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You go girl!!!!
G'night - I'm off to bed after 15 hours at work, I hope your night is uneventful and you have some good girlfriends around if you need them. Hugs to you!
Me: 30
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Together 5 years
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You go girl!!!!
G'night - I'm off to bed after 15 hours at work, I hope your night is uneventful and you have some good girlfriends around if you need them. Hugs to you! Thank you!!! Sweet dreams!!!
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Yay Starfish is in B land! Learn the 'dark arts' of NC, sleep deeply, eat healthily (cakes are healthy), pack your life with happy things and come on here for venting and virtual hugs....and to tell us what colour your toenails are today. Its a B thing.
What would you do if you were not afraid?
"Fear is the little death. Fear is the mind-killer" Frank Herbert.
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Crap!!! He went by our house first and figured out I had changed the locks, because my neighbor called me! He is at my mom's house now, so he will get the letter soon enough!
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He cried at my mom's when he read my letter. He had brought me flowers, because we had such a wonderful weekend together. Left the flowers with my mom and asked her to make sure I received them. He said he was in shock and didn't know what else he could tell me, as he has already told me everything. He said he had such a wonderful weekend with me and this was the first Monday that he actually felt good going to work. He is in total shock!
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This is going to be perhaps a more tricky part of Plan B...but ask your mom and anyone else who may speak to WH to NOT TELL you what he is saying/doing (crying).
Also anything that he asks them to pass along should be met with a "No, I am sorry but I cannot pass along any messages/gifts"...etc.
Hang in there, SF. You can do this. *hugs*
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Haven't been able to do anything about my phone yet. He just sent me the following text:
I'm in complete shock. I had the best day in weeks, thinking about you all day and how much fun I had this weekend, and now that was completely destroyed. I don't know what happened between yesterday and today. I don't know where to go from here.
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He cried at my mom's when he read my letter. He had brought me flowers, because we had such a wonderful weekend together. Left the flowers with my mom and asked her to make sure I received them. He said he was in shock and didn't know what else he could tell me, as he has already told me everything. He said he had such a wonderful weekend with me and this was the first Monday that he actually felt good going to work. He is in total shock! That is EXACTLY what you were trying to achieve. Now try to ensure you dont hear anything else about what he says or does!!! Easier once the Plan B dust settles. Is he blocked on all social networking sites? It gets very tempting to check FBetc if you dont. OW should be blocked too.
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What would you do if you were not afraid?
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He cried at my mom's when he read my letter. He had brought me flowers, because we had such a wonderful weekend together. Left the flowers with my mom and asked her to make sure I received them. He said he was in shock and didn't know what else he could tell me, as he has already told me everything. He said he had such a wonderful weekend with me and this was the first Monday that he actually felt good going to work. He is in total shock! That is EXACTLY what you were trying to achieve. Now try to ensure you dont hear anything else about what he says or does!!! Easier once the Plan B dust settles. Is he blocked on all social networking sites? It gets very tempting to check FBetc if you dont. OW should be blocked too. He deleted his Facebook. No other social networking sites...
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Text him back one time: please do not contact me until you have agreed to the terms in my letter.
Then don't contact him again.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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I'll try to get the phone stuff taken care of tomorrow. He sent me another text... Is this normal?
I know I broke your heart and if you were looking to break mine you have. I can it give you information I don't have. I'm not going to make things up. I feel this might be the end of us for good. At least we spent one last weekend together. I'll cherish that memory for the rest of my life. �Love, WS
Also, spoke to my MIL and she understands why I'm doing what I'm doing.
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Text him back one time: please do not contact me until you have agreed to the terms in my letter.
Then don't contact him again. Should I sign it at the end: Love, BS?
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That's good that you have MIL on your side, not a lot of BSs have ILs on their side.
One year becomes two, two years becomes five, five becomes ten and before you know it, you've wasted your whole life on a problem you can't solve. That's one way to spend your life. -rwinger
I will not spend my life this way.
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That's good that you have MIL on your side.
Have you got an IM? Yes, I have an IM from here...
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sf, please don't read anymore of his texts. Can you block him?
And has he read your letter yet? If so the IM needs to send him an email and say "please relay all pertinent information through me as starfish is deleting your communications without reading them. Thank you"
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Text him back one time: please do not contact me until you have agreed to the terms in my letter.
Then don't contact him again. To add to this, EXPECT him to text you again, but don't open it...delete immediately without reading. Star, you really do need to get this phone sitch rectified tomorrow. This is going to get worse before it gets better, and the darker you are, the faster the better comes. Check out Boost Mobile if you're not looking to get tied up into any long term contracts. I'm getting ready to switch to them myself as soon as my contract is up.
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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I really need to learn to type faster
Every man I meet is in some way my superior; and in that I can learn of him.
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Since you can't block him yet, turn the phone off, and then have a trusted friend turn it on for you tomorrow and delete the messages. You should NOT be seeing them.
Now, get yourself a new email addy, and don't use the other one. Blocking him won't be enough.
How else could he contact you?
Remember, for the time being, the most important thing you need to do is have ZERO contact with your WH.
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Please tell me how you all see this turning out..? Do you think he will hit bottom and come clean?
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