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#2287909 12/13/09 12:04 AM
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My WH is currently watching the movie Notebook. I watched it a few days ago and hadn't taken it back yet. He decided to watch it as well and was halfway through it before he had to go back to work. And as he was getting ready for work he told me he just has to finish this movie when he gets home. He really likes it that much.

How do I not get angry and bash him over the head with the nearest object when I see him bawling through the scenes, tissue box in hand crybaby, dramaqueen? How do I not throw up? How do I not leave the house and stay gone for a long while?

He likes these types of movies and gets all teary eyed and all the drama that goes with that. And all I want to do is all of the above, if not more. Gah!!

Anyone else know what I'm talking about?

It's like duh, it's to late for happily ever after when you done screwed that up .... RETARD!!! mad puke twoxfour rant2

edited to add.... please help me he gets home in 7 hours and fully expects me to sit down with him and finish this movie

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I've not seen that one. Whats it about?


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Isn't that an affair movie? Did your H have an affair? If yes to those questions, I would get rid of the movie. Affair movies are disgusting and putrid and will trigger you.


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It's an affair movie.

IMDB synopsis


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In all fairness, it isn't exactly an affair movie, since the woman is only engaged, not married. It's probably still enough to rub people who have actually been through an affair the wrong way regardless.

It's also pretty sappy, but that's what you get from Nicholas Sparks. No happy endings. I don't think he believes in them. Somebody always has to die at the end of everything he writes.

Sorry if I offended any Nicholas Sparks fans.


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Hmm...if he likes affair movies, maybe he should watch Unfaithful. He might not like the second half when the affair is discovered and the movie takes a rather dark turn, though. (But of course, that IS my point!)

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I'd also recommend *In the Bedroom*, with Sissy Spacek, for anyone who thinks they like affair movies.
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Let's not forget "Fatal Attraction." That certainly takes the notion of romance and love out of an A.


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What's crazy is that when I googled "Unfaithful" to refresh my memory, the comments on You tube were: "Beautiful!" "Wonderful movie!" NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS. Without exception, people thought it was a a beautiful, tragic love story! They root for the affair! They think it is the epitomy of romantic!

Just like the news coverage on Tiger is all about the A's, the loss of income, the tragedy to the game of golf and even how his "choice" of adultery partners has gotten him in trouble with the black community. WHAT??? What about the immorality, the tragedy for his family, the devastating grief for his wife, the loss of his "legacy" as one of America's few remaining moral sports role models for our kids and husbands around the world? Who cares if they are Barbie dolls!

It is so sad that most people cannot understand the debillitating consequences of adultery!

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Affair movie to blow "romance" out the window.

"Damage"
Starring Jeremy Irons as the WH (1992).

WH has an affair with his son's fiancee. Son discovers his fiancee is unfaithful. Kills himself.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0104237/

And, the great Miranda Richardson as the BW. In what I think was her best performance. (warning, brief nude scene)




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I disagree. Fatal Attraction was ridiculously unrealistic, especially since the stalker was a woman instead of a man.

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Originally Posted By: Aphaeresis
I disagree. Fatal Attraction was ridiculously unrealistic, especially since the stalker was a woman instead of a man.

You don't know our OW! shocked
Seriously, DH has frequently mentioned her and Fatal Attraction in the same sentence.

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Originally Posted By: Aphaeresis
I disagree. Fatal Attraction was ridiculously unrealistic, especially since the stalker was a woman instead of a man.


I don't think it's unrealistic at all...OW are often predators who will stop at nothing and they start doing crazy things, which only makes them look crazier. Once the A is over, this is actually a BENEFIT to the BW and makes the BW look even that much more appealing to the FWH.

Is there a correlation between dropping one's panties and being committed to a white padded room?


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Did you say A film????
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Same Time Next Year - the ultimate A film. (In another life I liked it)
Now I just want to puke.

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Any episode of any crime series where the OW and WH or vice versa kill the BW/BH... -sigh-

Don't they have anything better to write?

Ooops, wait, not a movie.


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Well there are exceptions to every rule, I suppose. Statistically, it's more likely for a man to become a stalker than a woman.

Generally men are the ones who do the pursuing. From what I've seen that is true even in affairs.

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Anyone going to see "Its Complicated" on Christmas Day.

Looks like a BS gets a chance to even the score with the MOW by becoming the OW.


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I happened to walk in on my wife and daughter while they were watching a movie called "He's just not that into you."
Of course the scene that I happened to see showed this woman talking to her friend about cheating. Something was said about being in a marriage, but what happens if your "soulmate" comes along while you're still married and if you should let him go, or something like that.
I just wanted to puke.


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I definitely look at movies differently now. I had told my daughter a few months ago that we should watch Camelot, because she loves musicals. Well, we watched it this week. A movie I used to love is now disgusting because of what we have been through. It did make for a great, "that is why you don't have affairs" conversation with my DD,though. And King Arthur was the most wimpily portrayed BH in the universe. Talk about someone who needed to use exposure! LOL!


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Trust_Will_Come, well if it makes you feel any better marriages during King Arthur's time were not real marriages based on love. They were based on money or political alliances. Throughout most of history a woman did not even get to choose her husband. Although people keep calling it "traditional" marriage, marriage based on love is a recent phenomenon. By historical standards, love-based marriage is not only untraditional but downright (wonderfully) radical.

But this thread is about movies, so I'll try to stay on topic. Has anyone seen the movie "Complicated"? I can't tell if it's an affair movie or a movie about breaking up an affair marriage (or both?) It's the one with Meryl Streep and Alec Baldwin.

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