LOL Melody....it's been a long day.

OW or H reported me to professional investigations department of district. He told me that there were actually 2 complaints or reports. He, the investigator, told me that my principal's boss already told him the lowdown about the affair so it would be a formality.

I was bothered about this but half expected it given the situation and exposure. I was told it would be a reprimand, but you know...who knows what the truth is. I used a district laptop even though I was at home and on my own internet. I contacted union, but it's just a waiting game.

I told Melody that I didn't feel too bad because this whole mess hurts worse than being fired...I guess I'll just move and look for another job. Maybe that's what I'm supposed to do.

(((hope)))

The world is clueless about affairs and what they truly do to people's lives. They tear families apart and then the BS pays for it? What a b*ssackwards world we live in.

I'm so sorry.

Is princessmaggy or schoolbus out there? I could use some advice about all this. How could I give you my email address?

Hi hopeE-

Just click on one of the moderator's names on the bottom to get their email address. Then, you can email the moderator with your email. The mod will then email the person you want to give your email to and, if that person agrees, they will be able to contact you.

Hang in there!

I'm here HopeE, whatcha need?

Hi, I wanted to talk with you on the phone if that is possible? HOw can I get you my phone number? Melodylane has it if you can contact her?

Wow, what's wrong with this picture?

"YOU" getting a reprimand (or possibly fired)??? Give me a break, that is one of the silliest things I've ever heard. If it weren't for people like you standing up AGAINST affairs...affairs would just continue to go on and on forever, as though they were actually okay. Sickening!!!

Sheesh, hope, you should get a standing ovation, not a reprimand.

Don't give up, hope, you ARE in the right here and, hopefully, one of these days others will actually see just how right you are. I know all of us here sure do!

Good luck to you, hon.

(((hope)))

I can't stop laughing because it seems the cheaters have hoisted themselves on their own petards. Hope was asked by the investigator to write him an email explaining the situation so he can take that information to the board administrators to get their ruling.

In other words, the cheaters will now be exposed to the board administrators because hope is going to write their full names and describe the affair.

PrincessMeg, check your facebook email, please!

Nothing like a little more exposure, LOL!

LOL, I love it!!!

I was told by union lawyer that investigator is a very upfront and honest man. She said that if he told me it would be a letter of reprimand then it will. That me made me feel better, but the leaders have the final say. Thanks for all the support.

HopeE, here's the deal.

At the start of every school year, you sign a sheet (among many) which contains a contract of use for district technology. That form basically says you will not use the district computers for any personal use - period.

That's why you will get the letter in your file.

IT DOES NOT MEAN YOU NEED TO QUIT. DO NOT QUIT.

That is an extreme response to a stupid letter in a file that NOBODY READS. Actually, nobody even cares.

Ohhhh-and let's take this a bit further. The investigator told you that there were "two" complaints? That would be

1. Your husband
2. His skanky 'ho


Can you think of anyone else?

They shot themselves in the foot. Here's why:

In that same little packet of stuff at the beginning of every year that you sign?

Yep. There's a sheet in there that says you have read or received the district personnel and procedures manual. Every year, you are given a thing to sign for it. You sign that you opt to receive it on paper, or that you will opt to view it online. You signed one, and they KEEP THAT SHEET OF PAPER. Welllllll, so did WH and SOW (Skanky Other Woman).

In that "routine" little manual, they might be flabbergasted to find that they are not supposed to be having an affair. Nope. Uh-unh. It is against the rules, on account of they don't want employees doing that on company time. Check it out. Worse still if one of them is in any type of higher position than the other (teacher vs instructional asst, for example). That makes things even worse.

And the moral turpitude clause - strikes a broad swath through most any behvior, really. Affair-behavior, in the halls of a school, sits right smack in the middle of that swath.


My advice to you is to quietly accept the letter. Take your hit. Do NOT look for another job, because the fact is that there are about 100 other teachers in the district who got some sort of stupid letter in their file this year. They lived, and so will you. By this time next year, as long as you hold your head up, it will be long forgotten.


Don't use the school district computers to email anybody anything about the affair. Ever. I think, though, you have that part figured out. Also, don't buy anything personal, don't shop on the net, don't surf around, don't make any comments about anything....because everything you do is being watched. Trust me.


SB

Thanks Schoolbus,
That was so helpful; you are so knowledgeable about this stuff. They are aware of the affair as our my superiors and they went to bat for me in telling what was going on. We've also had a lot of drama going on at our school this year, so there's a little mercy.

I'm getting a new computer this weekend, so there will be no problem with that and I certainly didn't do any of it on school time. I was using a school laptop at home. The investigator told me that I'm not supposed to even keep personal pics or music on there...he said, "get it off there." I did.

Now, husband gets the kids this weekend and just came by. One of the boys in my distress last night, spray painted our brick on the corner. Yes, i was upset and punished them, but he comes up to the house ranting about them, "painting his house"..I'm sorry but I didn't think he had any part of this house anymore so what does it matter." He also sent them in to tell me to stop opening his mail..LOL

I'm getting ready to go to Conroe for a restful weekend with my brother and the best part...lunch with Melody!!!! She's going to help me get a new computer.

I love getting a new computer.

I got one yesterday at work.

Then, it did not work.

So, they are going to move me.

Things get interesting sometimes! I was hacked at work, and they are going a little nutty. Okay, a LOT nutty. Big crisis, but, hey, I get a new computer.

The sad news is that they refused to let me take "one single document" from the old one.

Crabby people.


Basically, I have sat around for two days, explaining what happened, over and over, to different investigators. I have gotten NO work done. I even have to "work" tomorrow, which is stupid, because....

how, actually, CAN I work, without a computer?

Having been asked this question...they were not amused at their own lack of response.

I think I will take donuts in the morning. I will be hanging out with nothing to do, anyway. I could give the tekkies some donuts. They might like me more.


SB

Only if they're cops on the side, LOL.

<oops, did I say that?>

Technically these are the "tekkie cops".

Maybe I should bring them Cookies instead?

There is a Best Buy right up the road from that restaurant!

HopeE-- it was nice talking with you and it sounds like you've got things handled. I LOVE the added bonus of their own inadvertent exposure to the higher-ups! How cool is that!

PM, I hope you get to feeling better, friend!