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I made her pay to live at home. Her spreadsheet was $$ and what she paid.
Dentist...$43 Food.....$80
Stuff like that. We agreed on a 70/30 split of everything $ wise. Her portion was/is $1000
Me 35 W 31 D12 D9 Exposure day 12/29/08 (Ws 32nd bday) I wanted to fix marriage June 1st A found out June 11th W came home August 18th till the end BS papers from her Oct 2nd Real papers from me Oct 17th
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I cannot wait to "get on" with my life!!
Sat nite I had a party at the Carp house.....minus WW of course. It was a family party....5 adults and about 8 kids. We BBQ, drank, had a bonfire....the kind of party we used to have a few times a year. I did have a "twinge" of missing WW....overall I was very happy!
I have this ability to "live" around WW rite now....kinda wierd.
She knew about the party....even started cleaning up some stuff....I told her not to worry about it.
She had bought some chicken breasts and brats a week ago.....offered for us to eat them...I said no...those are hers. She made a comment about stuff not being "hers"....it was everyones.....she brought up how I don't save her any food...I referenced her email not to save her a plate for dinner and she doesn't want to eat as a "family".....and went about my business.
Me and the kids met her Sunday about noon for lunch. WW and I wanted to talk to the kids together about the upcoming living arrangements. The girls were talking about the party....WW commented that we weren't having a "family" meal but more of a meeting. The kids seemed "ok" with the arrangement....time will tell.
I met with my IC last night. I had a long day of work/soccer practice etc. She commented that I seemed good. We talked about some of the stuff WW had been doing lately and saying.....IC shakes her head. IC said WW has no clue what she is in store for in the near future. I on the other hand have had plenty of "practice". IC said overall as far as the D is concerned I am doing and gonna be ok. How many men.....keep there home? See there kids ALOT? Have as much control as I do? I told IC I can't wait for my first weekend alone! I thought it seemed selfish...she said no.
Tomorrow morning is court....it should go smooth...
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Good luck, Carp. I'm still reading and keeping up with your situation. You are doing amazing! :-)
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Good luck, Carp. I'm still reading and keeping up with your situation. You are doing amazing! :-) Thx Verve that means alot to me. Something strange that just happened....I asked WW if she would be team mom for D9s soccer team.....and she said yes....ugh! I think I am doing a plan A straight to plan D.....and I feel good about it! Is it wrong?
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BW - me exWH - serial cheater 2 awesome kids Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot. --------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Thx BR My lawyer emailed me last night saying she received the paperwork from the mediator. We emailed back and forth abit and she made some legal papers out of it for court this afternoon. NO mention of CS. She did put that my address would be the address used for school registration. I have not said anything about it to WW....maybe my lawyer is gonna try to spring it on her and her lawyer in the hallway? Not sure. It also states that this agreement is not 100% but is just a guideline for what the final papers will say.
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I hope that everything went well, Carp. Keep us updated.
I've got my fingers crossed for ya! :-)
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She had bought some chicken breasts and brats a week ago.....offered for us to eat them...I said no...those are hers. She made a comment about stuff not being "hers"....it was everyones.....she brought up how I don't save her any food...I referenced her email not to save her a plate for dinner and she doesn't want to eat as a "family".....and went about my business. I want to share this item with you for your plan A. Share her food and yours. This is a token of goodwill. This is called hospitality. Not taking her food is like already enforcing the divorce. There is a story of two young suitors who were seeking approval from the girls father to court her. The first suitor arranged for a skiing accident to happen to the father. The dude rescued dad. Dad avoided him later as he was embarrassed by the accident. The second suitor arranged that the accident happen to himself and contrived that the father rescue him. Dad was always helpful to second suitor as the incident reminded him of his heroism recovering the young lad. Choose the path of second suitor.
But I, being poor, have only my dreams; I have spread my dreams under your feet; Tread softly because you tread on my dreams -Yeats
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I never deny her anything that I purchase.....I don't even mention it. I even offer it to her and let her decide.
I guess I was simply "reverse fog babbling" her......she had specifically stated once in an email about NOT saving her dinner, eating HER food, etc.
I will update legal proceedings later....I gotta get to work first!
Let's just say.....I am smiling!
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I will update legal proceedings later....I gotta get to work first!
Let's just say.....I am smiling! We'll be waiting.... (drumming fingers on desk)
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage ********************* “In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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My phone crashed and I lost a great post!
Short story
WW moves out march 28th.
Her lawyer came up with CS like this..... Her full custody I pay 1100 per month Me full custody she pays 650 per Difference 450 paid to her based on 50/50 The reality is more like 60/40-65/35 because of WWs work schedule and what we discussed in mediation. So far no "official" $ has been set. I emailed my lawyer a better description of how it's not really 50/50 this morning.
Financials...... Annuity....10,000 to her after taxes/fees Equity.......approx 12-14,000 depending on appraisal. Mine will be low....she can get her own.
Debt.....approx 13,000 total. 6500 is "hers".
24-7=17,000 approx for WW.
Any other questions.....my thumbs hurt!
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She gone!
Saturday night was her last night sleepng at home.
Sunday was moving day....and the weather was less then ideal in the Midwest. I woke up at 8am and we had horizontal "heart attack" snow till about 10am. WW actually commented how the weather crappy! I made a very casual comment about how the "karma bus" was coming by! I got a bit of a nasty glance.....
I helped her load her van for the first trip. I went about my normal Sunday routine after that. We crossed paths in the afternoon when I got back from grocery shopping.
She took the girls out for dinner last night. After that it was just me and my girls for the evening. I had both girls alarms set, clothes laid out, and a brief "meeting" about how the mornings will be this week. This morning my dad was at my house at 5:20.....10mins early. I had coffee ready, girls lunches made. He asked where my timeline list was....I told him I was lazy last night and didn't make it. He flipped open his laptop and started with the questions....times girls get up, leave for school, etc. WW will be taking D9 to school at about 7:30 and D12 walks to the bus stop at 8am.
I have been lazy with my lazy journal lately but this week I will start again everyday.
While I was watching TV last night I actually missed WW....only lasted about 10mins.... I put out a coffee cup for WW....don't ask me why.....
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I am sorry for the split, what about the girls, she is just to go about her life, leave you with the girls and play mother?
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{{{carp}}} I'm happy for you and sad for you at the same time. Is that possible?
You seem like a great guy; I'm sure someone is going to come along some day and see what a great catch you are and snatch you up before anyone else can.
Love that your dad is helping the way he is. Your daughters are lucky to have both of you.
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I am sorry for the split, what about the girls, she is just to go about her life, leave you with the girls and play mother? She has been "playing mother" for at least a year now.... We have a every other week arrangement rite now.
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{{{carp}}} I'm happy for you and sad for you at the same time. Is that possible?
You seem like a great guy; I'm sure someone is going to come along some day and see what a great catch you are and snatch you up before anyone else can.
Love that your dad is helping the way he is. Your daughters are lucky to have both of you. Happy and sad....I understand 100%! Honestly....I don't wanna be "snatched up" rite now! LOL. My dad left when I was 6.....I am actually proud of him for stepping up!
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What does she think is in stored for her? Life is just fun and games. You sound like a very patient man, and just what a good woman needs. Is she in an affair, I did not read your thread.
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What does she think is in stored for her? Life is just fun and games. You sound like a very patient man, and just what a good woman needs. Is she in an affair, I did not read your thread. Yes the affair is still alive
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have you busted the affair, does the om know you know?
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