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OM's girlfriend works as the asst. manager for the apartment complex that both she AND the OM live at....currently living together because he defaulted on his lease....

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Originally Posted by jcb
OM's girlfriend works as the asst. manager for the apartment complex that both she AND the OM live at....currently living together because he defaulted on his lease....
So What?

CALL
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GIRLFREIND
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So what?
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Didn't you ask me where she worked?

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Originally Posted by jcb
So what?
??
Didn't you ask me where she worked?
My bad, I meant your wife.

Have you exposed to OM's GF yet?


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Just finished speaking to the girlfriend....she suspected something, thought it was my wife, but OM kept saying it was someone different....she started screaming that she thinks something is still going on, wouldn't tell me what before she hung up on me and can't reach her back...probably on her way to work to confront....


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Good.

Poor gal.


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Originally Posted by jcb
Just finished speaking to the girlfriend....she suspected something, thought it was my wife, but OM kept saying it was someone different....she started screaming that she thinks something is still going on, wouldn't tell me what before she hung up on me and can't reach her back...probably on her way to work to confront....
Pat yourself on the back becouse

YOU
ROCK


Now, get ready, becouse WW is gonna be pissed, dont wory, it will pass.


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Do not forget this line, "yes dear, have a cookie."



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Originally Posted by jcb
Just finished speaking to the girlfriend....she suspected something, thought it was my wife, but OM kept saying it was someone different....she started screaming that she thinks something is still going on, wouldn't tell me what before she hung up on me and can't reach her back...probably on her way to work to confront....

Pass the popcorn please.

Lots of real butter, and sea salt.

Just the way I like it.

>munching<

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Good job, jcb!!


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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I guess this is what you guys mean by NUCLEAR. I hope it works out well for you jcb.


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Pep, don't forget that while we've seen this a thousand and ten times, JCB is livin' it right now.

JCB - stay calm cool and collected at all times this weekend. If you feel your back gettin' up, walk away. She's gonna be a real pi$$er to be around for awhile, but trust that her wrath indicates that you gut punched the adultry a good one.


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Originally Posted by jcb
Just finished speaking to the girlfriend....she suspected something, thought it was my wife, but OM kept saying it was someone different....she started screaming that she thinks something is still going on, wouldn't tell me what before she hung up on me and can't reach her back...probably on her way to work to confront....

Nicely done, jcb. Get ready for some possible fireworks from WW. And don't worry about them for a minute.


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Originally Posted by Dealan-de
Pep, don't forget that while we've seen this a thousand and ten times, JCB is livin' it right now.

OK.

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JCB - stay calm cool and collected at all times this weekend. If you feel your back gettin' up, walk away. She's gonna be a real pi$$er to be around for awhile, but trust that her wrath indicates that you gut punched the adultry a good one.

JCB, the blow back is gonna be UGly.
This means exposure is ruining her adultery.

Good job.

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TJ

Pep, I totally dig you.

End of TJ.


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you have just awakened the dragon in your wife's little fairy tale


Good job

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JCB,

If OM girlfriend is a good person, you just did her a big favor. You may have prevented her from getting STDs at some time in the future, becoming a betrayed wife, raising children without a father, finding out that he has run up enormous debt supporting some other woman, and etc.

At the very least you have revealed the truth to her.

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As a matter of fact, JCB, her reaction will tell you JUST HOW FOGGY she still is.
When she "gets it," which will, by all averages, be YEARS from now, she'll thank you.
All of the FWspouses here will attest.
But yes, my FWH was P.O.'d when I exposed. He survived it. Of course, he told me at the time that our M was over and it was all my fault.... blah, blah.
Just remind her that this is HER doing, not yours. Natural consequences, my friend. She will learn.


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WW just called, FLAILING.....

Said I totally embarrassed her, and I could have waited the few days until she left...

GF came in, called my wife a bunch of names, screaming at the OM,told him to pack his stuff, got herself thrown out....

Wife says she can't face anyone now and is moving out.....



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No JCB, SHE embarassed herself.

SHE did this. She CHOSE this.

That she didn't think of this particular scenario when she jumped OM is HER FAULT.

Do not allow yourself to take credit for her lack of forethought.

Ever.


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O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten.

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