There are no one-on-one situations here and there are no posts that are hidden. All posts are available to be viewed and commented on by either gender.

PM's are disabled so no personal interaction can occur between members of the opposite sex. Email addresses are not permitted to be displayed so no member can inadvertently expose themselves to the possibility of unwanted attention. It's set up that way so posters can get the most help in a safe atmosphere.

Have you read any of the articles on this site? Talking in a forum such as this is a healthy example of good boundaries, not poor ones. An example of poor boundaries is talking to a co-worker of the opposite sex about personal marital issues. See the difference?

"working on" is code for "doing nothing."

One pretty good male has posted to you several times, in fact.

Reply to suggestion about W reading this thread. I quote: "You're still reading THAT??!?" and "No, I don't have the time or interest to read any threads on there."

Also, maritalbliss posted questions without having read the thread herself wherein are the answers to those questions.

Employer knows people have personal conversations in the workplace, doesn't bother himself with content. It's not like we talk about this stuff all day, we have work to do. It gets done. Employer happy.

Have a nice evening...

t/j: Darn it! My plan for "working on the gym schedule" is NOT working! Code has been compromised. end t/J.

This does not pass the *sniff test*

What ev. You don't know me or my W. When I started reading HNHN years ago (SHE gave it to me when we got M'd!), she read part of it with me, decided it was "male chauvanistic" and lost interest.

I've been working on trying to be a better H, meet her EN's (I guess since "working on" means "doing nothing" to you all, that doesn't mean anything to you) while her POV is that everything is "just fine". We've had our ups and downs, mostly ups (including now). I can't say that I've adopted MB principles with the religious fervor many in this forum have, but I see them as mostly true and certainly useful. The Love Bank is just a concept, a map into the reality of how American (or perhaps Western) M's work, but doesn't necessarily apply to all cultures, IMHO.

This thread has wandered far from my original question, though, which I feel was answered sufficiently to help me make the decision I did to butt out, so I don't see the need for me to continue it. If I feel the need to post about my own M, I'll start a new thread in the apropriate topic area. Meantime, peace y'all...