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Hi Everyone, It's been a while since I posted, but I'm here reading every day. I came across this article on Salon.com. I bit of an eye opener for you lurkers who are considering or have already cheated on your spouse. http://www.salon.com/life/real_families/index.html?story=/mwt/feature/2011/04/11/secret_family
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Together 14 years, married 12
Two "furry children" (one cat & one dog)
MB has changed me and changed my life. I am becoming a better person for it, and building a better marriage. MB principles can truly help you create the love and the life you want.
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At the end he says "I do know that is how love dies: Reality kills it." It SHOULD say "I do know how a fantasy dies: Reality kills it."
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Yeah...this guy has no idea what "love" is....
BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy. 
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He brings wayward to a new level...pond scum
Me 55, XWH 53, M 22 years
D17, D30
alien replaces my husband "I'm not happy" -7/08
Discover OW-8/08 (his direct report and I work there also)
H moves out 10/1/08, confront Ow 10/28/08
Plan B 1/09
D final 12/09
Quote: "First thing you do is pray; when there is nothing else to do, continue to pray."
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I know, I couldn't believe some of the things he said. Everything he did was wrong: marrying someone he didn't love, cheating on his wife regardless of their "silent understanding" that they would split up later, have an affair and THEN a kid with a woman in the middle of a divorce, the dishonestly... ugh! I could go on an on. Then the "woe is me!" This was "true lurve" until reality seeped in.
And speaking of reality, I would like to point out to those of you who are afraid to expose... EXPOSE!!! Reality killed this affair/"lurve", so bring some reality into the fantasy of your cheating spouse for God's sake. EXPOSE!!!
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Yeah, the "silent understanding" thing cracks me up!!!! I would love to hear if the Ex knew about this. Supposedly I had one with my WH, funny I knew NOTHING about it. It was a silent understanding in his pea brain...
I said to my WH, if we had a SILENT understanding...when I asked you where you were going why didnt you just say "out with my new girlfriend" instead of lying about it....I mean we had a "silent understanding" so I shouldnt have had a problem with it, right? Its just another justification for their lying and cheating.
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BW me-41 WH -39 DS - 9 married 12 Yrs together(?) 18 yrs when A discovered DDay aug 2007 found MB dec 2007 Moved out april 2008 still seeing OW Plan B Okay I fixed the ages, it was looking screwy.
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Yeah, the "silent understanding" thing cracks me up!!!! I would love to hear if the Ex knew about this. Supposedly I had one with my WH, funny I knew NOTHING about it. It was a silent understanding in his pea brain...
I said to my WH, if we had a SILENT understanding...when I asked you where you were going why didnt you just say "out with my new girlfriend" instead of lying about it....I mean we had a "silent understanding" so I shouldnt have had a problem with it, right? Its just another justification for their lying and cheating. This cracks me up. After D-day I told my DH deep down I "knew" and he responds by telling me he thought I knew he was cheating so he thought it was OK. I smacked him so hard that I almost knocked him unconscious.
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I smacked him so hard that I almost knocked him unconscious. Not  a great Plan A moment, but gurl ..... 
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I couldn't believe what I just read in that article. Boy, does he need to be smacked up side of the head. He is still foggy. And if you noticed, it lasted about 2 years which is how long it takes for about 95% of them to go belly up.
Still hoping and praying.
BW-me 47yrs
WH-him 50yrs
married 24yrs, together 25 yrs,DD 25yrs, DD 22yrs(granddaughter born 3/14/2012).
D-Day#1 discovered cell phone calls 6/30/2009
D-Day#2 7/26/2009
Plan D 06/2012/WH served 8/17/12
WH left 7/25/2009/WH moved in with OW 7/29/2009
Trying to reconcile 12/30/2009/left 10/22/2010
2nd OW 8/2011? and living in Idaho.
"Dochas" Gaelic for hope which I have with me at all times because it is tattooed on my lower back.
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I love some of the letters too that readers sent in: http://letters.salon.com/mwt/feature/2011/04/11/secret_family/view/?show=allThis guy is a serious loser.
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