Hey, SL. Hope the ICK is all gone. How's things on the eastern front?

Fox

SL, For so long you were here and now you are gone and just so you know, you are missed so much..




Come back soon and know that you are loved and want to hear how goes it...

Boy it's been waayyy to long checking in on you! You sound GREAT!!!! Plan..focus...you ARE on the right road where ever that leads you.

:happythanksgiving: to you and the little guy!

Hey add me to your email hit list if you will...I do enjoy hearing about your accomplishments and determination!

SL,


...ditto for me.

Hey ladies and gents,

Luna and mvg, I sent you two an email, so you are both in the loop.

Nothing new to report. Just waiting for the divorce and moving right along.

I have good and bad days, but luckily, they are the garden variety non-wayward related types. Just normal ups and downs. Today is rainy and blah so I feel a little rainy and blah. I loathe coldrainywetwintryweather. BLEHHHHH (a la snoopy).

:pumkin: :gobblegobble: :happythanksgiving:

Thought I'd throw all of the Thanksgiving emoticons out there in case I don't get back here again this week.

I think of y'all often and pray we all find great reward at the end of this mess. Heck, sometimes it's reward enough to just be out from beneath that dark cloud the wayward has over them...

Silent:

Glad to hear about this:

And I don't like the cold blah weather either....

LG

Yeah, it stinks. It really does tend to bring me down. I am a sun worshipper FO-SHO!!! I could deal with the cold, like yesterday, if the sun is out and the wind is down, but that's not the usual weather event here in the winter. Dank and cloudy is usually it

I can only hope that others here get to where I am, with the normal ups and downs. Let's put it this way, I believe the Z has a new woman in his life, and I thought it would bother me. It doesn't. My ONLY concern is for DS and if this woman will be good to him--be a positive influence in his life. IF not, she will be answering to this girl--I [censored] you not!

Silent:

I started in Michigan....

This here ain't so bad!

But I understand.....

I don't think I could ever go further south than North Carolina. I like some change in the Weather.

But with all this global warming, Maine will soon be the new Florida. So, you might not have to move to the SW.

LG

Well, after I'm gone, you can write me and let me know when things change, and I'll move back

I have always wanted to live in the SW. I've got friends there and they're steadily luring me out there. I'm happy to oblige, since it was never too far from my mind.

The way I see it, I got married and stuck to my man and my vows. I did ask him to move south of MD the year before all this crapola started, but I would have never forced such a major change/move on him, our marriage. Now, I'm going it alone and am not interested in compromising this with him. I AM interested in doing what is best for DS WITH this decision. I will work it out with his dad. I just won't give this up. I want this chance, this change. I can always come back, but I will kick myself if I don't do this now, when I'm young and DS is still young.

Anyway, y'all have already heard all of this before. I'm a big girl and I'm ready.

NolongerSilent:

Sounds like your talking yourself into it.

I visited the SW. Flew into LasVegas, and been to CA a couple of times.

No water there.

That's my issue.

Over the past 1009 years, from 1880 to 1860 was the wettest. So it's just going to get drier there.

Scary. They way they make noise about water when we are on the ChesBay and to think out there, your on the colorado, or you got nothing....

Eeek.

However, that's me. It can be a wonderful place to live. New Mexico seems more interesting the NV or AZ. CA is to expensive.

But you GO Girl. You have done harder things already. With alot less planning. DS, in this case, (unlike the wayward credo: "they will adjust") will adapt. Because his Mom will think about things, work some issues and have a plan that makes sense before she goes.

Makes all the difference in the world.

LG

I will definitely do some travelling once I move. I have always wanted to see NM. Nevada-meh, not so much. CA--definitely San Diego--too expensive to live there right now.

I have always been a plans kinda girl, but MB has really driven home how wise it is to research and do all you can to make things as easy as possible. I've been reading a lot about how to help kids transition into a new environment, especially school. Lots of good info on what you can do to make the kids feel a part of the whole shebang, even though they cannot choose to remain in their old town, they can help choose where they will live, what their room will be like, and how you can help them at school (volunteering in the classroom on and off for a bit, getting involved in community sports/events right away).

The kicker is none of this would even have crossed my mind if I had a marriage on it's way to recovery. In many ways, I feel like I have been set free. I don't regret anything that I did anymore. I don't regret trying like h3ll to save my marriage. I have been working on forgiving myself for the mistakes I made in my marriage. It's been an uphill battle because I was sooooo convinced that i screwed everything up--taking the BLAME for the demise of our DINK status by getting pregnant. If anything, the Z is the idiot for looking at the situation as a bummer instead of seeing his son as the ultimate gift. I believe the Z feels more like his son is a gift now, but he also only sees him 20% of the time, so it's all about the fun stuff.

Anyway, I'm a happy camper.

I really like going down to Santa Fe for a weekend once in a while but it has been a long time. Very beautiful. Georgia O’Keeffe country.



Cool!


Have a great Thanksgiving.

GREAT news, Miss Lucidity!

I think of you often and hope things are going well for you and DS.

Have a fantastic Thanksgiving and keep those plans amovin'.

Fox

DS is home sick today, with a sore throat, cough and tiny smide of a temperature. I am at work getting some things that MUST be done today finished and then I'm outta here.

DS is doing very well. He just finished his last football game of the season. Their record is 4 wins out of 7 games. DS carried the ball for 10 yards before they pulled his flag this Sunday. It was his third carry of the season. HE's not the most athletic kid, but the coaches have worked with him and he's drastically improved. It was so fun to watch him go. He was so pleased with himself. The tournment single round eliminations start in two weeks, and then that's it until baseball season in the spring.

For some reason this made me think of when life gives you lemons, make lemonade. And you my dear seem to be making the grandest ones of all. Nice and sweet, with such promise.

Moving can be very good. When you heal yourself internally first and look forward to the possibilities instead of running away, which is exactly what you are doing.

The southwest is just magnificent and beautiful.

Happy Thanksgiving to you if you don't get a chance to check back.

:gobblegobble: :happythanksgiving:

You're sounding great SL! Keep on keepin on girl, you're doin it right.

Oh.. and I'm with Queenie all the way when I say..


Nice lemons

You know at this point, I think I took the lemons, grabbed some limes, sugar, grand marnier, good tequila and made myself some margarita's

This sounds WAY BETTER....

Have one for ME....

These days, one seems to be my limit, so I'll tip a glass for all my friends here. I wouldn't have made it outta this mess as quickly and safely without you all.

Great news SL. I'm very happy to see how well you have recovered yourself.

I was in Bmore recently for a trade show. It seemed like a fun place, although I didn't get too far beyond the convention center. The crab cakes were great though.