I am being manipulated but i can't seem to believe that my H would stoop so low
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i can't seem to believe that my H would stoop so low He is an ADDICT!
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Brown,
It would take me hours to copy and paste for you from your OWN THREAD all the ways in which he has STOOPED SO LOW!!
Your WH is sick, one of the worst cases that I have seen. This is pure and simple abuse Brown.
Imagine what he did to you as if you were a child. Daddy calls up and says, Sweetie, if my new family leaves me today, will you come home to me tomorrow?? Of course Daddy, I've been waiting for you to call. Later.... through text...Daddy, where are you? I'm packed and ready to go. Daddy responds, just wait Sweetie, I'm hear with my new family because they are hurting and this is really hard on them. I need to be here where they can be comforted. Later again....Daddy brings you to his house with his new family.... his new family says, IT'S OK...you don't need a Daddy. He's ours now, we can help you FORGET HIM!!
He is treating you like a child Brown. He is mocking you, degrading you, USING YOU, walking all over you. If you had a daughter, would you let her go through this???
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Find a Codependency Group instead of Alanon (unless you want to do both).
CODA - look it up online and find one in your area. GO ASAP!
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