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Scripture tells us to pray for our enemies. We expose them so that their is no activity that is not hidden from the world.

I believe we should be angry for their insult to Gods holy institution of marriage. How do we reconcile this to seeking their benefit?


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Tell us your story.

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Stella,

This is for those posters like GWN, Kickme who were/are ordained ministers. Obviously there is a great deal of stress in their lives.

As I pray for these folk I realise that that there witness is under great stress. I seek for ways that a Christian can honour God under trying circumstances.


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imagine,

I too am curious about your story...

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Ms. W.

You know the story.

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I seek for ways that a Christian can honour God under trying circumstances.
Imagine, I would ask you to entertain that it isn't just Christians who need to honor G-d during trying times, but ALL humans.

I choose to believe that we honor G-d by our actions. I choose to not become bitter, but look at my part, change my part and become a better person. I choose to seek G-d and ask him what he needs from me to honor him and serve him.

In the AA big book there is a page on resentments where for two solid weeks it is suggested to pray for the person you resent. We aren't G-d, we are HUMANS and don't see the bigger picture.

I'm certainly not suggesting we make it easy on them, like them, wish the best etc. I'm just suggesting that honoring G-d is leaving them in G-ds hands.


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Queenie,

I liked your answer.


imagine might want to respond with the truth of his story, given the "Christian" nature of the question, and many of his posts.

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Originally Posted by schoolbus
Ms. W.

You know the story.

SB

There doesn't seem to be one.


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Like yourselves I carry very great burden when a Christian is under strain. More so than a non-Christian who does not have the responsibility of representing Christ.

I believe that any circumstance is allowed by God for a purpose. We can observe Job who had testified strongly in God's favour, but was used to serve as an example of God's strength, sovereignty and love.

I can plainly envisage the pain and frustration in a Christian's heart as he struggles to deal with his own circumstances. Many non Christians might say that a believer has the power to combat the circumstances. I believe they are correct. But only in Christ.

Against the advice of this panel of not educating affair participants. May there not be opportunity to share personal witness that will extend God's kingdom?


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Imagine,

Why the reticence to share your story? I realize there is no rule here that says that you have to, of course, but I do feel that you would be taken more seriously if you chose to be forthcoming...

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It's called being deceiving.


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I seek for ways that a Christian can honour God under trying circumstances.
Imagine, I would ask you to entertain that it isn't just Christians who need to honor G-d during trying times, but ALL humans.

Thanks for your valued input Queenie.

There is a Scripture in the New Testament that instructs a Christian to take up his daily cross. One of the testimonies of a Christian is that they will suffer in their Christian walk.

Failure to experience suffering for their faith is strongly going to question their spiritual strength. I'm looking at infidelity being a test of their spiritual depth.


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Listen to alot of John Lennon do you?


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Originally Posted by Pariah
Listen to alot of John Lennon do you?

Hmmm! Pariah I always wondered why they tossed you out the church.


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Hi Mrs W,

I started half a story for Zen on Valentines day. Still need to complete it.


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Originally Posted by imagine
Hi Mrs W,

I started half a story for Zen on Valentines day. Still need to complete it.

I will look forward to reading it, Imagine. Thanks! smile

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Originally Posted by imagine
Originally Posted by Pariah
Listen to alot of John Lennon do you?

Hmmm! Pariah I always wondered why they tossed you out the church.

I know why.

C'mon take another swipe.

Seems I struck the right nerve about your user name.


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Originally Posted by imagine
May there not be opportunity to share personal witness that will extend God's kingdom?

The answer is yes... and many times over. The fact that an OP still draws breath means a BS has chosen to resist the fleshly desire for revenge. Only God knows how many prayers have been sent up by betrayed spouses who earnestly feared for the souls of their WS AND the OP. Many times what an OP doesn't see and hear is a stronger witness than any words an OP would accept from a BS... though the OP may not realize that fact.

Christians who have been through affairs learn new lessons about faith, love, forgiveness, long suffering and mercy that make them better witnesses in many different areas of their lives.
That said, it is unwise and unnecessary for a betrayed spouse or a wayward spouse to feel responsible for directly ministering to the OP. God will send someone else to do that job.


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Originally Posted by imagine
Originally Posted by Pariah
Listen to alot of John Lennon do you?

Hmmm! Pariah I always wondered why they tossed you out the church.

I know why.

C'mon take another swipe.

Seems I struck the right nerve about your user name.


LOL. Sorry, the question seemed so obscure, I had no idea of the questions inception. Imagination is part of my personality. My house is full of innovative gadgets of my own design.

I hope too that I can offer an imaginative solution to somebodies marital problem.

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That said, it is unwise and unnecessary for a betrayed spouse or a wayward spouse to feel responsible for directly ministering to the OP. God will send someone else to do that job.

I'd be pretty happy to "minister" to OM with a baseball bat actually.


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