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WW just called, OM is all upset (he's losing his meal ticket)and she's "afraid" he's going to kill himself...I said it would save me the trouble....
Come into the building with flowers, and give them to your wife.
Say loudly - "For the woman I LOVE"
Give her a big hug & kiss -
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WW just called, OM is all upset (he's losing his meal ticket)and she's "afraid" he's going to kill himself...I said it would save me the trouble. LOL! she did say "I understand you being upset, but that was vindictive...it's been over and I gave my notice..." "The GF needed to be told, dear. Want a cookie?" Don't engage your WW in discussions about your exposure. Lots of LB-ing await you down that path.
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she did say "I understand you being upset, but that was vindictive...it's been over and I gave my notice..." Wow, and we thought it was sorta "vindictive" to have an affair and screw around with someone's boyfriend and then lie to her about it! silly us! 
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Wife just called again, said OM is pi**ed, he's coming to see me...(he knows where my office is)
My wife BEGGED me not to talk to him because she was afraid of the "lies" he was going to tell about her to get back at me for exposing to GF....
Now, I'm not a veteran, but this sounds to me like my wife is afraid the OM is going to tell me something I don't know....
Should be interesting...I'm going to get a diet coke and wait for the show...
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Wife just called again, said OM is pi**ed, he's coming to see me...(he knows where my office is) I suggest having security stop him at the door. Just in case. My wife BEGGED me not to talk to him because she was afraid of the "lies" he was going to tell about her to get back at me for exposing to GF....
Now, I'm not a veteran, but this sounds to me like my wife is afraid the OM is going to tell me something I don't know.... Yup!!!
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WW just called, OM is all upset (he's losing his meal ticket)and she's "afraid" he's going to kill himself...I said it would save me the trouble....(probably should not have said that)...she did say "I understand you being upset, but that was vindictive...it's been over and I gave my notice..." Awww, poor widdle OM!! Waah waah waah 
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Might as well hear what the OM has to say, as long as you know he's going to leave any weapons at home. Offer to meet him in a public place, just like the GF.
The warning you got was that some revenge affairs start between two betrayed spouses. Avoid heading in that direction.
OM will never kill himself. He's a loser who has no boundaries and thinks only about himself. Those people aren't suicidal. He has a better chance of getting lorena bobbited by his GF.
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Wife just called again, said OM is pi**ed, he's coming to see me...(he knows where my office is)
My wife BEGGED me not to talk to him because she was afraid of the "lies" he was going to tell about her to get back at me for exposing to GF....
Now, I'm not a veteran, but this sounds to me like my wife is afraid the OM is going to tell me something I don't know.... yep, it shore do!!  Should be interesting...I'm going to get a diet coke and wait for the show... Have fun!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Do you have some kind of audio recorder you can use to tape what OM says?
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Do you have some kind of audio recorder you can use to tape what OM says? Have another male worker with you, if you do not have a recording device.
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Everyone left....normally I would leave in a couple of minutes, but I think I'm going to stay a little while...
A revenge affair is something I wouldn't do, so I'm not worried about that with the GF...
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Good ideas!! You will want to play it all back for your wife.
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Do you have some kind of audio recorder you can use to tape what OM says? If you have an iPhone, you can use that to record.
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Everyone left....normally I would leave in a couple of minutes, but I think I'm going to stay a little while...
A revenge affair is something I wouldn't do, so I'm not worried about that with the GF... ahh, I bet that little weasel doesn't show!
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A revenge affair is something I wouldn't do, so I'm not worried about that with the GF... My wife told me "I would never have an affair..." even while she was having one. Be very careful. Extraordinary Precautions are not just for the wayward.
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WHY IS OM CONTACTING YOUR WS AND WHY IS SHE TALKING TO HIM?? there should be NC in place she should not be responding to his calls and if he starts talking to her at work she should walk away!!
She is obviousely talking to him because he has told her he is coming to see you and he is suicidal etc. Remind her she should be in NC or trying NC while this is going on, your an adult and can deal with OM if he want to get angry at you he should not have been talking to your wife, tell OMG that OM has gone running whining to your WS and she how much she likes that piece of information!
You did the right thing, not revenge wise but morally right to let the Girlfriend know what kind of person she is dating. She needs to make an informed decision about who she shares her life with and you gave her that gift.
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PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months
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BH, they work together. Please read up!
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I'm going to go home...I've been waiting for this POS for 45 minutes now....
Spoke to wife again, she seems to be calming down a little..said we're going to have a "serious talk" when I get home...I agreed (haha)
GF wants to meet at a local restaurant/bar tonight at 10pm...haven't told WW about that yet, I think I may go..
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Good luck. When you meet the GF, make sure it's not in a "cozy" table or anything like that. An IHOP or a Denny's is better than a bar, but do what you must.
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