Is he one of those people who feels only the new testament applies?He has actually taken the majority of the scriptures from the New Testament. We have always desired to adhere, align and trust and follow ALL the Word of God and not just what sounds easy to follow...that is why I am looking at this totally scripturally to see what he is seeing. I still think that D and DJ are in all this; the Holy Spirit is NOT speaking to me that this is how a man should treat and speak and discipline (?) his wife.

***The churches of Smyrna, Thyratira and Philadelphia are left out of the arguement because they do not include such repentance and rebuking as these do.

Revelation 2
1Unto the angel of the church of Ephesus write; These things saith he that holdeth the seven stars in his right hand, who walketh in the midst of the seven golden candlesticks;
2I know thy works, and thy labour, and thy patience, and how thou canst not bear them which are evil: and thou hast tried them which say they are apostles, and are not, and hast found them liars: 3And hast borne, and hast patience, and for my name's sake hast laboured, and hast not fainted. 4Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. 5Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent. 12And to the angel of the church in Pergamos write; These things saith he which hath the sharp sword with two edges; 13I know thy works, and where thou dwellest, even where Satan's seat is: and thou holdest fast my name, and hast not denied my faith, even in those days wherein Antipas was my faithful martyr, who was slain among you, where Satan dwelleth. 14But I have a few things against thee, because thou hast there them that hold the doctrine of Balaam, who taught Balac to cast a stumblingblock before the children of Israel, to eat things sacrificed unto idols, and to commit fornication. 15So hast thou also them that hold the doctrine of the Nicolaitanes, which thing I hate. 16Repent; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will fight against them with the sword of my mouth.

1And unto the angel of the church in Sardis write; These things saith he that hath the seven Spirits of God, and the seven stars; I know thy works, that thou hast a name that thou livest, and art dead. 2Be watchful, and strengthen the things which remain, that are ready to die: for I have not found thy works perfect before God. 3Remember therefore how thou hast received and heard, and hold fast, and repent. If therefore thou shalt not watch, I will come on thee as a thief, and thou shalt not know what hour I will come upon thee.

14And unto the angel of the church of the Laodiceans write; These things saith the Amen, the faithful and true witness, the beginning of the creation of God; 15I know thy works, that thou art neither cold nor hot: I would thou wert cold or hot. 16So then because thou art lukewarm, and neither cold nor hot, I will spue thee out of my mouth. 7Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched,and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked: 18I counsel thee to buy of me gold tried in the fire, that thou mayest be rich; and white raiment, that thou mayest be clothed, and that the shame of thy nakedness do not appear; and anoint thine eyes with eyesalve, that thou mayest see. 19As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.
Along with the submission scriptures; these are mainly his reasons for demanding SF.
[quote]Here's a question:
Ask your DH what you submitting to him means. His answer will tell you all you need to know.

The scripture I'm familiar with is Esphesians 5:22-33

Ephesians 5:22-33 (New International Version)

Wives and Husbands
22Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church— 30for we are members of his body. 31"For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh."[b] 32This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband

Your H is a control freak, plain and simple. I bet he's bounced around in a lot of churches because he disagrees with some minor point of doctrine. Anyone or anything that questions his supreme dictatorship over you and his family must be from Satan. He demands to be king of the house and you are his servant. Am I close?

Your H should be the head of the household. That's scriptural.

But he should act in a way that you WANT to submit to his leadership. Leadership is NOT lording authority over "inferior" subjects.

It is setting an example by actions. He is commanded to love you as Christ loved the church (BTW, you are not commanded to love him, only to respect him).

Christ showed love and compassion toward sinners with no expectation of anything in return. Christ put others before himself. Christ sacrificed his own life. You will never be able to freely submit to your H until he demonstrates this sort of unselfish love.

Your H should read the description of the biblical wife in Proverbs 31. The woman in Proverbs 31 undoubtedly submits to her husband, but she also has freedom, power, and the respect of her husband. Her opinion matters, and her husband values the wisdom that she brings to the table.

Unfortunately, I don't think there is anything you can do to change your H. That will only happen if and when he has an epiphany. Just try to work on yourself and especially your self esteem.