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SS2,
Keep us posted. I wish you all the best...I thought I did all the right things, looked for the right things and it ended with me having a broken heart. I sincerely hope that doesn't happen to you, you're much too nice and someone I admire so much, you deserve a future with happiness in it.


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Originally Posted by kaycstamper
SS2,
Keep us posted. I wish you all the best...I thought I did all the right things, looked for the right things and it ended with me having a broken heart. I sincerely hope that doesn't happen to you, you're much too nice and someone I admire so much, you deserve a future with happiness in it.

Me too. There are no guarantees for happiness though. I am willing to risk getting hurt to have a chance at love again someday. Life is not without risks. Life is too short to play it safe all the time. I am just trying to enjoy the process and be as safe as possible.

I am enjoying flirting with the boy though. This part is fun.



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Originally Posted by stillstanding2
I am enjoying flirting with the boy though. This part is fun.
rotflmao

Hello SS2!


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Just about 2 months ago you met with your XH and ended a relationship at the same time. Until you are ready not to take the call and meet with him again, I do not believe you are ready to date or that it is fair for someone else. JMO


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Originally Posted by grindnfool
Just about 2 months ago you met with your XH and ended a relationship at the same time. Until you are ready not to take the call and meet with him again, I do not believe you are ready to date or that it is fair for someone else. JMO

I agree that if I weren't done with the ex I would not be ready to date. The last encounter with the ex finished it for me. I'm done with him. I have no desire to ever see him again. The last visit closed the door to him for me. I am at peace (finally) with the facts of my marriage and divorce.


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Originally Posted by lildoggie
Originally Posted by stillstanding2
I am enjoying flirting with the boy though. This part is fun.
rotflmao

Hello SS2!

Hi Lil!


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Originally Posted by stillstanding2
I am at peace (finally) with the facts of my marriage and divorce.

Well & good.

Are you also at peace with your past conduct as a wife?
Have you absorbed enough MB wisdom to greatly improve your future relationship skills?

Just asking' ....

Because, it's not just about being "past/over/done" with your XH.
It's about YOU, and what you've learned.

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Originally Posted by Pepperband
Originally Posted by stillstanding2
I am at peace (finally) with the facts of my marriage and divorce.

Well & good.

Are you also at peace with your past conduct as a wife?
Have you absorbed enough MB wisdom to greatly improve your future relationship skills?

Just asking' ....

Because, it's not just about being "past/over/done" with your XH.
It's about YOU, and what you've learned.

Yes I am.


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Originally Posted by stillstanding2
Yes I am.

Have you read any of the humor books by Jill Conner Browne?
*LINK* to Amazon - list of Jill's books

In her books, a recurring theme is this ...

BE PARTICULAR

... especially when it comes to men. Be particular.

I can recommend her books.
If you've never read any of them, start with the book at the top of the list ... her first book.

You will laugh.




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My advice to people who are dating after being in a relationship or not dating for a long time is this:

Date a lot.

Date people who may not fit into "your type" but who you find posisbly attractive.

Then, be critical of what the person brings to the party.

Finally, even if it seems fabulous, be prepared for it to not work out for either you or the other person. As I told my girlfriend, MOST relationships don't work out in the first year.

As for online introductions compared to traditional introductions, I think online has some real advantages. First, there is a wider selection of eligible people--people who in the normal course of events would never cross your path. My husband was one of those. Second, you can eliminate people where there are deal breakers. For example, I won't date anyone who wants to have kids. I'd be wasting his time since I cannot have more. I'm also unwilling to date an atheist. Third, if and when it doesn't work out, you aren't constantly seeing this person. There's a good looking man at the early service at my church. I'd never date him because I wouldn't want to have to deal with it if things didn't work out. My church is very small--that means no escape.


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Work is still great. I have been going to the gym again and am starting to enjoy it. I am thankful for fantastic friends. I feel like I am getting a healthy routine going. I also have a coffee date on Sunday. smile


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Originally Posted by stillstanding2
Work is still great. I have been going to the gym again and am starting to enjoy it. I am thankful for fantastic friends. I feel like I am getting a healthy routine going. I also have a coffee date on Sunday. smile

Ooooohhhhhh......exciting!

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As soon as we "made the date", he stopped being interested. Lol. Went out last night with a girlfriend for dinner and drinks afterwards. Had a really nice evening. Going out with same new friend for lunch and hiking today. Have lost 5 pounds and have dropped a dress size. Feeling pretty good. Have also found a house to rent so I won't have to be in this hotel for much longer. Moving in 2 weeks. House is 1-1/2 miles from work and perfect for me with plenty of space and a big backyard.

Life is good. smile


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still,

Bummer about losing interest!!!! House sounds awesome, and getting in the routine of going to the gym is great!!!! Sounds like life is not only good but great!!! So glad for you!!!!

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SS2,
Glad you found a house and congrats on the weight drop! I've lost 13 lbs since Jim and I broke up, stress diet works! (Actually, it was the impetus for me to keep going, I'm actively trying to lose weight.) All of the jeans I bought a month ago are now too big! A GOOD problem!
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kay--that is an awesome problem to have!!!! But I am kind of falling for Doug and don't think I want to try that kind of diet right now!!!!! Will keep going to Curves and walking!!!!

Dawn


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Jeans do not lie! Congrats Kay.


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Have made my first female friend in the area. We hung out on Saturday and ate Indian food and swapped divorce and dating stories. Her husband decided he was gay after 3 kids and 8 years of marriage. Nooo

She showed me a hiking trail on Sunday with waterfalls and great scenery. hurray We had lunch and did some shopping too. It was fun. We went walking yesterday and had some sushi. Her kids were with her ex and his partner for the weekend. Everybody has a story! faint

Back to normal today. Worked and went to the gym. Planning a trip this weekend to see my best friend. cool

Have a date this week with an eligible bachelor. blush


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You are right everyone has a story!!!! And ours isn't usually the worse to be heard!!!!

I am sure it will be fun spending time with your friend!!!

And a date?? That's cool!!!

Have a great week!!!

Dawn


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It sounds like everything is going well for you, and you've made a friend to boot, that's great!


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