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Originally Posted by Jamela
you will get yours too for laughing......watch and remember me!

Your local friendly misogynist here.

All I can say is wow, now I remember why I hate women.


I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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Originally Posted by Jamela
you will get yours too for laughing......watch and remember me!

Your local friendly misogynist here.

All I can say is wow, now I remember why I hate women.

Now, now, Pariah. :::big hug::: Watch out for my broom handle. laugh


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Originally Posted by Jamela
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What... in the world... are you talking about?







Many including myself have tried to help you.

You won't answer questions, and you won't listen.

What do you expect from us?

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scared are we??? The man upstairs is watching you. Thats not a violation.

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Originally Posted by Jamela
scared are we??? The man upstairs is watching you. Thats not a violation.
WTH?


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WTH?
I believe it may be a medication issue.


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This is all a relief to read, actually. Until now, I thought I had problems.

Hey, it's my 100th post!

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HELP? You call this help...laughing and teasing and joking about someone's life! I am not stuck in a situation. I just came on the site to see if anyone else went through same and can shed some light on how things turned out and if this story is not cmparable to anyones life then I really see how someone can comment at all unless they walked in my shoes!! THAT'S ALL..I'm done here! I'm just going through these last few posts and trying to delete all my previous ones because theres a lot of bad vibes and karma here!!

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Originally Posted by Prisca
This is all a relief to read, actually. Until now, I thought I had problems.

Hey, it's my 100th post!

Yay, Prisca! hurray


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Fighting with us will not fix your problem. The ridiculous responses were in response to your lashing out at people who took the time to help you.

I'm sorry you didn't like the advice you were given Jamela. The advice here comes from many who have been there and done that. They gave you the best advice they could. The fact is - this is not a marriage relationship. If he cannot be committed in a dating relationship he wont be committed in a stronger relationship. You cannot fix this man and the steps to over come adultery do not apply to a dating relationship. I don't care how YOU feel about your relationship - it is a dating relationship. The advice here for overcoming infidelity was specially crafted to save MARRIAGES. That's the only way it will work.

You got angry because we didn't give you the same advice we'd give a married woman. You didn't bother to marry this man so the advice wont apply. That's it.

I'm sorry your life is in this place. I'm sorry for the pain that you're going through. The fact that you're not married does not invalidate your pain. However, your future plan of action is very different because you are only dating. The BEST thing you can do is to leave this relationship.



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Originally Posted by Jamela
HELP? You call this help...laughing and teasing and joking about someone's life! I am not stuck in a situation. I just came on the site to see if anyone else went through same and can shed some light on how things turned out and if this story is not cmparable to anyones life then I really see how someone can comment at all unless they walked in my shoes!! THAT'S ALL..I'm done here! I'm just going through these last few posts and trying to delete all my previous ones because theres a lot of bad vibes and karma here!!

THANK YOU AGAIN..WHEWWW!


I think you said it yourself: "You reap what you sow"


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I'm smarter than you and your mother! Since you like to joke. take that...lolollol!

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J,

I'm getting half the story because you've just edited/deleted most of your posts--but PLEASE don't think that MB is some kind of snotty judgmental married-people's club. no one here is trying to be unkind, judgmental, thoughtless, etc.

the advice you've received seems to me like it's geared towards sparing you unnecessary pain. sometimes things sound harsher in print than they would face-to-face. no one here underestimates the gravity of your situation or the pain you must be feeling, they're just trying to point out what i feel is obvious: this fella sounds like a BAD RISK. if you haven't committed to him already, in the form of the recognized social institution of marriage, you should cut and run while you have no legal obligations to him.

no one is trying to imply that you aren't welcome here, they're just letting you know that the site IS designed for married people and that this forum may not be equipped to help you.

i wish you the best and i'm sorry about your situation.

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Originally Posted by Jamela
HELP? You call this help..
One cannot help someone who refuses to answer a simple question.

I asked you two, simple and relevant questions in an attempt to better give you some advice.

You ignored me.


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Originally Posted by Jamela
I'm smarter than you and your mother! Since you like to joke. take that...lolollol!

Anyone remember One Flew Over The Cookoo's Nest? It's...medication time!


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Originally Posted by Jamela
I believe I was commenting at marital bliss when I made the comment about man hating whitches..I don't believe I bashed you marko!

However, you did bash my friends. The people who have been very helpful and supportive for me and my wife.

The people who led to my wife falling back in love with me.

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But I do want to add how unfortunate it is to get on a site with people who are suppose to be supportive to someone who is going through real life issues and all you get is a lot of laughter and jokes!

That's not all you got. You got some very real and good pieces of advice.

When you ignored those pieces of advice and made light of them and insulted the nice people who were trying to help you, then, yes, some of them decided not to be so nice.

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God bless all of you...you are going to need it! don't think because your marriages are going fine now that tomorrow things won't come crashing down on your heads!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! and I won't laugh..

So if their lives are ruined, will that make you feel any better?


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Originally Posted by Jamela
I'm smarter than you and your mother!
Ok, if you insist.

But what relevance does that have in helping to resolve your painful situation?


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Jamela, tried to read your posts and you have "edited" yourself out.

If this is the way you deal with issues then I am not surprised by the tone of this.

They threw bricks at me when I came on this board. It made me upset and mad but I did not take my toys and run home.

Don't be a conflict avoider.


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