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It was good to get back to work--nothing like having to think on your feet all day to get your mind off of a wayward husband.
One of my nicest students moved today. He's been in 22 schools in 4 and a half years of school.
That fact isn't taken into consideration when I'm penalized for low test scores. He won't be tested now, of course, but he's not the only child I have whose home life guarantees struggles at school.
Yet it's all my fault. REALLY wish I'd gone to nursing school.
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My son is doing a research paper on the need for parental involvement in education. as a former teacher (who got paid more as a secretary) I hear ya!
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One of my nicest students moved today. He's been in 22 schools in 4 and a half years of school. That poor kid.  BTW, in case no one has told you lately, thank you for being a teacher and willing to pour into the lives of other people's children. Teachers deserve combat pay IMO.
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Thanks, KaylaAndy and princessmeggy for the kind words, especially for the thanks, PM. I haven't been thanked for being a teacher for a long time, if ever. I've been up since 3:30. School is going to be fun today! 
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I'm stunned and saddened.
My sister just called. She's been having stomach pains for a few days; they ran a CAT scan on Wednesday. She has kidney stones (a chronic condition), a hiatal hernia, and--the WORST news--pulmonary fibrosis.
She's had systemic lupus since she was a teen and a myriad of problems with it. Kidney involvement. Stomach troubles. And now this--pulmonary fibrosis is a fatal disease. There's not much available in the way of treatment and the only treatments available just slow the progression of the disease.
Lots of people die within 1 - 2 years of receiving the diagnosis.
Robert Goulet died from this. A family friend, JT, died from it.
This is my baby sister and she means the world to me.
Please pray. Please.
"Your future isn't sealed. Nothing bad is going to happen. You just put everything in God's hands and in the meanwhile, do all you can do as a woman to protect yourself and your finances and family. That's what your job is to do now and let God deal with the wayward. Trust me...you do not have to lift a finger. HE will deal with the wayward."
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I'm so sorry Hope. I will keep your sister in my prayers.
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Thanks, cabbage. I appreciate it so very much.
"Your future isn't sealed. Nothing bad is going to happen. You just put everything in God's hands and in the meanwhile, do all you can do as a woman to protect yourself and your finances and family. That's what your job is to do now and let God deal with the wayward. Trust me...you do not have to lift a finger. HE will deal with the wayward."
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 I am so sorry H&G, prayers for sure.
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H&G
I'm so sorry I know how that disease can effect a body I have Scleraderma same family, i have some of the same issues. remember to stay positive for your sister and remember with this type of disease there are meds to control things and it doesn't mean things will progress to a point that isnt manageable, they just have to give you the worst case scenario, a good attitude is crucial and i know for myself when the pity part comes into it it makes me sad, be her rock, give her a safe place to go where life can be normal even for a couple of hours visiting big sis......
it will mean the world to her
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Agree w/Jessi in that always worst case is given. I am in medicine btw. Just be supportive and listen and encourage her to find THE BEST docs who do THE BEST work in that disease and take her to them.
Please always give her courage to open up about this and you just be there for her. GOD IS HERE! He hears our prayers for you, your sister and all you're going through.
God is here for you even during this tempestuous time HnG. He's here, has His arms stretched out for you and your sis, and will get you both thru this time. Hugs friend and prayers.
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Thanks, everyone. I still want to curl up and cry about it, but at least I don't want to curl up and die. I'll be here for my sister and I'm sure God will be here for us.
Thanks for being here for me although it seems most people have abandoned my thread. You don't know how much your support means to me. I don't think I'd have made it the past months without all of you. From the bottom of my heart, thanks.
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I know what you mean. I can't even imagine what my life would have been like without the great people here. Actually, I can imagine it, and I SHUDDER when I do. There may just be people who don't know what to say or have nothing else to offer. Have you thought about helping out others? I know it made me feel better to help others since I feel like I am paying it forward. Just don't take on more than you can handle. And don't forget to live life.
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Often times, it's not that those who help have abandoned you. Sometimes, they have gained some confidence in you, and are allowing you to stand on your own a little - when you begin to show the strength to stand.
Those will often come to aid when they see you totter, or shudder... most often they will not let you fall. And if you do, they will help to dust you off.
It's the best kind of support, the kind that does not make you reliant, but gives you only what you need so that you can make the next step on your own.
Chin up, H&G.
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Scotty, I've replied on one or two other threads lately, but I haven't found many threads where I feel I can contribute. The Boys' Club (lots of WWs it seems) is self-supporting. They are doing a great job of being there for each other. Harmony2010 is gone, so too with Mitzie and LGLG--they've all left MB. LG isn't here anymore. I miss them and wonder what's going on with them. HHH, you said: Often times, it's not that those who help have abandoned you. Sometimes, they have gained some confidence in you, and are allowing you to stand on your own a little - when you begin to show the strength to stand.
Those will often come to aid when they see you totter, or shudder... most often they will not let you fall. And if you do, they will help to dust you off.
It's the best kind of support, the kind that does not make you reliant, but gives you only what you need so that you can make the next step on your own.
Chin up, H&G. Thanks for this explanation. I get it, especially the last paragraph. The past 2 weeks have been difficult for me and I did receive support. For that I am very thankful. Learning about my sister's diagnosis has been horrible. I still can't believe it and don't want to believe it. I feel like my world is falling apart.
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Hey, H&G! Just a quick post to let you know many of us are still here supporting you  So so sorry to hear about your sister. I know just how special sisters are, my two mean the world to me. In fact, we just got matching (small) tattoos that represent the three of us last summer... Anyway, sending prayers and thoughts out to you. ((((H&G)))))
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I'm still following you too H & G. I only add something when I feel it might be helpful.
I am sorry about your sis too. I have some similar stuff going on in my family (support people having crisis) and feeeeeel for you.
Hang in there girl!
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Thanks, Susie Q and reading for the prayers and thoughts and hugs. Reading, I hope the people of your support system. It's a helpless feeling to watch others struggle when you are still struggling yourself, isn't it?
My best to all of you...
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I'm still following too. I'm sorry you're hurting. (((H&G)))
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Princessmeggy, I've never doubted that you were here for me and I need to remind myself that you all have lives beyond MB. Thank you for all of the times you've given much needed and welcomed support. (This goes for everyone, not just Princessmeggy.)
I'm more than a little ashamed of my pity party yesterday and earlier today. It's just been a rough time and, suddenly, my main support--my sister--has been diagnosed with a fatal disease. It seems more than I can handle, but I need to be here for my sister, my DS and other kids, and my mom. I just need to pull myself together.
And I will, starting today. I just spoke to my sister. She hasn't changed. She's still there for me and I'm there for her. She's a remarkable woman. I just wish she lived closer by but I will visit her for a couple of weeks this summer.
"Your future isn't sealed. Nothing bad is going to happen. You just put everything in God's hands and in the meanwhile, do all you can do as a woman to protect yourself and your finances and family. That's what your job is to do now and let God deal with the wayward. Trust me...you do not have to lift a finger. HE will deal with the wayward."
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H&G, it's normal to feel that way about people leaving your thread. I felt that way. Then, I realized that it wasn't personal. It comes and goes. Maybe, you could take some time outside of MB to focus on other things, like those new hobbies. How are those coming BTW?
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