That's the problem. D!ck hasn't been nailed yet. NOBODY HAS BEEN ABLE TO MAKE HIM SUFFER THE CONSEQUENCES OF HIS ACTIONS.

We go to court next week. It's a regular settlement hearing which is scheduled every two months at which NOTHING is accomplished.

To get some action, my attorney did file an order and had D!ck served. The order addresses several issues and will require ANOTHER court date in May.

I've been to court six times in 14 months and the only issue decided was temporary support. This Ds a huge waste of time and money and sanity. AND D!ck just replaced his attorney last week. That'll be another cause to stall the proceedings again.

My guess? D!ck pleads poverty since he's out of a job and tries to convince the judge that he can't continue to give me support. On the other hand, if D!ck happens to win BIG in Vegas, he'll try to buy me off.

Bottomline -- IT'S ALL ABOUT THE MONEY. He doesn't want custody of our children. He doesn't want anything in the house.

OH... and he want's to stick ME with all or most of HIS debt by trying to say it's ALL marital debt when in fact it is AFFAIR debt.

Court in Vegas? Hummm...

MAYBE he's looking for a job. Forgot that on my list of why D!ck's in Vegas so often.

Either that or he's helping OJ find the real killer...

((((HH))))))

Hang in there girlfriend!

I'm hanging. Today, we bring home the puppy. We've forewarned our 6 year old dog -- that she'll be the babysitter of the puppy.

Yep, I'm crazy to do this. I see this as HUGE growth for me. Where I over analyze some issues to death. And try to "pre-plan" everything. This is a step in living life with a more carefree attitude. Who cares if the puppy acts like a puppy. Enjoy it. Embrace it. Accept it.

Life's too short. Put on your big girl panties and deal with it. And have a bottle of carpet cleaner handy!

Glad you got a puppy. I know DD loved when we got this little devil dog that is chewing up my house.

Reminds me of one of my fav stories about XH.

Saw XH at work and he says "you got another dog", I said "yes, DD loves it", and he says "why would you get another dog", and I say "to replace you". "You replaced me with a dog"....

drum roll please "Well you replaced us with a pig"...walk away slowly.

Enjoy that pup even though they bark at 3 am, 4 am and on....

That quiets down after a while.

When we got my dog I distinctly remember waking up at 2, 4, and 6 AM her first night because she was scared.

It'll pass.

My little devil dog still wakes up about 6:30 every morning and just barks, barks, barks. I keep an extra pillow to put over my head.

I know your dog will be better. Any dog will be better. My dog thinks her name is "bad dog".

Court wasn't too bad today. Either I'm becoming a pro at this or things are starting to go my way.

Ahhh.... The Art of War. I managed a psychological victory. I brought along FIL. D!ck saw him. D!ck and his new attorney walked by and D!ck pointed me out. Then I heard the "Dad" comment and attorney doing a double-take at D!ck.

He probably wanted to know if he heard correctly. Yep, HIS Dad sitting with me.

I hope this scares new attorney a little. Makes him wonder why his client's father is sitting with the enemy.

And my attorney got some answers. Whewww.... the retirement money was MOVED to a new company. The funds were rolled over. If idiot D!ck had just given me a courtesy notice that this had happened, it would have save a lot of grief and $$$.

And the credit card statements that D!ck's been avoiding submitting... he was told to make a phone all right then and there today to request statements for THREE YEARS BACK and TO THE PRESENT. This is BIG since Bimbo and D!ck have been living hog-wild on these cards... especially since he's been gone.

Yep, their lavish lifestyle will be exposed for both attorney's to see. Hard to say HH spent wildly when my charges were groceries and gas and D!ck's were Vegas, massages, and cosmetics!

I finally laid eyes on D!ck. It had been 4 months. Older, grayer, ARROGANT.

I love your Judge!!! Awesome... expect talks of settlement to come next. He DOES NOT WANT to expose his folly (CC statements).

That credit card thing is awesome!

So the retirement was moved to another company- as in D!ck is employed by another company, or another comapny is administering the funds?

Any word on the job situation for him?

He's older, grayer, arrogant-----and YOU are a GODDESS and FABULOUS!!!!

And it is so great that your FIL is on your side. You have an awesome family- all of them!

HH you are fighting the good battle and I smell victory in the end.

What D&&k will smell is the wasteland of his own choices and he will need a gas mask.

Court wasn't too bad today. Either I'm becoming a pro at this or things are starting to go my way.

Ahhh.... The Art of War. I managed a psychological victory. I brought along FIL. D!ck and his new attorney walked by and D!ck pointed me out. Then I heard the "Dad" comment and attorney doing a double-take at D!ck.

He probably wanted to know if he heard correctly. Yep, HIS Dad sitting with me. I hope this scares new attorney a little. Makes him wonder why his client's father is sitting with the enemy.

And my attorney got some answers. Whewww.... the retirement money was MOVED to a new company. The funds were rolled over. If idiot D!ck had just given me a courtesy notice that this had happened, it would have saved a lot of grief and $$$.

And the credit card statements that D!ck's been avoiding submitting? He was told to make a phone call right then and there to request statements for THREE YEARS BACK and TO THE PRESENT. This is BIG since Bimbo and D!ck have been living hog-wild on credit.

Yep, D!ck and Bimbo's lavish lifestyle is about to be exposed. Hard to say HH spent wildly when my charges were groceries and gas and D!ck's were Vegas, massages, and cosmetics!

And I finally laid eyes on D!ck. It had been 4 months. He looks fatter, older, grayer, ARROGANT. He didn't look at me but I looked at him. I didn't see my husband -- Just the shell of someone I used to know. Sad!

Yep, I am the enemy. That is how I feel. That he hates me so much. That I'm an old growth that needs to be burned off his body. He doesn't care how it's removed, how much pain it causes, or the outcome -- hell, he'll do the surgery himself if he could.

No matter what the cost or the consequences, D!ck is not altering his course. Time for hardship in his life.

But when? Before of after he was fired?

O M G!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AWESOME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Best. Story. Ever.

Before he was fired -- in January. He provided a copy of the most recent statement from this new brokerage company.

Yeah... I know... he wasn't suppose to dispose of, withdraw from, transfer, sell, etc. the retirement funds.

But you know D!ck. He did. He also wasn't suppose to cancel a life insurance policy. He did. He wasn't suppose to use joint lines of credit except for legal fees. He did. He wasn't suppose to use marital funds on a gf. He did.

He's done everything they say you are not suppose to be able to do.

I'm waiting for him to fall... or him to hear the slam of a jail cell door.

Baby steps on the way to justice...

Thanks for not knowingly ever helping them. Frankly, they would never turn to a forum like this should they run into issues.

No... issues come up and they RUN to..... drumroll..... LAS VEGAS. Because, believe it or not folks, they appear to have spent ANOTHER weekend in Vegas.

So he gets fired from his job, claims to have no money for health insurance, yet goes to Vegas twice in consecutive weekends?

Sheeeeez.....

I give up. Wish, WISH I could do a Plan B. But that would be cutting off my nose to spite my face because I AM THE ONLY ADVOCATE FOR ME.

I have to dig. I have to snoop. I have to investigate.

I want this to end....

But patience is a virtue. And I will outlast, outwit and outplay them. Because I am doing this for the right reasons. They are doing it for selfish reasons.