He owns his own company. He can only fire himself.

I deleted the playlists he made for her, and got rid of what I could tell was "their" stuff.

Yes. I can bring him something at work. pasta sounds just about right. LOL!

Gotcha. WIll do!

Bravo, RidicSit!! You killed the affair, you mean affair killer! Good job on standing up for your family!

Your H will get through withdrawal, don't worry. Just picture him as a falling down drunk who has just had his booze confiscated. As he sobers up, it will get better.

Great job!!

Wow Ridic, I am in awe of how well you've orchestrated this all out (with such amazing input on here) and you're hanging in there and doing everything RIGHT. Good for you! I'm inspired and hope to be following your footsteps very soon!

Timeline- he came home on the 16th.

Today is really bad. He is sending texts saying he feels like dying, and that he is a crazy person who has lost touch with reality, all peppered in with the normal "I'll never ever get over the affair".

He began the day by saying he should write her family an apology letter. I told him that was a no. And I reminded him that there's a restraining order violation waiting if he does.

I know withdrawal is bad, but I am wondering if I need to think about having him admitted somewhere?

He has said that. Okay.

I'm gonna get going.

This is not where I thought this would head.

So sorry that withdrawal is not going well. They always say it only lasts for a few weeks.

But I would take his pain very seriously. In fact, I would call his doc TODAY and let them know it is an emergency. I know it is late Friday, so if you can't get the doc, go to the ER with him. It is good to let HUBBY know that you are taking his pain seriously and care deeply about him.

In my case (my ex committed suicide last year), he didn't exhibit any of the warnings, although his kids knew he was depressed. I told them to take him in to the ER, but they didn't and I didn't contact him either.

I had talked to him about 2 weeks before he died at a BD party for my grandson, and he seemed okay, but did tell me that he was glad I was doing so well, and if anything killed him it would be the loneliness.

Hopefully hubby is just going through normal grief, but I would still insist he get help today, so you never look back and wonder why you didn't DO something.

I called the doc. Unless he chose to go in or cause any harm, they said to keep his appointment for this week with the psych.

This weekend was really bad. He is very, very angry that I won't email her and tell her that I lied- and that we haven't been married. He says it's the only way he can move on.

He had several panic attacks, and tried to pick many different fights. He is very, very hard to be around.

This morning he came to me and told me he thinks he should get an apartment in town, so that he stops beating up on me. He says it will help me to not see him not sleeping, not eating, just missing her as much as he does.

I don't know what to do or say. I can't take him pressing on me so hard ( all the pasta talk in the world isn't helping), but I am scared if he leaves, it will make it all worse.


He is focused like a laser on her. And saying he will never ever get over her.

I don't know what the right thing is to do here.

He has promised he will go to therapy. He says he wouldn't be moving out for himself, but for me.

I don't know what the key is here.

You are doing very well, just hang in there. I can't give you any advise except to keep posting here and we will walk you through this. I was HORRIBLE at supporting my ex while he was going through withdrawal (and it only lasted 48 hours). Basically I told him he got himself into the mess, and he could get himself out. I didn't want to hear anything about how wonderful the homewrecker was. Made me want to puke, and it was hard to put on a happy wife face while he was grieving her loss.

Can you find a way to be busy doing something so you don't have to sit around and listen to him?