I am completely broke - crying harder than I ever have before.
She has left - packed up clothes and gone to her moms.
I am so sorry, friend. Shoot me an email any time you think it will help.
This is not over, Meh. Not by any means. Waywards go CRAZY when an affair is exposed. This means you are striking close to the target. It is as if an alien is infesting her brain, you are hitting it with exactly the right frequency to kill it, and the alien has gone ape throwing a fit and going ballistic because it knows you can hurt it.
There's a virus in there that can be cured, but it is going to throw a fit and try to HURT YOU to stop you from taking the steps necessary to kill it. And it's going to attempt to hurt you emotionally.
You shot out of the gate like lightning doing all of the right things. Don't give up now. Read up on the plans here and the people who have been through this. You have a very VERY good chance to recover things based on what you did today, compared to a lot of people I've seen go through here taking FOREVER to get up and do something about the problem (while the affair grows stronger).
Her mom said whether she takes the polygraph, fails or not - she is leaving me. Thats what she told her mom.
Meh, waywards say all kinds of insane bull. It is almost like they are reading from a script. Every one of them says pretty much the exact same things "Oh, no; you've gone and done it, now! I was going to reconcile with you, but now you've ruined your last chance!" {AS IF YOU ARE THE ONE WHO SHOULD BE BEGGING FOR ANOTHER CHANCE AT THIS POINT. SHE SHOULD BE BEGGING YOU.}
Everyone is saying I have lost it. She is mad I contacted her friends. They are all saying I am acting crazy.
They'll say anything to support her. They are not friends of your marriage; they'll encourage her to go right on destroying your marriage and children. Tragically there are millions of people like this.
Plan A, Meh. Calm down, control your emotions, and follow the plan here. Do some reading.
You know you've struck a nerve. The affair, the virus inside her, is running strong. All of this stuff means you are WINNING, Meh, if you can keep a handle on things and stay the course.