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The other night H and I watched Across the Hall. Neither of us knew what the movie was about. Once again he ends up picking a movie where there is infidelity and the betrayed gets revenge (some of it just being the circumstances coming full circle.) H picked out Shattered last time. rotflmao


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I remember the movie that Roseanne Barr made, but can't recall the name (was it "SheDevil"?). I don't like Roseanne, but I laughed my butt off at that movie!


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I don't remember that one. Was it a comedy?


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Unfaithful
She Devil
In the Bedroom
Fatal Attraction
First Wives' Club


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Check out the British movie The Politician's Wife, brilliant done

A woman's life is turned upside down when it is revealed that her husband, a member of the British Parliament, has been having an affair with a former prostitute.

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0112126/

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That was TV, rather than film, and yes it was good. Really fine actors and a good story line. It shows the BS's devastation a lot more accurately than some dramas.


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We were on a roll of inadvertently picking infidelity movies. It was like four in a row. It got to the point where my FWW and I would just look at each other like "what are the chances?".

I remember that the streak included Appaloosa and Sunshine Cleaners. Really sucked sitting down with FWW thinking that we'd relax by watching a movie and having to go through the awkwardness of finding out the plot revolves around an A.

Back in December I had an awful experience with a movie. It was one day I was having a really bad day and I decided to go away for a little while. My FWW was being really abusive and I had to leave to clear my mind. I went to a movie theater without knowing what was being shown. I picked this movie starring Penelope Cruz from a famous spanish director, Almodovar. Half an hour into the movie the whole the story centered about an A. Later on I had to leave due to a really nasty scene of Penelope Cruz secretly throwing up after having sex with her husband who she was betraying with other guy. My night of trying to get away from A crap turned out to be not so much fun.

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We went through a long phase of not watching movies and we still don't watch the TV Dramas. Just about everything has an A involved somehow. I'm getting better with it after 1 1/2 years, but it still turns my stomach.

I remember 2 months after D-Day watching a movie with H, my brother, and SIL. They picked up the movie - "Forgetting Sarah Marshall". That was a terrible, painful, long night. The thing is - they still thought the movie was funny even knowing about H's affair and the pain I went through. H and I just sat there awkwardly waiting for it to finally be over. These days, I would turn the movie off and find something else. I was still frozen and didn't have the inner strength at that time.


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Couples Retreat which everyone was laughing and I sat there with tears in my eyes

The Women -- great movie


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Internet Movie Data Base (imdb.com) is your friend.

Check it for all you ever wanted to know about any film or TV show.


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Ever see "Little Children?"

Infidelity is the central theme, though child abuse and vigilantism are in there 2.

It's reasonably intelligently done, though it would be pretty dis2rbing 2 someone only a few years out from d-day ;o)

The affairees make complete cakes of themselves, of course.

-ol' 2long

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revolutionary road....


Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09

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Okay, well this one doesn't involve real revenge....But last night my son played "Mrs. Doubtfire". I had seen it before, but it had all new meaning this time. Geez, I wish my WH loved the kids and I enough to dress up like an old English nanny! smile


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H went to Iraq 1/7/09-10/5/09
D-Day 10/29/09
Got the D papers 11/21/09 (Our 6th Anniversary)
Not giving up! Still on Plan A
I can only get stronger!

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