re I am so at a loss as to what to do next or where to turn. My husband and I have been married for 8 years (together 9). We had a good marriage up til recently. Sure it had its issues but what marriage doesn't. My husband has always suffered from migraines. Within the last year my husband's doctor put him on Topamax to try and control them. It has helped. Recently he upped him to 100 mg a day and my husband has drastically changed. He is very angry all the time with me - flies off the handle out of nowhere. He has also withdrawn from me. We used to talk about anything and everything - he was my best friend. Now all he wants to do is hang out with other people and he drinks alot more (he did some before - a glass of wine here a beer there but this is the hard stuff and quite a bit of it). He refurses to talk about going to counseling. Says there is nothing wrong. He tells me he iisn't unhappy but can't tell me he is happy. He says he just is - he made a commiment and he isn't going anywhere I cry all the time, can't sleep, can't breathe. I want my friend and partner back. He can't even bring himself to tell me he loves me or give me a hug. Just tells me to stop weeping. I plan on calling his doctor but hubby tells me that he wo't be stopping these meds that there is nothing wrong with him and I'm just crazy - It's all in my head. I know the man I love is still in there somewhere but I just can't find him. Please pray that God helps us through this very difficult time and our marriage can get back to a loving one and can survive.

Below are the listed Psychiatric Disorder percentages reported for Topamax. The first number is at 50mg, the second at 400mg. So some side effects do go up with an increase in dosage.

I have taken Topamax before and the worst issue I had was slight memory loss, like forgetting little things you were about to say. The memory improves over time taking the medication.

I would contact your husband's doctor office to inform them about what you have seen. Migrains can come from multiple issues and it's possible there is an issue not being addressed. I think it would be in his best benefit.

Heavenly Father,
I pray for this wife trying to discern what needs to be done for her husband. I pray Lord you would give her wisdom to be able to see what needs to be said and how to say it. I pray Father this husband would have understanding about how the wife is feeling. I pray she can express her emotions in a positive way to show him that she cares for him and wants the best for him. If there are other issues Lord bring those out in the open that they may be faced. Lord I pray you would be with this couple showing your grace, mercy and love.

In Jesus Name,
Amen

Psychiatric Disorders
Somnolence 9 15
Anorexia 4 14
Difficulty with Memory NOS 5 10
Insomnia 8 9
Depression 7 9
Difficulty with Concentration/Attention 7 8
Anxiety 4 6
Psychomotor Slowing 3 5
Mood Problems 2 5
Confusion 3 4
Cognitive Problem NOS 1 4
Libido Decreased 0 3