Ugh...the bullets didn't work.

btw...have you noticed the new emoticons??

:twobyfour: - that's so awesome!!!

Sorry DF, I only just noticed these. I have printed them out and will hopefully get mine done.

Thanx

HAve just been discussing, with a friend, how easy it may be to slip into an A . Although she or her H haven't been there she can totally see where the vulnerabilities are in her M and I think she has gone home to look at closing some gaps.

I like your EPs drgnfly - hope you don't mind me using it as reference to start my own. Have emailed it to MrST too, I wonder whether he thinks he should have a list ( I hope he does).

Thank you

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Does anyone have anymore examples of EP's? I believe I failed at setting boundaries in my marriage, which led to my wife's A. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.

Heartbroken, this is what my H and I worked on last week, his weakness protection plan, though I believe it's called EPs also. I don't know if it would help but you asked for more examples... so here it goes:

I will not contact OWs in any way.

If I see them I will immediately walk away and let my W know right away.

I will not talk to any other woman about my personal life i.e.: sex, marriage, etc.

I will not talk about sports or play sports with any other woman except for my W.

If any woman asks me if I'm happily married, I will always say yes.

If anyone asks me about my affair, I will always tell them the truth and that it was very hurtful to my wife and to myself, and that it will never happen again.

I will always tell my W right away if I have any kind of contact with any other woman.

If any other woman wants to talk to me, I will always make sure people are around. If I find myself in a situation where I am alone with a woman, I will get out of that situation immediately.

I will not take trips without my W again.

I will not cause my W any unhappiness.

I will POJA with my W on everything.

I will account for my whereabouts at all times.

I will spend at least 15 hours UA with my W every week.

I will do a session with Harley once every year for the remainder of our M.

I will let my W know right away if I feel I am unhappy or something is missing in our M.

I will not attend any [specific type] events without my W unless I am going with a family member.


Now that's a thought, should I develop one for myself too? I'll discuss that with my H...

That does help, thank you.