HH,

I am so sorry. I think we all knew that was coming sooner or later. A banker cannot be so irresponsible with money and keep it quiet for too long. I am sure his management has heard about his shenanigans and has also seen the change in him. Red flags were probably popping up around his office like whac-a-mole heads(or whatever game that is).

Please try not to panic. I know it is easier said than done, but you need to keep it together right now.

Call if you need to talk.

(((((((((((((((((((((((hh))))))))))))))))))))))

HH, I just thought of something else. Well, two things. First, if he was fired, would he have received severance pay? He needs to be accountable for those funds too. Second, could he be lying to you? Maybe he quit? The Judge wouldn't look too kindly on that if he did it on purpose.

I wonder what will happen with OW now once she sees the gravy train is drying up. But most importantly, where does this leave you? If he is crashing and he were to come back on crawling on his knees, what would your response be now? Just something to think about.

(((HH))) I know you're scared, but you WILL get through this.

If I were HH I'd say no just to devastate WH. Yes. Vengeance is very sweet...

HH deserves to do it, too.

I'm in pure survival mode. Went to bank and took funds from account that D!ck has access to. I decided NOT to tell ILs so their Easter is not ruined. They are hosting a rather large brunch with family and friends, and this would upset them greatly. And they would likely call D!ck, who would in turn abuse them verbally and threaten to leave the country, and no one would be any happier.

No, this is my burden to bear this weekend. I tried calling my attorney but his office is closed.

And today is the day we decided to see the puppies. DD has been so excited. Her heart is set on getting one. Its a huge expense, but it is what it is. I can't let D!ck rain on every one of our parades. The puppy may end up being a huge distraction down the line if vacations and "extras" have to be foregoed due to our financial situation.

I just can't believe it. And then to keep me hanging with this drama. No response to my "what happened" text.

And today I took the second part of a medical test. If I need treatment, what then? We're all on D!ck's health insurance.

After the pride comes the fall. And if not willing to turn away from sin, then hardship.

Fall and hardship. All must happen EVEN if he came back crawling on bloodied hands and knees and blinded like St. Paul. Otherwise, he's still the same hateful man who continues to terrorize his family.

Did you check to make SURE that he was fired and that he didn't just quit or something?

In time, the truth will come out. And there's really nothing I can do in the meantime except alert my attorney on Monday and likely let his parents know then.

This is how I know I've changed. Maybe I'm just numb. I did cry a little. And I did vent to a few close friends. But NOTHING like the way I would have reacted in the past.

My attorney kept saying that he wouldn't QUIT his job because D!ck's house of cards would come crumbling down and Bimbo would be gone. But "losing" may be something different -- with a severance package, extended benefits, etc. I DON'T KNOW THAT.

So this weekend, I'm staying silent. I'm letting Easter happen. I'm waiting for DS to come home for the weekend, and looking forward to the usual gathering at ILs house.

And D!ck. Maybe he'll jump back on his feet in no time. With his reputation for lying, gambling, cheating -- and leaving wonderful me -- he may be in for a long hill climb.

He probably knew this was coming. That's likely why he took out the 401K money several weeks back. Hope he's proud of the man he's become because no one else is.

I'm just the lighthouse.

It's been confirmed. He was fired.

I text him today "R u OK?" and he replied "Thanks for ur concern. Not doing very well since I got fired." I asked if he got a package and what about health insurance. He didn't reply.

Found out that he called his former bf to ask what he thought of his chances in the job market. If his being fired would negatively affect him.

XBF WANTED to say that his chances are nil due to his lying, gambling, womanizing ways. Instead he said -- don't know -- and good luck with that.

Another chapter in this incredible story.

and laying down with rutting pigs. He is spiraling and all you can do is step out of the way so you don't get hit by the meltdown.

Huyah, Huyah! Hey Mickey, do you think my adultery, probable bankruptcy, gambling addiction, alcohol problems, declining health, slothful appearance and texting pictures of my winkie to cheap painted sluts will hinder my search for a high paying banking job?

Of course he didn't HH, it's all about him and HIS pain. If he did get a package, he probably doesn't want you to know the details. Most of the time there is COBRA which keeps your insurance intact at a price. I would ask your attorney to "formally" ask about these details since it effects your case.

negative. Depends on the reason for seperation. If he was fired for misconduct -- no COBRA.

"Fired" generally means there was some type of misconduct.
Which is also likely to mean no "package".
Otherwise the terms "downsized" or "let go" or some other type of description would be used.
Generally if you are going to be offered a severance package -- its because they are eliminating your department or position -- or asking you to retire early. Not "fired".

Holy -- get in touch with your attorney -- there are things you need to know right away.

Oh, that's true. I didn't think of that.

Too funny Chris. I think they call it "chexting" now (cheating + texting). I think Tiger triggered a new term.

Waywards.....they are blind and stupid. They can't see that they are their own worst enemies. Can't see that if you constantly do the wrong thing and hang with the wrong people that BAD things are going to keep happening.

((((HH))))) You do not deserve this HH. This man is in serious doodoo.

Have you heard anything yet Holy?

Does his parents know of his newest achievement?

just Hugs and breathe.

This might be the "stick that breaks the camel's back" (where did that term coin from?)

D+ck is in a corner and is starting to snarl. Pick up a whip and just stand strong.

It's "the straw that broke the camel's back". Arabic in origin.


Where are ya Holy?

I stand corrected. stick, straw, pencil???

For some folks that's the definition of a good time.

Yes. We all have different hobbies, after all.