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We don't really know what the psych is telling hubby, or what hubby is hearing, but he does need to be in the care of a psych. So that is all good - he is getting the help he needs. The therapist can explain to him about affairs, and that probably won't take right now. But NC is assured, and THAT is what is going to work. Your job is not to go crazy too.
This has got to be horribly stressful, and you need to do whatever you can to protect your heart from his lunacy. Get out and do something fun, spend time with your kids, and trust that MB will work.
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He also said the therapist asked him how he would ever know it wouldn't have worked out with the other woman since he didn't leave me and really live with her.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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lol...my wife said the same thing to me. How do I really know I love you if I dont see what it is like with OM. this stuff can be scripted sometimes.
That one did not come from a therapist.
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lol...my wife said the same thing to me. How do I really know I love you if I dont see what it is like with OM. this stuff can be scripted sometimes. It's kinda gross. LOL!
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He also said the therapist asked him how he would ever know it wouldn't have worked out with the other woman since he didn't leave me and really live with her.
My 2 centavos.
Your H is NOT delusional about what the therapist told him.
Your H is flat out lying about what the therapist told him.
Your H is trying to manipulate you so YOU will give him permission to continue on with OW.
Your H is putting his desires into the therapist's mouth, hoping you are so dumb that you will automatically do what the therapist "suggested".
Ignore him.
Watch what happens.
Say totally unrelated answers.
"Do you think I need highlights in my hair?"
"I saw a sale on turtle food at the pet store."
"Did you ever cook bugs with a magnifying glass?"
He's lying.
Nothing more.
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Don't believe his babble. He is delusional.
In truth there ARE some crazy therapists, but since this one is well thought of, I would trust that he is a good one.
Hubby is bound and determined to keep his fantasy going. He is pulling out all stops to have YOU write lies to the OW, say his therapist agrees with his actions, blah, blah, blah.
Ever known a junkie? They will lie, steal, sell their mother to get their fix. Think of hubby as a junkie and stick to your guns.
Has hubby always been this manipulative?
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lol...my wife said the same thing to me. How do I really know I love you if I dont see what it is like with OM. this stuff can be scripted sometimes.
That one did not come from a therapist. I hope not. It makes me anxious.
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I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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I hope not. It makes me anxious.
He is lying
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All WS suffer from the same ailment: liarrhea
Main Entry: li·ar·rhea
Function: noun
1 : abnormally frequent verbal evacuations of untruths
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He was never like this before. Ever.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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Okay- today's update. Told him he needed to be out of the house today, and that I don't care where he goes.
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I hope not. It makes me anxious.
He is lyingHe has to be. I need him to be.
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I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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He was never like this before. Ever.
An addict lies.
Hopefully, the "drug addiction" from the therapist will kick in within 2 weeks.
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OMG Pep! You cannot be sooooooooo funny this early in the morning!!!!!
Hubby: "Therapist asked me how I would ever know it wouldn't have worked out with the other woman since I didn't leave you and really live with her."
RS: "Interesting, dear. Have you ever cooked bugs with a magnifying glass?"
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Okay- today's update. Told him he needed to be out of the house today, and that I don't care where he goes.
Yes. He violated no contact and he is torturing me mentally.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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OMG Pep! You cannot be sooooooooo funny this early in the morning!!!!!
Hubby: "Therapist asked me how I would ever know it wouldn't have worked out with the other woman since I didn't leave you and really live with her."
RS: "Interesting, dear. Have you ever cooked bugs with a magnifying glass?" LOL!!! And served them with pasta?
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I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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He was never like this before. Ever.
An addict lies.
Hopefully, the "drug addiction" from the therapist will kick in within 2 weeks.
So- knowing this, and knowing how he is, having him away from me is exactly the right move.
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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LOL!!! And served them with pasta? You know, don't you, that I love your evil side. I'm bad.
As you serve him a glass of lemonaid:
"Did you know, in some cultures, people drink their urine?"
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At this point, if drinking urine would help him, I'll start an IV drip. LOL!
Thanks for all the support along the way.
I wish you all well. I'm outta here.
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He was never like this before. Ever. Aliens had never abducted him before.
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