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Yup, dat did it! Thar he is! You all still haven't trumped the white water rafting! She really shouldn't be socializing with the opposite sex, ya know. Have you boys learned nothing?
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Well, we have Corridor Wine & Spirits here in MD. Yes, y'all, I live in MARYLAND...not PA...
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Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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and down here we kick our sh1t BAREFOOTED!!
wait....that didn't come out right Buy some boots, would ya? There is a reason they are required in this neck of the woods - to stomp the birkenstock wearin' yuppies toes.
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She really shouldn't be socializing with the opposite sex, ya know. Have you boys learned nothing? I thought about this, too. It may actually take some convincing to get together now, cuz AZ man is definitely on board with MB philosophy, which doesn't lend itself well to partying with the boyz....
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"If ya liked it, then ya shoulda puta ring on it." I thought about this, too. It may actually take some convincing to get together now, cuz AZ man is definitely on board with MB philosophy, which doesn't lend itself well to partying with the boyz.... It's okay, they'll all be wondering around the DAVCO! THE LARGEST LIQUOR STORE ON THE PLANET!!! - yadda yadda. We could have ourselves a grand old time whilst the boyz are lost. Fox
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She really shouldn't be socializing with the opposite sex, ya know. Have you boys learned nothing? I thought about this, too. It may actually take some convincing to get together now, cuz AZ man is definitely on board with MB philosophy, which doesn't lend itself well to partying with the boyz.... We'll fly him in cheap on Southwest Can't do that in Montanna!!
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We'll fly him in cheap on Southwest
Can't do that in Montanna!! Why not?
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Hi SL,
Been away for a bit...and just got caught up on your thread.
I see a lot has happened. You sound good. Look forward to updates on your new beginning.
Take care.
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So Bugsy mentioned an update on what's doin with the AZ stuff...
I told the Z about my desire to move, and that I have started a job search. I have told my boss, too. The Z was devastated, but we're going to try and work something out. He expressed being sorry for how things turned out. I don't really wanna interpret that too deeply, just that it sounds like he's sad for what this is doing to him, and he's concerned for our son. That's cool. The non-apology apology didn't really affect me in a positive way, it just kinda reinforced how much I feel this is just a shame.
I met with a headhunter, who promised me nothing, of course, and am looking on my own. We'll see.
Just as a refresher, my sister has been living with me. Well, our 'lifestyles' do not mesh at all. She's a heavy drinker, likes to party, even alone. Well, I've asked her on a number of occassions not to be drunk around DS. When I came home with DS Tuesday afternoon, we had planned to get in the pool, cuz it was a scorcher. No sooner had we walked in the door, my sister was on him, trying to rip his shirt off, saying "Let's get ready to get in the pool". She was so focused on her own mayhem, she didn't hear him yelling that she was hurting him. She's tanked!
Strike one.
Next, we all get in the pool. My sister proceeds to throw him up in the air and let him land in the pool, at which time he goes under. He's afraid of going under right now because he doesn't have control YET of holding his breath. He was scared and told her no, but she did it anyway. She then said she wouldn't do it again, but went ahead and did it again. That's when I was done. Strike two, three...OUT!
I was angry yesterday, Wednesday, so I decided I wanted to wait to speak to her until today ,when I was a bit more levelheaded and could keep my cool.
Well, that just wasn't soon enough for her, and she was angry that I did not confront her last night, so apparently, in dramatic fashion, she is moving out and doesn't want to talk to me. She attempted to insult me by saying that I shut her out, "just like mom used to do", whatever that means. I will take a bit of a financial hit, but it's better than dealing with the constant stream this crap. My plan was to let her know that I didn't think it was a good fit, her living with me, and that she should find her own place.
The Z and I will be sitting down with DS this Saturday so that I can tell him about my choice to move and how we are going to work getting him time with his dad and field any questions he has.
This has been a very tough week, with miles to go...
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S/L: This has been a very tough week, with miles to go... Before I sleep. So, take a nap now! LG
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When you wake from your nap,,,,,,
Thanks for the update. Having the talk with Z was a good step forward. With all of the cards on the table there, then the talk with DS, you can really move your efforts into high gear.
Good luck with the job hunt! A headhunter is a good move, keep looking on your own, and I'm thinking there's a certain guy in AZ working on the effort as well??!!!
I can't say as I'm surprised to hear about your sister needing to move out. You pretty much said from day one that it would only be a matter of time. It still doesn't make it easy. Although it sounds like you are handling it well.
Hang in there. You are doing so well! Hope the nap helps!
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No time to nap today folks; work is busy and then we got baseball practice. I love watching DS out there. He really has so much fun. Bugsy, you know what, i bet I did say that this would not last. I've lived with sis before and it was a rollercoaster all it's own.
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Actually, if I remember right, you tried to pawn her off on me.
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You shoulda taken me up on that, Chrisner, it's a laugh a minute!!!
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Send her over to Beau's Divorced and Dating thread.
Does she like Bud Light?
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There's only room for 1 alcoholic in my relationships
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There's only room for 1 alcoholic in my relationships Well, Beau, you're in luck, cuz according to her she's not an alcoholic.
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