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Ugh...the bullets didn't work. btw...have you noticed the new emoticons?? :twobyfour: - that's so awesome!!!
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Sorry DF, I only just noticed these. I have printed them out and will hopefully get mine done.
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HAve just been discussing, with a friend, how easy it may be to slip into an A . Although she or her H haven't been there she can totally see where the vulnerabilities are in her M and I think she has gone home to look at closing some gaps.
I like your EPs drgnfly - hope you don't mind me using it as reference to start my own. Have emailed it to MrST too, I wonder whether he thinks he should have a list ( I hope he does).
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Does anyone have anymore examples of EP's? I believe I failed at setting boundaries in my marriage, which led to my wife's A. Any help would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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Heartbroken, this is what my H and I worked on last week, his weakness protection plan, though I believe it's called EPs also. I don't know if it would help but you asked for more examples... so here it goes:
I will not contact OWs in any way.
If I see them I will immediately walk away and let my W know right away.
I will not talk to any other woman about my personal life i.e.: sex, marriage, etc.
I will not talk about sports or play sports with any other woman except for my W.
If any woman asks me if I'm happily married, I will always say yes.
If anyone asks me about my affair, I will always tell them the truth and that it was very hurtful to my wife and to myself, and that it will never happen again.
I will always tell my W right away if I have any kind of contact with any other woman.
If any other woman wants to talk to me, I will always make sure people are around. If I find myself in a situation where I am alone with a woman, I will get out of that situation immediately.
I will not take trips without my W again.
I will not cause my W any unhappiness.
I will POJA with my W on everything.
I will account for my whereabouts at all times.
I will spend at least 15 hours UA with my W every week.
I will do a session with Harley once every year for the remainder of our M.
I will let my W know right away if I feel I am unhappy or something is missing in our M.
I will not attend any [specific type] events without my W unless I am going with a family member.
Now that's a thought, should I develop one for myself too? I'll discuss that with my H...
Me, BS, 35 - H, FWS, 38 Married 15 years, 4.5 years into Recovery EA/PA 7/09-9/09 DDay 9/5/09, started Plan A Exposed 9/13/09, started preparing for Plan B H finally confessed and agreed to NC 9/27/09, never went to Plan B Still a MB rookie, but striving to learn more and put it into practice every day... w/ FWH along for the ride
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That does help, thank you.
Married 7/10/04 Me: BS 32, WW:26 D-Day 12/23/09 Separation 12/28/09- OM Revealed 1/12/10 WW cuts most contact with me/Starts seeing a different OM 2/2/10 Divorce papers served 10/15/10 Divorce finalized 11/9/10
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