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I think in my case it will depend oh WH's attitude....if his remorseful etc...
Also the dynamics at home have changed quite a bit..DS18 has taken over WH's role around the house.I think WH would feel out of place for a while if he came home.
Believer,you mentioned on my stitch that you thought WH and OP were still in the honeymoon phase...surely after 20 months thats long gone?
BS;ME43,WH45
DS19,DS16
DDay:6Dec06
WH left12Dec06
DIV:3Dec08
WH marries OW 21days later!
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It seems to me that they are still in the honeymoon stage. Your husband is still taxiing aroung her children, apparently without complaining to her.
It is extremely hard to live with other people's children, let alone during an affair. Sooner or later they will start fighting.
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Just wanted to say thank you Believer, for the many times you said just the right thing when I needed it most during my battle with FWW A. FWW and I are doing as well as any could expect and I am recovering.
My heart goes out to you and I could never be the one to give advice, but I know I thank God everyday that my wife was willing to come back our marriage even though, most would have advised her to run from me and my gambling forever.
Sober from gambling now 259 days and not even a desire to go back.
Yes my wife had an A but though many have told me it was not my fault, I did drive her to it.
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believer..
remember when he sent you flowers...and you then took the flowers and gave him and her a perverbial beating with them...
oh my goodness.....
seems like a lifetime ago....
I still love love love the selling of the bike to you know who...
I hope you are reaching that point of distance...to be able to smile a little bout those things...
your classiness...
and
your profound humbleness
while there is nothing good from what your ex did...
you were and are and will go on....as
a good woman...
truly a Good Woman...
blessings to you...
ARKie
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"Sober from gambling now 259 days and not even a desire to go back." YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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jimld, I agree 100% with what you said about Believer.Believer, your posts to me are invaluable...better than any therapist!!!
I do hope you are right about affairs ending.I honestly don't see my WH's ending at all...maybe I'm too emotionally involved,dunno...time will tell....
Either way,you have helped me more than you realise...thank you
BS;ME43,WH45
DS19,DS16
DDay:6Dec06
WH left12Dec06
DIV:3Dec08
WH marries OW 21days later!
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