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Originally Posted by Scotty
HopeandGrace, if you are out there, know that I have read The last Dragon book. It was good, but I didn;t really like the ending. Wish there was more story.

Read "Red Riding Hood." Waste of my life for sure. I had heard the movie wasn't very good and now that I have read the book, I don't want to see it. I actually threw the book across the room.

In case anyone wants some good paranormal romance, I have been reading the Darkyn series by Lynn Viehl(her pen name). There are 7 books, 3 spin off, and then 5 novellas. I have been able to read about 1 book a day. They are definitely ADULT books though.

I'm out here, just don't have much to say. That's a good thing, I think. I've been busy working on stuff for the next school year. Also, I've been more social, meeting with friends for lunch a few times.

I, too, wanted more from The Last Dragon but it appears this was a one-off for the author. It's a pity because the writing was superb. The ending fulfilled the prognostication the elf read but it was a sad way to conclude the book.

If you like paranormal romances, try the Weather Warden series by Rachel Caine. There's quite a few of them but do read them in order.

I'll post a longer update to my thread sometime this week. Miss you, Scotty!


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Yup. Pretty much. It's not snobby superiority when it's the truth. grin

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I dunno if anyone else is watching The Voice on CBS. I don't normally watch reality TV(I prefer fantasy as fantasy). I LOVE this song and Vicci Martinez. Go GIRL.

Dog Days Are Over



Lyrics

Happiness, hit her like a train on a track
Coming towards her, stuck still no turning back
She hid around corners and she hid under beds
She killed it with kisses and from it she fled
With every bubble she sank with a drink
And washed it away down the kitchen sink

The dog days are over
The dog days are done
The horses are coming so you better run

Run fast for your mother run fast for your father
Run for your children for your sisters and brothers
Leave all your love and your longing behind you
Can't carry it with you if you want to survive

The dog days are over
The dog days are done
Can you hear the horses
Cuz here they come
And I never wanted anything from you
Except everything you had
And what was left after that too. oh.

Happiness hit her like a bullet in the back
Struck from a great height
By someone who should know better than that

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses
Cuz here they come

Run fast for your mother and fast for your father
Run for your children for your sisters and brothers
Leave all your love and your loving behind you
Can't carry it with you if you want to survive

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses because here they come

The dog days are over
The dog days are gone
Can you hear the horses because here they come


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Scotty, I love love love that song. I burned it to a CD with a bunch of other "motivational" songs (Jimmy Eat World - The Middle, Sick Puppies - Maybe are 2 others) and listened full volume every day to and from work.

I had to offer up more book choices, I'm a major bookworm with a obsession with paranormal I think LOL

Janet Evanovich - Stephanie Plum series (bumbling bounty hunter, not paranormal, but funny) ADULT but OK for teens

Kim Harrison - The Hollows series (witches, vampires, werewolves, oh my... very well done, though) ADULT

MaryJanice Davidson - Queen Betsy series (funny/romantic paranormal) ADULT

Kelley Armstrong - Women of the Otherworld series (paranormal) ADULT

Laurell K Hamilton - stop at Obsidian Butterfly. She has an excellent story line, very adult but interesting. Every book after Obsidian Butterfly is just xrated with no story line, the last one I hoped and hoped that she moved away from the porn, but no, luckily I only borrowed it so I won't buy any more of hers.

Charlaine Harris - Sookie Stackhouse/Southern Vampire series (sooooo much better than the True Blood TV series)

I just got a Nook for my birthday, with a bunch of books I've never read, in genres I've never considered so I'm going to close my eyes and choose until I've read through them all LOL


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Thank you Ticky, I will add them to my list. Started Ender's Game last night. I'm liking it so far. laugh


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Originally Posted by Scotland
Also, last weekend, sent a message through IM about bringing DS10 home early tomorrow, as it is his Bday and we always have a family dinner with my parents, sis, bro and nieces. DS10 actually didn't even want to go to visit Bampot tomorrow, but I said, "It's father's day." He asked if he could come home earlier. I told him that I would see. Bampot's response was that he would let DS10 decide when to come home. Well, DS10 already decided, noon. HEHEHEHE I told him that he didn't need to come home that early, that 3 would be fine, so he decided 3 it is. What a funny kid.

Hey Lil Sis...... kiss

For special reasons of my own, the above brought the BIGGEST of smiles to my face!!!!.... grin grin grin

Glad to see how well you are doing, but then again, I'm not surprised!!!!

Stop stopping in to say "Chin up, Chest out!!!"....

Back to Switzerland, but before I go...{{{{{Scottie}}}}}

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Thank you Not. Good to see you. I was feeling a little left out, since you didn't stop by before going back to Switzerland. Now you did so I am happy.

I can NEVER thank you enough. laugh


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I like Ender's Game..... smile


Married 1/2000.
D-Day 3/7/11. WH moved in with OW and they married in 2013.
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The pleasure's all mine... wink

One thing I did mean to ask you....

How are your mom and dad doing?

My mom filed for a divorce...well, actually, she came home from her annual winter trip to Florida, and came back and told Dad she was filing for a divorce and she wants to date...(yes, confirmation has been done on the fact that she was ALREADY dating.... MrRollieEyes). Anyway, whenever I think of you or my parents sitch, I think of yours. Have things improved for them any? Are they still muking through a recovery of sorts???

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My parents. boy oh boy is that a HUGE thing.

There was a night, a few months ago, where they got into a fight. My mom called the police. Since my mom had signed over the house to my dad when she was living with OM, the police escorted HER out. She was crazed that night, yelling about how my dad was having an affair with the lady across the street. It was a HUGE mess, but thankfully, I am disengaged enough that I heard about it the next day. My sister is more into drama, so she was there right away.

Now, my parents are still not happy. The euphoria has long gone. They are both arguing with each other. There was actually a time when I HATED going over there. I actually told me mom that after our 4th argument. She starts complaining about my dad, and makes digs. I won't listen to it without telling her that I don't agree or that she is wrong. Then, she gets in on me. Saying that I am a bad mom, my DS8 is going to hold a gun to my head one day and threaten to kill me, you know, the loving grandma things MrRollieEyes

I finally had enough and said, "I can't be this person for you. I can't be someone who you lash out at when you are feeling bad about your life. Find a friend, or a counselor, or talk to Sis. I am so angry with how this is going that I sometimes don't even want to be here with you." That was a few weeks ago, and she has been okay with me since, I just need to make sure I don't let it go again.

Oh, I am also quite certain that she still talks to OM. She gets so foggy sometimes and she brings OM up. I don't let it happen. I understand what everyone says about a wayward. I don't think of her as a FWS, because she didn't do any of the work.


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{{{Scotty}}}} I'm glad you're taking advantage of your option to only allow people in your life when they can behave in healthy ways.

Sorry, but it totally cracks me up about the whole house in your dad's name thing. Apparently that little technicality eluded your mom at the time.


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Then, she gets in on me. Saying that I am a bad mom, my DS8 is going to hold a gun to my head one day and threaten to kill me, you know, the loving grandma things MrRollieEyes

This is just so trashy.
Words fail me.

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That had to have come from somewhere within her own thoughts and experiences, for her to be able to project it on you. I wonder who she wants to threaten to kill, or whom she thinks may want to threaten to kill her?


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She sounds like a gem Scotty. A real gem.

Aren't you a lucky girl?


(you sure are one strong person with all the folk you must deal with around you!)

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(((((((((((((Scotty)))))))))))))))))


What would you do if you were not afraid?

"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.

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Thanx guys, it isn't needed but thank you.

I often wonder how I turned out the way that I did, with my parents the way that they are. My dad's not too bad though. And honestly, my mom, pre-wayward really was a good person. She had her faults, but nothing like the way she is now. She's still all ME ME ME. It's not great. I learned how to defend myself through them though. I am not always proud of what I do and say. I do bite my tongue.

My MIL came to my work today to drop off DS11's bday card(we have a postal strike here). It's funny that she just doesn't give it to Bampot. And we talked for a bit. Nothing about Bampot, except when she asked me where the boys where. All in all, it was okay. I just wish she would put pressure on her son. I never know what to say to her, because all I really want to say is, "I am disappointed." frown


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Originally Posted by Scotland
My parents. boy oh boy is that a HUGE thing.

There was a night, a few months ago, where they got into a fight. My mom called the police. Since my mom had signed over the house to my dad when she was living with OM, the police escorted HER out. She was crazed that night, yelling about how my dad was having an affair with the lady across the street. It was a HUGE mess, but thankfully, I am disengaged enough that I heard about it the next day. My sister is more into drama, so she was there right away.

Now, my parents are still not happy. The euphoria has long gone. They are both arguing with each other. There was actually a time when I HATED going over there. I actually told me mom that after our 4th argument. She starts complaining about my dad, and makes digs. I won't listen to it without telling her that I don't agree or that she is wrong. Then, she gets in on me. Saying that I am a bad mom, my DS8 is going to hold a gun to my head one day and threaten to kill me, you know, the loving grandma things MrRollieEyes

I finally had enough and said, "I can't be this person for you. I can't be someone who you lash out at when you are feeling bad about your life. Find a friend, or a counselor, or talk to Sis. I am so angry with how this is going that I sometimes don't even want to be here with you." That was a few weeks ago, and she has been okay with me since, I just need to make sure I don't let it go again.

Oh, I am also quite certain that she still talks to OM. She gets so foggy sometimes and she brings OM up. I don't let it happen. I understand what everyone says about a wayward. I don't think of her as a FWS, because she didn't do any of the work.

sigh

I'm truly sorry Scottie. I was hoping for a better update....

But sometimes, we don't always get what we wish for...

I'd say "Chin up"...but I think you are doing a wonderfully, classy job of that yourself.....

{{{{{{Scottie}}}}}}}}

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Thank you Not. I prob wouldn't have updated had you not asked but I almost did a few times.

It boils down to the fact that I believe that there is most likely still contact with OM. She's losing her job ob Friday as the company is going bankrupt. My dad is till too hurt and I believe he did Plan A too long and most likely should have done Plan B at minimum when I did. They don't spend enough time together and as far as I am concerned they haven't made good choices by trying other plans(mainly their own and ones of counselors who don't know a lick about helping people recover from an A). Sorry a mini rany about non-MB advice given to people to help recover their M.

I am really okay with other people picking their own ways of doing things but when they try to get me to defend myself over and over again about my choices. Argh. Also, I am going to do things to fix MY house and they seem to think that their ideas are right and I am wrong but it's my house :P hehehehehe


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Yesterday, I was speaking to a woman I work with. She recently came back to work after recovering from a heart attack. While she was recovering, she found out her husband was having an affair with an old GF. He was in the hospital having a liver transplant, he had liver cancer. Needless to say, this woman didn't go to the hospital for a few days. frown I felt so badly for her. I pointed her here. She had asked me before, when everything was happening with Bampot, about how to snoop. See, ALWAYS trust your gut. She said that she would have left him, but financially, she can't. I feel badly for her, but I hope to help her however I can.

Took the boys out to see Harry Potter today. I LOVED IT. I cried. Can't wait to see it again, and we will. laugh

Yesterday, when Bampot came to get DSx2, DS8 didn't close the porch door all of the way. I went out, intending to NOT look at Bampot, when I HEARD him. AHHHH. It was the first time in a LOOOOONNNNNGGGGG time since I had heard his voice, and the memories came flooding back. It's weird. I can see how ANY contact with an OP could set someone back. WOW.

Then, this morning, Bampot's phone texted the house phone twice. DS11 thought it was Bampot calling, so he answered, and then hung up. I thought that was kinda interesting. wink

Other than these minor happenings, life is just chugging along normally.


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I hope your work friend finds her way here too.

Keep on chuggin' lil sis. Just checking in on you and hope you and the kiddos are well.


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