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I'm actually finding this whole situation rather amuzing (ok I really am mentally ill!). But really - golf-club wielding BW, gold-digging skank-ho's crawling out of the woodwork like cockroaches all over the place, and the "poor me" WH trying to save face with both the public and his BW. It's almost playing out like a cartoon!

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Originally Posted By: AnneMarie1224

What I cannot understand is how someone like my WH thinks he is somehow on that higher plane in life. My WH came from nothing and did not have tons of people fawning all over him - just the OW he now lives with. I cannot understand how the average person can think so highly of themselves and so lowly about the rest of the world.



Are you kidding? The Wookie wanted to be Tony Soprano without the beating people up. I told him as much and he AGREED with me.

It's a power thing.


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Hi Mr G ! Delighted you are still doing so very well ! * waves *

regarding tiger woods he needs to take extraordinary precautions against another affair. If that means giving up golf and living with the Amish as a twig broom maker, he should do it.

But he won't.


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What would be cool is if he "got it", became genuinely remorseful, learned from it, and started a one-man campaign against the evils of adultery since he's such a visible person. We can dream can't we?


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Heard a great one on the radio this morning (94.5 in Houston, from Jessica, in case she actually made up the joke):

Tiger is no longer going by the name Tiger.

Hereafter, he will be known as Cheetah.

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I wonder what diseases he has brought home to his lovely wife?

Like many famous men, he required his wife to sign a prenup. before he would marry her . . . nothing screams of commitment to me like a prenup. . . planning for the divorce before the marriage seems a little bit too . . . cynical. But considering that most marriages do end in divorce perhaps it is the practical thing for the rich and famous to do. But then I wonder why he bothered to marry in the first place. And why would his wife marry him knowing that he was more concerned about his potential loss of assets than his love for her. Perhaps his wife's picker is broken too.

And now for the bad clich: Tigers are not known for changing their stripes. Professional athletes have women constantly throwing themselves at them. And it appears this "man" doesn't have the skills to deal with that in a way that is consistent with marriage.

On a happier note, his major sponsors are beginning to do the calculus about cutting him loose. Perhaps he will be taught a hard lesson about integrity.



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AnneMarie: Google up the term "narcissism". It'll explain a lot.
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The police asked Tiger's wife how many times she hit him. "I don't know exactly...put me down for a 5."

Phil Mickelson contacted Tiger's wife to pick up tips on how to beat Tiger.

What's the difference between a car and a golf ball? Tiger can drive a ball 400 yards.

Tiger Woods wasn't seriously injured in the crash, but he's still below par.

What were Tiger Woods and his wife doing out at 2:30 in the morning? They went clubbing

Tiger Woods crashed into a fire hydrant and a tree. He couldn't decide between a wood and an iron.

Ping just offered Elin an endorsement contract for her own set of drivers; to be named Elin Woods..."clubs you can beat Tiger with."

Tiger just changed his nickname but still kept it in the cat family--his new name?: Cheetah

Tiger was driving an Escalade, can he blame the accident on his caddy?

Hello, Mr. Woods. This is the On Star operator. We have detected that an angry person has put a golf club through your window. We've called Nike. A new club is on its way.


Who among us doesn't hear a car crash and immediately grab the closest golf club we can find??!!

Tiger's new movie: Crouching Tiger, Hidden Hydrant.

Tiger Woods owns lots of expensive cars. Now he has a hole in one.

Poor choice; he should have gone with the driver.


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Hi Mr. G! I haven't posted here in quite a while either. I'm shocked that I remember my password, however after a gazillion posts here that shouldn't surprise me.

First, just a hello to my 2004 infidelity classmates. In spite of the crummy circumstances that brought us all together it is always great to see your names.

One bright spot in the Tiger saga and all the stream of infidelities that have occurred in recent years. Has anyone noticed how the media now isn't glorifying these affairs like in times past? If anything the WSs are really looking like total dumb a$$es. It's laughable that these celeb WSs actually think their OWs are going to be true and faithful and never will spill anything to the press for their chance at being famous for no reason.

To the BW who posted something about how could her H feel entitled like a celeb. That is the nature of the WS mind, entitled and very narcissistic. For many men in particular admiration is the hook that brings them down. For a celeb it's probably 10 times worse. I heard this man on TV talking about this. His father, who was a surgeon, told him about people in power, "People will think you're a God. You just can't think and believe you're a God."

Anyhoo, a big hug to my old MB buds!

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Hi to you Bob Pure and CV, big hugs to both of you and to all those who have ridden those rough roads in the past.

I asked this Tiger question because I sometimes chat on a golf discussion board (I just love that game you know). Of course, the Tiger issue has dominated the boards of late. It is amusing to read of the common folk spin on Tigers affair. Besides the damage that he caused at home he has disappointed his fans around the world. I am heartened that most of the posters understand how wrong Tiger was. There are others that will fight to their last breath defending him. Many of those posters place the blame squarely on Elins shoulders. I cannot resist but to take these posters on with extreme prejudice, like shooting fish in a barrel.

Overall, I am happy to report to you that the world at large condemns Tigers actions. One man wrote that Tiger could be the best husband in the world. The best husband?! Are you kidding me?! Well I slammed him for his remarks. He responded with, No, you dont understand, Ive walked in his shoes, I cheated. My wife threw me out, I had to quit my job and then she gave me a second chance. Now, Im the best husband and father in the world. That kind of brought a tear to my eye.

I knew in advance that these boards would offer the best advice with the caring truth of what is really happening. Thanks to all and continue to post your comments.


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That's the only good thing about this story - the general consensus that Tiger behaved like a first-class jerk and there was no excuse for it.

There are stories now that he had some very enabling staffers. They were not his friends - they were just his little yes-toadies who would do anything to hang around with him, including make arrangements and flight reservations for Tiger's prostitutes to meet with him (see tmz.com).

Wow, what a great friend! I'm sure he just wanted Tiger to be happy. Isn't that what every friend and relative of an adulterer says, when they refuse to stand up to them? "I just want him/her to be HAPPY." (I heard the same sh*t from XWH's sister.)

Well, how happy is Tiger now?

Friends don't let friends drive drunk.

Friends don't let friends destroy their lives with adultery, either.
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One "friend" of ours knew about my Hs A. That "friend" is no friend of our M, so I swiftly and cooly cut him out of our circle with the precision of a surgeon.

The "friend" who arranged Tiger's rendezvous with the trollops needs to be excised post-haste from their lives. Pity it had to be a childhood friend.

Tiger needs to hand over the staffing reins to his wife so that she knows she is surrounding him with safe people.


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In Tiger's situation it is beginning to sound like his marriage is becoming a business proposition, much like Bill and Hillary Clintons became. No love, no respect, just money and power changing hands. If my observations are correct, that will be too bad.


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For him who confesses, shams are over and realities have begun; he has exteriorized his rottenness. If he has not actually got rid of it, he at least no longer smears it over with a hypocritical show of virtue -- he lives at least upon a basis of veracity. William James


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Now there are allegations of Tiger's drug use starting to surface. Stay tuned. Even if the wh*res don't lose him his endorsements, I'll bet any sort of drug use will.

I have to wonder how much of the drug and alcohol use, if true, is tied to simply trying to silence what was left of his conscience. My XWH never used to drink alcohol at all and was quite proud of that, especially that he was never pressured into it at company stuff.

But he started drinking at "business dinners" not long after he started really getting into the girls. Then he started drinking at home. Then he started drunk-dialing me late at night from places like Chicago and Shanghai. This from a man who once explained to our son that, "A real man drinks anything he wants - even if it's Diet Coke."

Anyone else notice this? Did you see a WS start alcohol and/or drug use not long after the cheating started?
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Anyone else notice this? Did you see a WS start alcohol and/or drug use not long after the cheating started?
Mulan

My WW was a recovered alcoholic when we met. When she arrived last Monday to move her things out, she told me she had returned to smoking (something else I had never seen her do). My suspicion is that she may not be there yet, but all evidence points to a relapse coming soon.


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Mine never did drugs (except a few in high school) but stopped taking his high blood pressure medication when the A began. He'd taken pills for 28 years. I wonder if it was because it interferred with other drugs like Viagra or something similar. Will probably never know unless he ends up in the hospital or during an autopsy.

Sis told me that one of Tiger's sluts said they'd take Ambien then have drowsy, surreal sex.

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Most people on other sites are not supporting Tiger, but when they do it's usually some variation of, All men cheat. Its just their nature. They cant help it. Women should learn to understand that.

Okay. Try this:

The drives for food and sex have a lot in common. They are both normal, natural human drives and are part of a normal healthy life.

Food should help a person to have a strong, healthy, productive and satisfying life.

But if there are no boundaries or limits on food, and the person chooses to indulge in every chocolate cake and triple cheeseburger that comes along simply because it makes them happy and its just their nature well, thats an excellent way to end up bloated and immobile, suffering from terrible health and looking at an early death.

Sex should also be part of a healthy, nurturing, loving and satisfying life.

But if there are no boundaries or limits on sex, and the person chooses to indulge in every chocolate cake that comes along simply because it makes them happy and its just their nature well, thats an excellent way to end up without a single healthy relationship with anyone. Its impossible to have the love and respect of a spouse and/or children when all that matters is more and more and more chocolate cake. And as with food, having no boundaries on sex also risks terrible health and an early death.

With both food and sex, people without boundaries and limits end up alone in the world save for the co-dependent enablers who are making this destructive lifestyle possible. Real friends would try their best to prevent such behavior.

Boundaries and limits are a necessary part of a healthy life. Animals cannot understand this. They will have sex with any available mate and will often gorge on very unhealthy foods, even to the point of serious illness or death.

Humans are supposed to use some reasoning and intelligence when it comes to food and sex. Those who refuse to do this end up very sick, both physically and emotionally, and very much alone.


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There are stories now that he had some very enabling staffers. They were not his friends - they were just his little yes-toadies who would do anything to hang around with him, including make arrangements and flight reservations for Tiger's prostitutes to meet with him (see tmz.com).


It seems he didn't just have friends who were enablers...

"Elin is beside herself with anger, because she can't believe that her mother-in-law did not know that Tiger was running round with this other woman when it was right under her nose," an unnamed source told the Melbourne Herald-Sun.

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Tiger just gets in deeper and deeper.

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-...ffair-news.html

Tiger is a scum. What is it with these women who are satisfied with being 2nd, 3rd, 4th in Mr. Woods life? I just don't understand people. Maybe one of these days the media and society in general will finally understand the trauma and destruction infidelity causes.


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