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Happy birthday Scotland!! Hope you have a great day and thanks for all you help and support, you really are an inspiration.
BW/FWW 34 (Harmony)
BH/WH 36
Feb 2009 - Affair starts, physical for 9 days on business trip.
Mar 2009 - Separate from H, live alone
Apr 2009 - realise I have made big mistake and attempt reconciliation with H, establish NC with OM.
Jun 2009 - H physical and emotional serial A start right upto present day.
Jul 2009 - NC with OM broken and becomes EA
Mar 2010 - H reads email and discovers A
Jul 2010 - Discover MB
Aug 2010 - Plan A starts
Oct 2010 - Plan B starts
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I hope your day has been a happy one!
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Scotty, did you get my FB email? I sent you Not's email info. Hope you're off having the time of your life on your BD!
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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Thank You EVERYONE.
Yes, PM. I did get your message.
Just got home from my parent's house where I was pampered with not having to make any meals. My DSx2 and DNx2 baked me a cake in the shape of a heart. They decorated it with star sprinkles. I had a GREAT day. I even slept in this morning. WOOOOHOOOOO.
My mom called me at 1043am and when I answered, she said, "WAHHHHHHHHHH, that's what YOU were doing 35 years ago." HEHEHEHE
Well, it wasn't an easy day, but it WAS much easier than I anticipated.
Thank you all again.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING  Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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(((Scotty))) Happy birthday my friend!
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
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Happy Birthday, Scotty!!!! 
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Sounds like a great birthday!
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My mom called me at 1043am and when I answered, she said, "WAHHHHHHHHHH, that's what YOU were doing 35 years ago." HEHEHEHE Oh, nice! I've gotta remember that for DS's birthdays next year!
D-Day 2-10-2009
Fully Recovered and Better Than Ever!
Thank you Marriage Builders!
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Oh great, don't give my mom any ideas!
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
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Happy belated Birthday Scotty, I am so glad that you had such a great day!!!! You deserve it.
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Dday:12/31/09-Found MB 01/03/10
3DstepChildren24&20
PlanA:01/03/10
PlanB:03/25/10
D final 11/15/10
"I dare you to find some time and some place to be silent for longer than usual; a few moments, a few minutes, a few hours. Listen to your heart, listen to your soul; and most importantly, listen to the silence to see what it sounds like and how it speaks to you."
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Happy belated birthday! Hope you treated yourself well.
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Thanx guys. Merry Christmas Eve Eve Everyone. Hope everyone is finished their shopping. I only need to wrap ALL of the presents.  I realized the other day that I know WAY too much that happens in affair-lalala-land through stories my kiddos tell me. See, I didn't really realize it since I don't ASK them. DSx2 came home from their visit with Bampot and DS10 says, "Mommy, can you believe it? They don't have a Christmas tree. They didn't celebrate Chanukah, and they had Christmas presents. There wasn't a tree there last year either. That's just WEIRD." That was when I realized that I knew too much. I think I need to explain to them that while I want to hear about their feelings, I don't want to hear about the other things. See, I always knew that Bampot knew too much about what I do because I overhear DS10 tell him EVERYTHING about his day to day life. I also knew that I knew TOO MUCH, I just didn't realize HOW MUCH. I was also thinking about something else. I have been thinking about the advice that you guys have been giving me(always trying to make myself better) and I remember that you guys told me that I should dress up whenever Bampot is coming to get the kiddos and that I should go out more often. This is so DSx2 will tell Bampot. Doesn't this go AGAINST Plan B? First, I shouldn't be doing ANYTHING with thought to Bampot. Second, NO EXPECTATIONS. I KNOW that I am supposed to move forward as if Bampot doesn't exist. I "get" that. I even realize how far I HAVE come in this last year. Personal recovery is VERY important. I AM moving in the right direction. Some thing are just weighing me down still. I will let go of the weights that are tied to me as I realize they are there. I will continue to move forward. I have all of you, MB and DrH to thank for ME.
BW(Me)aka Scotty:37 DSx2: 10,12 DDAY2(PA)Nov27/09 Plan B Dec18/09 Personal R in works Scotty's THING Newly Betrayed click herePraying for walls and doors. Thanx MM “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” ? Maya Angelou PROGRESS NOT PERFECTION THANK YOU
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Scotland,
I'm having a tough time finding an IM for when I go into PlanB.
May I ask whom you used?
I don't have any family around and neighbors don't want to get involved.
I'm stuck.
Help!
BS/ME 47 Met on blind date
WH 46(Alcoholic,drugs?)
DS1:18 DS2:15
1st A EA9/07 PA10/07 NC11/07
2nd A EA/PA-10/2010
Found out- 11/20/2010
He moved out-1/1/2011 same apt.cmplx as OW(&her kids)
PlanB-1/1/11(broken)
NEW PB-2/11 Taking it one day at a time
There are two kinds of people in the world: Those who say to God, "Thy will be done" and those to whom God says, "Alright then, have it your way." ~C .S.Lewis
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With your boys still so small, perhaps instead of asking them not to tell you certain things and then they wonder, is this one of the certain things?, maybe get them each a journal.
Whenever they start to tell you too much, direct them to their journal, to either write or draw pictures. That way they still get to document their experiences and have them validated, but hopefully without giving you quite so much detail.
A smooth sea never made a skilled mariner.
~ English proverb Neak's Story
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Merry Christmas my beautiful friend!
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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This is a victory speach.
Of a journey that you have taken and rocked... spot on.
Have a Merry Christmas.
Last edited by barbiecat; 12/23/10 12:41 PM.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46
2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.
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Yet another great post Scotty.
God bless and Merry Christmas to you too.
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